Re: Subject: Update

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Vera,

I'm hanging in there, doing 1 day at a time. Have found a caregivers

support group that is beginning to help. Interesting that the man who

shares Warrens room's wife belongs to this group and we didn't meet until we

were at the home.

Warren isn't doing well and no one has a clue to whats going on, except he's

having mini strokes quite close together. His hospital visit and these have

really uprooted his mind and he is so confused its hard to try and talk to

him. Also he's still so weak and having lots of jerking and twitching in

his hands, arms and legs.

Our family is so separated that its hard for them to be here. We talk on

phone regularly, but its not like having them here. Our oldest stopped by

on the way back to Oregon the week before Warren got so ill. He knew them

and had a good visit.

Thanks for thinking of us,

mary S.

Update

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> Thank you all for your love and hugs and responses. They finally did the

> colonoscopy on Warren and found nothing. The Gastrenologist said " there is

> no more blood, and we couldn't see where it came from. " So who knows,

maybe

> just another trigger of this disease.

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> I have cried, and felt relief. I do think that this episode has made a big

> dent in his mental as well as physical being. Warren said he thought he

had

> gone out of his mind at times yesterday and was afraid he wouldn't be able

> to be with people, or know how to act with them. I tried to assure him

that

> all that had gone on in his mind was due to 1. the loss of blood - 3 pts

> they replaced, 2. the anethisia they used to do the proceedures (very

light

> accordig to Dr.) 4. being dehydrated and just feeling lousy AND that when

he

> got all the stuff out of him he would return to his nice normal self. (I

> sure hope so.) But to think he realized he wasn't acting normal really

> touched me.

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> When I left this evening, Dr said if all continues as it was, he could get

> out of the hospital. You know he's in a nursing home (really great, lots

of

> help, yards and pretty scenery, and they like him so much they named him

> King at Valentines day. I go everyday for at least a couple hours to keep

> him company. He is so very tied to me that when I can't go, he gets very

> upset. At any rate he'll be closer to me and hopefully things will settle

> down.

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> Sally, I can see the decline and try to be with him as much as possible.

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> I'm still very much a caregiver tho' not with him every moment.

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> Thanks again,

> S.

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