Re: ? 4 post ops

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e:

I wonder are we getting nervous because of the surgery or because of the new

life that lies ahead? Or both?

Jackie in De

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Jackie, Are you kidding IM a few weeks away and I have been waking up at 3:00

am with questions and just being excited, nervous, silly...My family wants to

know why I am smiling all the time! I am going to have plastic surgery from

stretching my face out with this smile..lol IM sure I have asked a hundred

questions and everyone has something different to say. Like STeve(cutie pie)

and His sweet wife , they had much different experiences and so each

one is valuable information because i know now what ever happens i can deal

with it. by the way did you guys know that Steve holds the record for

getting out of bed and walking around...20 minutes after surgery..YOU GO

HEMAN.lol Jackie if you need talk call, IM up these days..hehe

Yippee its just around the corner.

Trish Lanman

praying Dr. R. will help me to the other side soon!!!

Las Vegas NV

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In a message dated 5/16/2000 8:57:23 AM Eastern Daylight Time,

metrishal@... writes:

<< I am going to have plastic surgery from

stretching my face out with this smile. >>

Trish:

You are funny!! I am walking around smiling one minute thinking about what I

will look like a year from now and at other times I am scared and nervous all

rolled into one. I better break out my Rubbermaid containers as well as my

map because I think I am going to heave on my long car ride to Durham.

Jackie in DE

7 days and counting...

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In a message dated 5/16/2000 9:46:51 AM Eastern Daylight Time,

brisajama@... writes:

<<

You are funny!! I am walking around smiling one minute thinking about what I

will look like a year from now and at other times I am scared and nervous

all

rolled into one. I better break out my Rubbermaid containers as well as my

>>

Jackie, you and the Rubbermaid are to funny. I know exactly how you feel.

Although family does not. I have some very wonderful people on this list who

have been holding my hand and helping me along. I am truly grateful to all of

them and they know who they are **SMILE** see IM even typing with

*smiles*.lol Have a safe trip and a blessed surgery. Jackie all i can say

is yippee for you

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In a message dated 5/16/2000 8:35:15 AM Eastern Daylight Time,

brisajama@... writes:

<< it possible to get the doc to prescribe some kind of sedative to calm you

down after you arrive at the hospital? Because I keep thinking if I am this

nervous now-what am I going to be like the morning of?

>>

Hi Jackie,

Yes, I have heard of some people getting a little " cocktail " in the holding

room before surgery to calm them down. Make sure you ask for it!

in Raleigh

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In a message dated 5/16/2000 8:35:15 AM Eastern Daylight Time,

brisajama@... writes:

<< it possible to get the doc to prescribe some kind of sedative to calm you

down after you arrive at the hospital? Because I keep thinking if I am this

nervous now-what am I going to be like the morning of?

>>

Hi Jackie,

Yes, I have heard of some people getting a little " cocktail " in the holding

room before surgery to calm them down. Make sure you ask for it!

in Raleigh

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In a message dated 5/16/2000 10:10:49 AM Eastern Daylight Time,

Stjscuf123@... writes:

<< Yes, I have heard of some people getting a little " cocktail " in the

holding

room before surgery to calm them down. Make sure you ask for it! >>

,

Oh, thank you! thank you! thank you! A little cocktail is just what I will

need. Do I ask the nurses for it or Dr. R at the clinic visit? I am really

so out of touch with what goes on at a hospital.

Thank you,

Jackie in DE

7 days and counting...

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In a message dated 5/16/2000 9:58:49 AM Eastern Daylight Time,

metrishal@... writes:

<< yippee for you >>

Yippee right back at you babe!!

Jackie in DE

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In a message dated 5/16/2000 10:02:33 AM Eastern Daylight Time,

moonvi@... writes:

<< I had a " freak-out " tantrum right in front of ol' Doc

R's office. >>

Ginny:

I would have loved to have been there to see that! I wish I still had my mom

to talk to but she has been gone for over a year and my husband just says oh

you'll be fine. I think taking my sis-in-law will be good. She is a nurse

so I am sure she will be able to help. But I am also afraid she will

say-look if you don't want to do this you don't have to, let's go home. It

really helps to get advice from friends from this list. I don't know what I

would do without this great group of people. You guys are great!!

Jackie in DE

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In a message dated 5/16/2000 11:14:05 AM Eastern Daylight Time,

brisajama@... writes:

<<

to talk to but she has been gone for over a year and my husband just says oh

you'll be fine. I think taking my sis-in-law will be good. She is a nurse

>>

Jackie, if you get nervous take my toll free number and call me. I understand!

Trisha Lanman

praying Dr. R. will help me to the other side soon!!!

Las Vegas NV

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Dear Jackie:

Thanks for posting that about feeling nervous. My surgery is next Thursday

(5/25) and I'm finding myself getting very nervous, too. I am excited about the

benefits the surgery will bring, but I hate the idea of the anesthesia and the

thought of complications. I know I should " think positive " but it is hard --

and, you are right that when I am not busy I start thinking about it and I get

slightly anxious. I, too, would be interested in how others have dealt with

this, and what sorts of medications pre-surgery (like VALIUM!!!!) might be

available. It's weird -- I had sinus surgery last year and I don't remember

getting this nervous (although I did immediately preceding). However, I only

had about a week or two to " think about " it then, and I guess the time before

the MGB has been more like two months (since I made the decision, etc).

Post-ops and wise pre-ops please help us!! :-)

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> HELP

> Jackie in DE

> 7 days and counting...

Ah, dear Jackie, I would be more worried about you if you weren't

nervous. I was " distracting " myself in the weeks before I had my

surgery by adding another big stressor: buying a house. The day

before my surgery, I thought I was angry over not getting proper

instructions. I had a " freak-out " tantrum right in fromt of ol' Doc

R's office. Debbie, bless her, ran back to get the doc. He came out

and made me talk about my fears, including the big one - that I was

afraid that I would die. My recommendation to you is the same as his

was to me: talk about your fears to someone who cares about you.

Say

the words, get them out in the open. I also went to my Daily Word

and the word that day was " healing " and it talked about God's love in

relation to healing. I talked to my Momma for hours after that

little

(NOT!) breakdown. The next day, I was fine, calm as a cukecumber. I

was a little anxious but no more butterflies. Good luck to you,

sweetie.

-Ginny Ivanoff

mgb: 3/1/00

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> HELP

> Jackie in DE

> 7 days and counting...

Ah, dear Jackie, I would be more worried about you if you weren't

nervous. I was " distracting " myself in the weeks before I had my

surgery by adding another big stressor: buying a house. The day

before my surgery, I thought I was angry over not getting proper

instructions. I had a " freak-out " tantrum right in fromt of ol' Doc

R's office. Debbie, bless her, ran back to get the doc. He came out

and made me talk about my fears, including the big one - that I was

afraid that I would die. My recommendation to you is the same as his

was to me: talk about your fears to someone who cares about you.

Say

the words, get them out in the open. I also went to my Daily Word

and the word that day was " healing " and it talked about God's love in

relation to healing. I talked to my Momma for hours after that

little

(NOT!) breakdown. The next day, I was fine, calm as a cukecumber. I

was a little anxious but no more butterflies. Good luck to you,

sweetie.

-Ginny Ivanoff

mgb: 3/1/00

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> HELP

> Jackie in DE

> 7 days and counting...

Ah, dear Jackie, I would be more worried about you if you weren't

nervous. I was " distracting " myself in the weeks before I had my

surgery by adding another big stressor: buying a house. The day

before my surgery, I thought I was angry over not getting proper

instructions. I had a " freak-out " tantrum right in fromt of ol' Doc

R's office. Debbie, bless her, ran back to get the doc. He came out

and made me talk about my fears, including the big one - that I was

afraid that I would die. My recommendation to you is the same as his

was to me: talk about your fears to someone who cares about you.

Say

the words, get them out in the open. I also went to my Daily Word

and the word that day was " healing " and it talked about God's love in

relation to healing. I talked to my Momma for hours after that

little

(NOT!) breakdown. The next day, I was fine, calm as a cukecumber. I

was a little anxious but no more butterflies. Good luck to you,

sweetie.

-Ginny Ivanoff

mgb: 3/1/00

348/295

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Hi Jackie: I'm like you are...the nervous type about medical stuff. I'm not

nervous or apprehensive about anything else in my life...just medical stuff.

I hate medical stuff. Makes me feel like a side of beef on a hook in a

Chicago meatyard. LOL. When I had to have a colonoscopy I delayed it so long

that my Dr. refused to renew any of my prescriptions until I had it done. I

was awake all night the night before. My poor husband tried to soothe me but

I was just a wreck. Now that it's over...I can say I didn't like it but I

got through it and I'm going to have to have it again some day and I'll

survive.

Don't berate or beat yourself up because you're the scared and nervous type.

Some of us are...some of us aren't. I too have never had any medical

problems...I haven't been in the hospital other than for an xray since my

youngest was born nearly 29 years ago! I was a scared pregnant person

too....At one point I was such a wreck that my husband just finally said,

" Look Florence, that baby's in there and it's got to come out " ...such a big

help. My husband has had five back surgeries, hernia repairs, broken bones,

a triple bypass...yadda yadda yadda...so he's brave and I'm not.

I think it's ok that we're scared and nervous. We need to have a healthy

respect for what is a major step, medically and psychologically.

What helps me is to read what others say about having this done and the

positive that comes after. I sure don't want to lug this flab around anymore

so if this is what I gotta do, this is what I gotta do. (which means that

this fat is on there and it's gotta come off, lol) I'm doing the worst

possible scenario in my head thing...I'm otherwise healthy, so worst

secenario is I have a leak. It can be fixed...and if it hurts they will give

me pain relief. And if it hurts really bad I'll make a pain in the butt of

myself and get lots more meds...and keep myself out of it...and the

complication rate is very low; almost non-existent right now. We have a

very competent surgeon, we're going to a reputable medical facility, and

having a surgery that is way less than the thousands who have open roux en y

every year..they survive, so I will too...feeling any better Jackie?

Sometimes I think it's better to go with our fears than to fight them. It's

ok to be scared. It's ok to be nervous. That's just how we are Jackie and

if others are brave, that's great. I'm not.

Hugs Jackie and other Fraidy Cats

Flo in land

Re: ? 4 post ops

>Hi Deb:

>

>Glad to hear that you are doing so well. Maybe talking to all of you and

>listening to your great advice was just what I need! I am sure that part

of

>my problem is that I have never really had anything wrong with me. No

>surgeries to speak of. Just a spinal tap about 11 years ago. The only

thing

>I remember from that was throwing up for a week after it. And I was 2

months

>pregnant at the time. I do remember being very nervous on the 2 occasions

in

>which labor was induced. And everything turned out fine then so I will

just

>have to keep that in mind.

>

>Thanks again,

>Jackie in De

>6 days and counting...

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Jackie,

I was wondering the same thing myself.....I'm starting to get nervous, my

surgery date is May 26th, 10 days away. I'd be interested to know how some

of you all (post-ops) dealt with the anxiety preceding surgery??? Any

drugs??? any suggestions? Thanks.

Yikes!

Raleigh, NC

bmi=42

surgery date=May 26

? 4 post ops

>Hi All:

>I have a question for all who have went before me. Just how nervous did

you

>get the week preceding the surgery? I am trying to stay as busy as

possible,

>to keep me from dwelling on this but when I get a free minute and I think

>about it only being a week away I get butterflies like you wouldn't believe

>and I feel the urge to run to the bathroom (if you know what I mean). I am

>just getting very nervous, how did you guys deal with this? Am I normal?

Is

>it possible to get the doc to prescribe some kind of sedative to calm you

>down after you arrive at the hospital? Because I keep thinking if I am

this

>nervous now-what am I going to be like the morning of?

>

>HELP

>Jackie in DE

>7 days and counting...

>

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Jackie,

I can only tell you that I was not nervous only excited. I've had a number

of other surgeries which might have helped to alleviate any fears. The best

advice I can give is to pray. I'm a strong Christian who knows the power of

prayer and the peace it will bring when you know you are in God's will. Keep

yourself busy, spend time with family, pray and seek God's will and the peace

will come. I'm living proof.

8 days post op and never a second thought only excitement.

Deb in WY

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In a message dated 5/16/2000 11:04:49 AM Eastern Daylight Time,

brisajama@... writes:

<< ,

Oh, thank you! thank you! thank you! A little cocktail is just what I will

need. Do I ask the nurses for it or Dr. R at the clinic visit? I am really

so out of touch with what goes on at a hospital.

Thank you,

Jackie in DE

7 days and counting...

>>

Hi Jackie,

Sounds like Dr. R doesn't want anyone to be zonked out! However, a little

something to calm the nerves may work. You would still be alert and know that

you want the surgery, just a little less nervous. I do know that others have

had this little " cocktail " so it doesn't hurt to ask when you get to the

holding area.

in Raleigh

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In a message dated 5/16/2000 11:04:49 AM Eastern Daylight Time,

brisajama@... writes:

<< ,

Oh, thank you! thank you! thank you! A little cocktail is just what I will

need. Do I ask the nurses for it or Dr. R at the clinic visit? I am really

so out of touch with what goes on at a hospital.

Thank you,

Jackie in DE

7 days and counting...

>>

Hi Jackie,

Sounds like Dr. R doesn't want anyone to be zonked out! However, a little

something to calm the nerves may work. You would still be alert and know that

you want the surgery, just a little less nervous. I do know that others have

had this little " cocktail " so it doesn't hurt to ask when you get to the

holding area.

in Raleigh

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In a message dated 5/17/2000 9:39:54 AM Eastern Daylight Time,

Stjscuf123@... writes:

<< You would still be alert and know that

you want the surgery, just a little less nervous >>

Hi :

That is all I want is to be less nervous. I just want to be calm not zonked

out. I am trying to deal with all this anxiety through prayer and I will

just wait and see if I still need anything to calm my nerves the morning of.

Boy I hope I am not like Tonni and go last! I want to be first! ( or at

least in the morning! LOL) Why do I have to come from such a nervous, worry

wart of a family?

Thanks,

Jackie in DE

6 days and counting...

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The cocktail they gave me must have been a double or triple dose because last

thing I remember was the nurse telling me she was putting it in my IV. Next

thing I know I am outside of my room on the fifth floor. Man that was some

good stuff. LOL Liz

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Hi Deb:

Glad to hear that you are doing so well. Maybe talking to all of you and

listening to your great advice was just what I need! I am sure that part of

my problem is that I have never really had anything wrong with me. No

surgeries to speak of. Just a spinal tap about 11 years ago. The only thing

I remember from that was throwing up for a week after it. And I was 2 months

pregnant at the time. I do remember being very nervous on the 2 occasions in

which labor was induced. And everything turned out fine then so I will just

have to keep that in mind.

Thanks again,

Jackie in De

6 days and counting...

[Guest guest]

Thank You Jackie!!!!! I kept telling my litter, " I better not be

last!!!! " But YES, I was LAST!!! So now, it will never be forgotten!!!! I

guess that is why Dr.R decided to give me the special prize of being LAST!!!

He gave me an extra port hole!!! Don't fret if you are LAST, just keep

thinking, He saves the best for LAST!! I will admit, I did ask him while I

was in the holding area, " Are you tired?, Do you have big plans after

surgeries? Golf or anything. No need to be rushed! " He chuckled, and said

he was going to drink a soda, and would be right in. I told him, " sit back,

kick your feet up, and really ENJOY that soda so you will be a very happy

camper " He chuckled the whole way out of the room.

So even if you are last, just think, you don't have to stay at the hospital

as long as all those early birds!!!

Good Luck,

Tonni

LAST on 4/10/00

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Jackie,

In my mind, if you went through labor twice, I did too, and you will just

soar through this. Just lay there and hum or something. You aren't in the

holding area that long.

You'll do fine.

Tonni

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Oh, Flo, you are hysterical!! How could I not feel better after getting a

post from you!! I wish you were going to be at my clinic. You would surely

keep me laughing so hard I would probably forget why I was there. This

morning I had to run some errands and the whole time I was talking to God.

My mouth was just a goin'. I know anyone who saw me out on the road this

morning must have thought I was crazy. But it is really helping. Thanks

once again for allowing me to voice my fears. After we all have had our

surgeries all of us land gals should get together. ( I know I am in DE

but I still consider myself a land gal) What do you think Flo and Liz!

Jackie in DE

6 days and counting...