Re: HOW ARE YOU????????????????????

[Guest guest]

Hi Genz and Everyone,

Well, thanks for asking. Here's the news:

My family (hubby & 2 kids) and I travelled from Texas to NC for me to

have surgery on 4/17/00. At the clinic on 4/15, Dr. R. gave the news

of 's death. At that moment, I had an extremely strong

instinct to bolt.

When it was my turn to meet with Dr. R, I told him that I had doubts

about proceeding with the surgery. In an instant his response was to

not have it done and to give myself at least 6 months to see how I

would feel.

Even knowing I was not going to have the surgery, he proceeded to

spend at least a 1/2 hr. with my family answering all of our

questions. He never at any time tried to convince me to have the

surgery. He at all times had my best interests in mind. It was also

so clear how much pain he was in trying to cope with the loss of

. My son (age 7) sat on his lap and later said to me that he

thought the doctor was " great " . It's amazing how children have a

sixth sense about people. My husband and daughter thought he was

wonderful, too.

So, we spent a week at the beach in NC and then returned home on

Easter Sunday.

I've learned a lot on this website and have read so many stories and

have received so much encouragement.

As my weight has not caused any major health problems, I'm going to

try exercise and diet yet again. I'm just not ready to face the most

severe complication. I've joined a water aerobics class at work,

something I NEVER would have done before this website and learning

about obesity. I now frankly don't care who sees me in a bathing

suit, as long as I'm doing something for my health.

By the way, Genz, I have Prudential insurance and they were

WONDERFUL. So, be encouraged.

Best of luck and after you and Peggy get done, maybe we could still

meet at the juice bar at the Dallas Galleria or somewhere between

Dallas and Tyler so we can see Pat Eppler! Anyone else in the

Dallas area who would like to get together!

Best wishes,

Bern

>

> > Dear Pat,

> > My prayers are with you, your son and your families. I hope you

are

> > well. You've made it to 3 weeks post-op. Hope you've adjusted to

> > the

> > liquids,etc.

> > Sincerely,

> > Bernardine

> > , TX

> >

> >

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