Guest guest Posted January 23, 2011 Report Share Posted January 23, 2011 Girlfriend-when I went in for my consult to get the toxic bags put in, in '06, the ps said to me, " have you had them since you were 3? " . Looking back I shouldve run then. I NEVER thought in a million yrs I'd be one to get sick from implants. I just thought yea! I'll finally have boobs! Now I look in the mirror some days...I can't wear makeup cause I've become allergic to EVERYTHING, or jewelry because metal makes my skin hot and red instantly. I'm underweight and my muscles have become flacid because I can't work out because I feel like I'm starving for oxygen all the time. so, I feel under pretty to say the least. I've lost so much hair from being ill. I look back at pics of me before I got implants and I would look all cute and done up...ALWAYS had a push up bra on, but dam I felt good and healthy. Am I mad implants aren't safe? I'm livid. It took away so much from me. Its so hard when you feel good to love your small chest-but honey, you made the right decision, I'm so happy for you. And you have a man that loves you for you. That is priceless. A lot of women yearn for that their whole lives. I read an article recently that they're discovering you can inject your own stem cells in your chest to grow your Own boobs...maybe that can be your answer one day but just be grateful you don't have a toxic load sitting on your heart and lungs! I am! I've had mine out since sept. And when I get down, I remind my self a few months ago I had to use a wheelchair cause my own legs couldn't hold me up. That's when I'm grateful for my small chest-just be lucky you won't have to go thru that. And don't beat yourself up when you see a vuluptous woman-i get what I call 'boob envy'. Ha. Its ridiculous. But we're all beautiful in our own way. Smile-its hard to be angry when you do Hugs, Bev Sent via BlackBerry by AT & T I get so mad! Does anyone get mad because implants aren't safe.? I wish they were and I could get them again . I had mine removed 6 months after I had them put in because I came across information like this website and it scared me. That was 6 years ago. I struggle with wanting them put back in all the time. My husband thinks I will be fine and I won't get sick but also says he loves me the way I am. I actually have a smaller chest than my friends 10 year old daughter. It is humiliating and hard to love myself this way. ------------------------------------ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 26, 2011 Report Share Posted January 26, 2011 Bev, Thanks so much for sharing. How did you know he didn't do a full capsulectomy? Have you had one since? Thanks- From: moodynomad@...Date: Wed, 26 Jan 2011 16:20:48 +0000Subject: Re: Re: I get so mad! Hey hun-yes I was as terrified as you. I didn't feel I could physically make it thru a surgery. But the pre op blood work only showed one minor blood level off so I got the ok-the rest I just put in God's hands. The only unexpected thing was I woke up with an oxygen mask on cuz they said my oxygen levels were low. No big deal. Honestly, it wasn't any worse than getting them in, and I didn't expect to live thru the surgery. Waking up was actually easier cuz I didn't have that heavy feeling on my chest. Our bodies can handle a lot as we've learned. as for the emotional side, just have someone who really loves u to take care of you for a few days. You'll be fine-your body will thank u when its over and you'll start to recover. Now the only thing I wasn't prepared for is how they looked. So don't freak out-they get better and will 'fluff up'. . I cried cuz I said I had 2 saggy pancakes on my chest. Lol. Now I can laugh, they look just as they used to. And as everyone knows, my ps told me he'd do a full capsulectomy but didn't so I took a dive in my health, but I'm climbing my way out of this pit...its not easy but I'm determined. We're fighters, you'll be fine. xo Bev Sent via BlackBerry by AT & T I get so mad! > > Does anyone get mad because implants aren't safe.? > I wish they were and I could get them again . I had mine removed 6 months after I had them put in because I came across information like this website and it scared me. > That was 6 years ago. I struggle with wanting them put back in all the time. My husband thinks I will be fine and I won't get sick but also says he loves me the way I am. I actually have a smaller chest than my friends 10 year old daughter. It is humiliating and hard to love myself this way. > > > > ------------------------------------ > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 26, 2011 Report Share Posted January 26, 2011 Yep so bizarre I actually remembered with my memory problems.. to tell everyone how ironic it is. Well not everyone cuz I don't want everyone to know about the implants. Oh yeah, and after he said "there is no evil here" I said "i think there is". And that is the last we both said to each other. From: moodynomad@...Date: Wed, 26 Jan 2011 16:34:34 +0000Subject: Re: Re: I get so mad! - that is So crazy about your ps...I don't wish that upon anyones family, but you have to wonder about karma sometimes! And the fact he said the 'evil' thing...Maybe someone was lookin out for you, who knows...that is really bizarre thou. Sending you healing wishes. Hang in there. ~bev Sent via BlackBerry by AT & T From: Lengyel <tracylengyel@...> Sender: Date: Wed, 26 Jan 2011 00:21:00 -0700 < > Reply Subject: RE: Re: I get so mad! , If these implants don't kill me, my anger will. Well both together I feel like I'm dying. You didn't have them in long enough to see how sick they make you.. THANK GOD!!!! Mine "look" great honestly, but they are ravishing my mind with confusion and mental problems, my soul with guilt of sin of vanity, my body with so many debilitating symptoms and health problems I'm afraid I won't make it through explantation!!! Actually my implant surgeon was hit by a car and died recently and the last thing he said to me during an explant consult was...."there is no evil here".. and I said nothing to him about spiritual issues but was thinking that. WOW. But, today after 3 horrid years of all of these feelings listed below and then some, (oh and my husband didn't believe at first they were making me sick and now has a hard time keeping up with doing what I can't do around the house because of this fight against them doing me in) I finally found an explant surgeon that I am praying I make the appt for explantation for. I am soooo scared I told him I wanted to pay for an overnighter after surgery to make sure I'm ok! Congrat,, you already got over that fear!!! How was your recovery? Do you breathe better now? I feel like someone is sitting on my chest all the time. Yes I'm mad!!! From: glory2glory1401@...Date: Tue, 25 Jan 2011 16:21:05 +0000Subject: Re: I get so mad! Hi ,I can relate to what you have written on several levels, but I've learned some secrets that have helped me to fight those mental battles and come out victorious--it has meant freedom! I no longer get mad because implants aren't safe. I understand what you are saying, and I'm sure that there are many others out there who long to have breast implants because they believe they will assist with feeling more feminine and complete. However, if you will let me, I'd like to share some thoughts that will demolish those feelings, or at least help deal with them in a positive way. You are quite lucky to have a man by your side who loves you the way you are. Hang on to that! I really, really want to help you to love yourself the way you are! Because I went through it, and learned that most of what I was believing was based on lies, rather than truth.So, it helps to start by identifying the lies that you are believing, or at least being willing to consider that they are lies. Once those are revealed, you can replace those lies with truths that will allow you to be free.Your letter didn't actually reveal why you wanted implants in the first place, so I will have to make some guesses, but I think I can come close since most of us felt the same way.1. We believed that having a smaller bosom makes us less attractive.2. We believed that having a large bosom had something to do with our feminine worth.3. We believed that what others thought about us and our figure was important.4. We believed, based on societal experience, that having larger breasts garners attention that is worth undergoing dangerous and expensive surgery.5. We believe that our happiness can be based on the size of our chest.6. We believe that we should be able to do whatever it takes to make our body what we want it to be.This may not be a complete list, but I'll start with those. Anytime those thoughts or beliefs crop up to make you start feeling awful about your experience with breast implants again, try to ask yourself why you believe that? Then answer with some truths:1. Attractiveness is nice, and we should be willing to keep ourselves as attractive as we can without making it an obsession. Attractiveness has nothing to do with the size of our breasts, and in fact, large breasts can detract from it. Small breasts can be very attractive, and can keep you looking very trim! 2. Our feminine worth is not based on our breasts. Feminine beauty starts on the inside, and radiates outward. The size of our breasts has nothing to do with our ability to reproduce, or anything else. Feminine attraction has to do with the state of the mind, and the most beautiful, feminine women are those who have confidence in who God has made them to be.3. When all is said and done, at the end of our life, what others thought of our figure won't matter one bit. It's about relationships and how we communicated and interacted with others that we love. It's a matter of the heart, not the body.4. What society thinks is worthy of attention is skewed! Any gossip magazine will prove that point. Again, in the end, all that will matter in your life is how you lived it; how kind you were, how loving you were, how giving you were....spending thousands of dollars on expensive and dangerous surgery is not a wise use of resources, and could be put to much better use.5. Our happiness is a state of mind, but what we really want is joy in all circumstances. We just want things to be going perfectly in our life. When we learn to prioritize what really matters, we CAN find joy and happiness. I personally found out the secret of contentment was having a relationship with God and basing my happiness on knowing that He loves me and cares for me. He's got it all under control. And every day is a gift, a new beginning, His mercies are new every morning. When I learned to get my eyes off of this world and what PEOPLE think, and learned to train them on God and what GOD thinks, all the crooked places became straight, and life took on new dimensions. I found real JOY. I have happiness. I no longer care what others think, and my happiness is not based on my body anymore! There are so many more important things in life!6. The body we have been given by God is perfect just the way He made it. I no longer want to change it, prod it, poke it, inject it, stretch it, or do anything to it that man has thought up as an "improvement." Sure, I want to take care of myself as best I can, but the truth for me was that trying to alter what God already created was futile if done purely for vanity's sake. Who am I going to honor with my body? God or man? I choose God, and that means accepting the "flaws" God gave me and recognizing that they are his workmanship on my life. It means respecting Him, and changing focus away from myself and onto doing things that matter, not obsessing over what my body looks like.Those are just my way of challenging the lies of society with truth in my life.I hope that they make sense and will help you with your own struggle....Life is short! There are so many things we can do to make life better! But I believe it works best when we get our eyes off of ourself, and onto others. When we die, what will they say about us? Surely, I hope they won't be saying anything about our breasts, because in the end, they really don't matter.Hugs,Patty>> Does anyone get mad because implants aren't safe.?> I wish they were and I could get them again . I had mine removed 6 months after I had them put in because I came across information like this website and it scared me. > That was 6 years ago. I struggle with wanting them put back in all the time. My husband thinks I will be fine and I won't get sick but also says he loves me the way I am. I actually have a smaller chest than my friends 10 year old daughter. It is humiliating and hard to love myself this way.> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 26, 2011 Report Share Posted January 26, 2011 - well when I went back to get my stitches out, I said to him, " you took out the full capsules right? " and he looked at me and said, " well i took out little strips of them so the skin would adhere and heal better.. " or some bs. And as i turned 10 shades of white and got teary eyed i said, " but you specifically said you'd take them all out " ...and he started to get all agitated and said, " i didn't even have to tell you , but i told you the truth and now you're all upset...don't WORRY, you'll be Fine.. " I left the office because he pretty much shooed me out after that and totally broke down to my husband in the hallway. i ended up going back about a month later to talk to him about giving me my $ back since i have to spend so much more money on getting better due to his laziness and he just ended up giving me an earful. He got so angry, i thought he was going to have a heart attack. he then compared me to a story of a lady who kept going back to her dr saying there was a cockroach in her ear....so the dr finally crushed up a roach behind her back and showed her, then she said, " well i think it laid eggs " .... I was so taken aback that he compared this off the wall story to my situation that I got intimidated and basically said nothing the whole time he went off. I did say to him thou, " i am NOT sick in my head " . As I said to , it was like trying to convince someone that the color yellow was blue. pompus jerk. (i have many other names for him but i'll keep it G rated) no i haven't had a capsulectomy since ....i don't have the $10000 More it would cost to have another surgery.. but i have found some great alternatives to getting the scar tissue dissolved. My holistic dr did light treatments on my breast tissue for the last 3 months and the once huge knots in each breast, are both now gone. My ps told me to just massage the nodules til they were gone...but that made me so so sick i can't even tell you. I am getting better thou...i must say. as negative and down as I get, there is improvement. my hope of having kids and maybe enjoying a cocktail again one day (ha ha) keeps me going. bev > > > > Girlfriend-when I went in for my consult to get the toxic bags put in, in '06, the ps said to me, " have you had them since you were 3? " . Looking back I shouldve run then. I NEVER thought in a million yrs I'd be one to get sick from implants. I just thought yea! I'll finally have boobs! Now I look in the mirror some days...I can't wear makeup cause I've become allergic to EVERYTHING, or jewelry because metal makes my skin hot and red instantly. I'm underweight and my muscles have become flacid because I can't work out because I feel like I'm starving for oxygen all the time. so, I feel under pretty to say the least. I've lost so much hair from being ill. I look back at pics of me before I got implants and I would look all cute and done up...ALWAYS had a push up bra on, but dam I felt good and healthy. Am I mad implants aren't safe? I'm livid. It took away so much from me. Its so hard when you feel good to love your small chest-but honey, you made the right decision, I'm so happy for you. And you have a man that loves you for you. That is priceless. A lot of women yearn for that their whole lives. > > I read an article recently that they're discovering you can inject your own stem cells in your chest to grow your Own boobs...maybe that can be your answer one day but just be grateful you don't have a toxic load sitting on your heart and lungs! I am! I've had mine out since sept. And when I get down, I remind my self a few months ago I had to use a wheelchair cause my own legs couldn't hold me up. That's when I'm grateful for my small chest-just be lucky you won't have to go thru that. And don't beat yourself up when you see a vuluptous woman-i get what I call 'boob envy'. Ha. Its ridiculous. But we're all beautiful in our own way. Smile-its hard to be angry when you do > > Hugs, > > Bev > > Sent via BlackBerry by AT & T > > > > I get so mad! > > > > Does anyone get mad because implants aren't safe.? > > I wish they were and I could get them again . I had mine removed 6 months after I had them put in because I came across information like this website and it scared me. > > That was 6 years ago. I struggle with wanting them put back in all the time. My husband thinks I will be fine and I won't get sick but also says he loves me the way I am. I actually have a smaller chest than my friends 10 year old daughter. It is humiliating and hard to love myself this way. > > > > > > > > ------------------------------------ > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 26, 2011 Report Share Posted January 26, 2011 gosh that gives me chills! yah the memory thing is so scary-my 2 worst ones were standing in the shower having No idea which faucet was hot and which cold, and the 2nd was while i was driving and turning a corner and my brain couldn't remember which was gas and break...thank goodness it's momentarily, some women on here have got lost in their own house! the things we go thru...your memory loss will get better as you heal > > > > Does anyone get mad because implants aren't safe.? > > I wish they were and I could get them again . I had mine removed 6 months after I had them put in because I came across information like this website and it scared me. > > That was 6 years ago. I struggle with wanting them put back in all the time. My husband thinks I will be fine and I won't get sick but also says he loves me the way I am. I actually have a smaller chest than my friends 10 year old daughter. It is humiliating and hard to love myself this way. > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 26, 2011 Report Share Posted January 26, 2011 You know my memory is horrible and it has been I think since implants but my husband says I had problems before. I know I did not. He just refuses to believe that there is any problem with the implants so I just told him we will not discuss it together.....I will do what I have to do!!!! Re: I get so mad! Hi , I can relate to what you have written on several levels, but I've learned some secrets that have helped me to fight those mental battles and come out victorious--it has meant freedom! I no longer get mad because implants aren't safe. I understand what you are saying, and I'm sure that there are many others out there who long to have breast implants because they believe they will assist with feeling more feminine and complete. However, if you will let me, I'd like to share some thoughts that will demolish those feelings, or at least help deal with them in a positive way. You are quite lucky to have a man by your side who loves you the way you are. Hang on to that! I really, really want to help you to love yourself the way you are! Because I went through it, and learned that most of what I was believing was based on lies, rather than truth. So, it helps to start by identifying the lies that you are believing, or at least being wi lling to consider that they are lies. Once those are revealed, you can replace those lies with truths that will allow you to be free. Your letter didn't actually reveal why you wanted implants in the first place, so I will have to make some guesses, but I think I can come close since most of us felt the same way. 1. We believed that having a smaller bosom makes us less attractive. 2. We believed that having a large bosom had something to do with our feminine worth. 3. We believed that what others thought about us and our figure was important. 4. We believed, based on societal experience, that having larger breasts garners attention that is worth undergoing dangerous and expensive surgery. 5. We believe that our happiness can be based on the size of our chest. 6. We believe that we should be able to do whatever it takes to make our body what we want it to be. This may not be a complete list, but I'll start with those. Anytim e those thoughts or beliefs crop up to make you start feeling awful about your experience with breast implants again, try to ask yourself why you believe that? Then answer with some truths: 1. Attractiveness is nice, and we should be willing to keep ourselves as attractive as we can without making it an obsession. Attractiveness has nothing to do with the size of our breasts, and in fact, large breasts can detract from it. Small breasts can be very attractive, and can keep you looking very trim! 2. Our feminine worth is not based on our breasts. Feminine beauty starts on the inside, and radiates outward. The size of our breasts has nothing to do with our ability to reproduce, or anything else. Feminine attraction has to do with the state of the mind, and the most beautiful, feminine women are those who have confidence in who God has made them to be. 3. When all is said and done, at the end of our life, what others thought of our figure won't matter one bit. It's about relationships and how we communicated and interacted with others that we love. It's a matter of the heart, not the body. 4. What society thinks is worthy of attention is skewed! Any gossip magazine will prove that point. Again, in the end, all that will matter in your life is how you lived it; how kind you were, how loving you were, how giving you were....spending thousands of dollars on expensive and dangerous surgery is not a wise use of resources, and could be put to much better use. 5. Our happiness is a state of mind, but what we really want is joy in all circumstances. We just want things to be going perfectly in our life. When we learn to prioritize what really matters, we CAN find joy and happiness. I personally found out the secret of contentment was having a relationship with God and basing my happiness on knowing that He loves me and cares for me. He's got it all under control. And every day is a gift, a new beginning, His mercies are new every morning. When I learned to get my eyes off of this world and what PEOPLE think, and learned to train them on God and what GOD thinks, all the crooked places became straight, and life took on new dimensions. I found real JOY. I have happiness. I no longer care what others think, and my happiness is not based on my body anymore! There are so many more important things in life! 6. The body we have been given by God is perfect just the way He made it. I no longer want to change it, prod it, poke it, inject it, stretch it, or do anything to it that man has thought up as an "improvement." Sure, I want to take care of myself as best I can, but the truth for me was that trying to alter what God already created was futile if done purely for vanity's sake. Who am I going to honor with my body? God or man? I choose God, and that means accepting the "flaws" God gave me and recognizing that they are his workmanship on my life. It means respecting Him, and changing focus away from myself and onto doing things that matter, not obsessing over what my body looks like. Those are just my way of challenging the lies of society with truth in my life. I hope that they make sense and will help you with your own struggle.... Life is short! There are so many things we can do to make life better! But I believe it works best when we get our eyes off of ourself, and onto others. When we die, what will they say about us? Surely, I hope they won't be saying anything about our breasts, because in the end, they really don't matter. Hugs, Patty > > Does anyone get mad because implants aren't safe.? > I wish they were and I could get them again . I had mine removed 6 months after I had them put in because I came across information like this website and it scared me. > That was 6 years ago. I struggle with wanting them put back in all the time. My husband thinks I will be fine and I won't get sick but also says he loves me the way I am. I actually have a smaller chest than my friends 10 year old daughter. It is humiliating and hard to love myself this way. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 26, 2011 Report Share Posted January 26, 2011 I'm so sorry. Its so hard, because we're immersed in this world of an amazing source of support and information and empathy from women who TotAlly understand what each of us is going thru on some level-i know some women have been dragged deeper than others...but people on the outside who don't know a thing about it, its like telling them about a talking white rabbit. Very frustrating. We do have to do what we need to to get better.. That's why I think the more women who open up and tell their story the better-let this information get out there so its main stream and not just a hush disease that women have to suffer behind closed doors with..Ok off my soap box for today. :]Hugs of supportBevSent via BlackBerry by AT&TFrom: Spunky7327@...Sender: Date: Wed, 26 Jan 2011 14:35:02 -0500< >Reply Subject: Re: Re: I get so mad!You know my memory is horrible and it has been I think since implants but my husband says I had problems before. I know I did not. He just refuses to believe that there is any problem with the implants so I just told him we will not discuss it together.....I will do what I have to do!!!! Re: I get so mad! Hi ,I can relate to what you have written on several levels, but I've learned some secrets that have helped me to fight those mental battles and come out victorious--it has meant freedom! I no longer get mad because implants aren't safe. I understand what you are saying, and I'm sure that there are many others out there who long to have breast implants because they believe they will assist with feeling more feminine and complete. However, if you will let me, I'd like to share some thoughts that will demolish those feelings, or at least help deal with them in a positive way. You are quite lucky to have a man by your side who loves you the way you are. Hang on to that! I really, really want to help you to love yourself the way you are! Because I went through it, and learned that most of what I was believing was based on lies, rather than truth.So, it helps to start by identifying the lies that you are believing, or at least being wi lling to consider that they are lies. Once those are revealed, you can replace those lies with truths that will allow you to be free.Your letter didn't actually reveal why you wanted implants in the first place, so I will have to make some guesses, but I think I can come close since most of us felt the same way.1. We believed that having a smaller bosom makes us less attractive.2. We believed that having a large bosom had something to do with our feminine worth.3. We believed that what others thought about us and our figure was important.4. We believed, based on societal experience, that having larger breasts garners attention that is worth undergoing dangerous and expensive surgery.5. We believe that our happiness can be based on the size of our chest.6. We believe that we should be able to do whatever it takes to make our body what we want it to be.This may not be a complete list, but I'll start with those. Anytim e those thoughts or beliefs crop up to make you start feeling awful about your experience with breast implants again, try to ask yourself why you believe that? Then answer with some truths:1. Attractiveness is nice, and we should be willing to keep ourselves as attractive as we can without making it an obsession. Attractiveness has nothing to do with the size of our breasts, and in fact, large breasts can detract from it. Small breasts can be very attractive, and can keep you looking very trim! 2. Our feminine worth is not based on our breasts. Feminine beauty starts on the inside, and radiates outward. The size of our breasts has nothing to do with our ability to reproduce, or anything else. Feminine attraction has to do with the state of the mind, and the most beautiful, feminine women are those who have confidence in who God has made them to be.3. When all is said and done, at the end of our life, what others thought of our figure won't matter one bit. It's about relationships and how we communicated and interacted with others that we love. It's a matter of the heart, not the body.4. What society thinks is worthy of attention is skewed! Any gossip magazine will prove that point. Again, in the end, all that will matter in your life is how you lived it; how kind you were, how loving you were, how giving you were....spending thousands of dollars on expensive and dangerous surgery is not a wise use of resources, and could be put to much better use.5. Our happiness is a state of mind, but what we really want is joy in all circumstances. We just want things to be going perfectly in our life. When we learn to prioritize what really matters, we CAN find joy and happiness. I personally found out the secret of contentment was having a relationship with God and basing my happiness on knowing that He loves me and cares for me. He's got it all under control. And every day is a gift, a new beginning, His mercies are new every morning. When I learned to get my eyes off of this world and what PEOPLE think, and learned to train them on God and what GOD thinks, all the crooked places became straight, and life took on new dimensions. I found real JOY. I have happiness. I no longer care what others think, and my happiness is not based on my body anymore! There are so many more important things in life!6. The body we have been given by God is perfect just the way He made it. I no longer want to change it, prod it, poke it, inject it, stretch it, or do anything to it that man has thought up as an "improvement." Sure, I want to take care of myself as best I can, but the truth for me was that trying to alter what God already created was futile if done purely for vanity's sake. Who am I going to honor with my body? God or man? I choose God, and that means accepting the "flaws" God gave me and recognizing that they are his workmanship on my life. It means respecting Him, and changing focus away from myself and onto doing things that matter, not obsessing over what my body looks like.Those are just my way of challenging the lies of society with truth in my life.I hope that they make sense and will help you with your own struggle....Life is short! There are so many things we can do to make life better! But I believe it works best when we get our eyes off of ourself, and onto others. When we die, what will they say about us? Surely, I hope they won't be saying anything about our breasts, because in the end, they really don't matter.Hugs,Patty>> Does anyone get mad because implants aren't safe.?> I wish they were and I could get them again . I had mine removed 6 months after I had them put in because I came across information like this website and it scared me. > That was 6 years ago. I struggle with wanting them put back in all the time. My husband thinks I will be fine and I won't get sick but also says he loves me the way I am. I actually have a smaller chest than my friends 10 year old daughter. It is humiliating and hard to love myself this way.> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 26, 2011 Report Share Posted January 26, 2011 I agree with you and this is why I feel the more stories we put out there, like on Ilena's site, Humantics Foundation, and on Gretchens, MyImplantStory, the better, even if we are shy and use just our first name, or even an alias name.......The stories need to be out there...... Anyone willing, write it, and Send it to Ilena and to Gretchen to put on their sites...... http://www.myimplantstory.com/ , Gretchen: boobtruth@... http://www.humanticsfoundation.com/ , Ilena: ilena.rose@... When the power of love overcomes the love of power the world will know peace. ~ Jimi Hendrix Re: I get so mad! Hi , I can relate to what you have written on several levels, but I've learned some secrets that have helped me to fight those mental battles and come out victorious--it has meant freedom! I no longer get mad because implants aren't safe. I understand what you are saying, and I'm sure that there are many others out there who long to have breast implants because they believe they will assist with feeling more feminine and complete. However, if you will let me, I'd like to share some thoughts that will demolish those feelings, or at least help deal with them in a positive way. You are quite lucky to have a man by your side who loves you the way you are. Hang on to that! I really, really want to help you to love yourself the way you are! Because I went through it, and learned that most of what I was believing was based on lies, rather than truth. So, it helps to start by identifying the lies that you are believing, or at least being wi lling to consider that they are lies. Once those are revealed, you can replace those lies with truths that will allow you to be free. Your letter didn't actually reveal why you wanted implants in the first place, so I will have to make some guesses, but I think I can come close since most of us felt the same way. 1. We believed that having a smaller bosom makes us less attractive. 2. We believed that having a large bosom had something to do with our feminine worth. 3. We believed that what others thought about us and our figure was important. 4. We believed, based on societal experience, that having larger breasts garners attention that is worth undergoing dangerous and expensive surgery. 5. We believe that our happiness can be based on the size of our chest. 6. We believe that we should be able to do whatever it takes to make our body what we want it to be. This may not be a complete list, but I'll start with those. Anytim e those thoughts or beliefs crop up to make you start feeling awful about your experience with breast implants again, try to ask yourself why you believe that? Then answer with some truths: 1. Attractiveness is nice, and we should be willing to keep ourselves as attractive as we can without making it an obsession. Attractiveness has nothing to do with the size of our breasts, and in fact, large breasts can detract from it. Small breasts can be very attractive, and can keep you looking very trim! 2. Our feminine worth is not based on our breasts. Feminine beauty starts on the inside, and radiates outward. The size of our breasts has nothing to do with our ability to reproduce, or anything else. Feminine attraction has to do with the state of the mind, and the most beautiful, feminine women are those who have confidence in who God has made them to be. 3. When all is said and done, at the end of our life, what others thought of our figure won't matter one bit. It's about relationships and how we communicated and interacted with others that we love. It's a matter of the heart, not the body. 4. What society thinks is worthy of attention is skewed! Any gossip magazine will prove that point. Again, in the end, all that will matter in your life is how you lived it; how kind you were, how loving you were, how giving you were....spending thousands of dollars on expensive and dangerous surgery is not a wise use of resources, and could be put to much better use. 5. Our happiness is a state of mind, but what we really want is joy in all circumstances. We just want things to be going perfectly in our life. When we learn to prioritize what really matters, we CAN find joy and happiness. I personally found out the secret of contentment was having a relationship with God and basing my happiness on knowing that He loves me and cares for me. He's got it all under control. And every day is a gift, a new beginning, His mercies are new every morning. When I learned to get my eyes off of this world and what PEOPLE think, and learned to train them on God and what GOD thinks, all the crooked places became straight, and life took on new dimensions. I found real JOY. I have happiness. I no longer care what others think, and my happiness is not based on my body anymore! There are so many more important things in life! 6. The body we have been given by God is perfect just the way He made it. I no longer want to change it, prod it, poke it, inject it, stretch it, or do anything to it that man has thought up as an "improvement." Sure, I want to take care of myself as best I can, but the truth for me was that trying to alter what God already created was futile if done purely for vanity's sake. Who am I going to honor with my body? God or man? I choose God, and that means accepting the "flaws" God gave me and recognizing that they are his workmanship on my life. It means respecting Him, and changing focus away from myself and onto doing things that matter, not obsessing over what my body looks like. Those are just my way of challenging the lies of society with truth in my life. I hope that they make sense and will help you with your own struggle.... Life is short! There are so many things we can do to make life better! But I believe it works best when we get our eyes off of ourself, and onto others. When we die, what will they say about us? Surely, I hope they won't be saying anything about our breasts, because in the end, they really don't matter. Hugs, Patty > > Does anyone get mad because implants aren't safe.? > I wish they were and I could get them again . I had mine removed 6 months after I had them put in because I came across information like this website and it scared me. > That was 6 years ago. I struggle with wanting them put back in all the time. My husband thinks I will be fine and I won't get sick but also says he loves me the way I am. I actually have a smaller chest than my friends 10 year old daughter. It is humiliating and hard to love myself this way. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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