Re: I have lost my mother

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Dear Krista

My sorrow for you mother's passing, but at last she's at peace. My thoughts

and prayers are with you and the family. Also thank you for letting us know

of your feelings.

S.

Re: I have lost my mother

> Krista: I am thinking of you at this time--it is hard to let go, but fond

> memories will help you in the future. Lou ReynoldsAt 10:43 PM

> 4/19/2002 +0000, you wrote:

> >Dear all

> >

> >Even though I am fairly new to this group(since February this year)

> >and don't know any of you personally, I feel it's appropiate to

> >finish the story of my mother here too. She died peacefully in her

> >sleep Wedensday night. We knew she was dying, but it came as a big

> >surprise that death was that near. I had visited her Wedensday

> >afternoon but she was sleeping most of the time and not really

> >responsive when she was awake. However when my sister came to see her

> >a couple of hours later she was awake and able to indicate yes and

> >no. The night before and that morning she had had terrible spasms,

> >which the nurses and caregivers had had a tough time getting under

> >control. This means that she had had quite a lot of anti-spasm

> >medicine and this probably affected her breathing.

> >

> >When my father went to bed at 11 o'clock she was sleeping peacefully,

> >her caregivers checked on her at 1 o'clock, she was still sleeping -

> >breathing normally they said. At 3.30 they came by again as they

> >always do at that time and they found her dead!!! She looked all

> >relaxed(which we think and hope means she didn't have any spasms when

> >she died). The weird thing is that my sister woke up(at her home) at

> >2 o'clock and the night after her death both my father and my sister

> >and my aunt woke up and couldn't sleep at 2 o'clock. Strange!!!!!

> >

> >We are all terribly sad and at the same time relieved that she

> >doesn't have to suffer anymore. The way she died was merciful, I am

> >glad that she didn't have to stuggle with death for days - she had

> >suffered enough the last 6 1/2 years. Even though she has not been

> >dead for 48 hours yet, the memories of what she was like and what she

> >looked like before MSA are coming back. Before her death I was afraid

> >that one only remembers the last years,(that of course brought the

> >family close together but these years were also a tough experience

> >for all of us -especially for my mother)the suffering and sorrow. But

> >to all of you out there, I can say that the happy memories come back

> >fast.

> >

> >My mother is still at home, her coffin is placed in " the best

> >parlour " with flowers and candles and will remain there until Tuesday

> >and the funeral. This might sound strange to some of you(and it is

> >not that common in Denmark either) but it was something people

> >did " in the days of old " and my father's wish. I think it has been

> >very therapeutic - even though she is gone she is still among us - if

> >you know what I mean. Today I actually sat next to her coffin crying

> >for a bit and it was a good feeling. (In Denmark it's not really

> >Spring yet and of course that is also one of the reasons why this has

> >been possible.)

> >

> >I am very grateful that I finally found this group(even though I wish

> >I had found it earlier) It has been such a relief to read about

> >personal experiences with MSA from a layman's point of view and not

> >only medical descriptions. I admire that many of you have such a

> >positive attitude when writing about MSA. I must admit that my

> >opinion is that this disease is the devil's work!!! I would be happy

> >to pass on experiences and advice to MSA patients from Denmark, so

> >feel free to refer them to me if anyone comes along. I think I might

> >send this internet address to the neurologist who diagnosed my

> >mother, then he can pass it on to future Danish MSA patients.

> >

> >Well, this message turned out to be a rather long one so I think I

> >will finish here!!!

> >

> > " Pools of sorrow, waves of joy

> >are drifting through my open mind,

> >possessing and caressing me. "

> > Lennon & McCartney

> >

> >Sincerely Krista Lauridsen, Denmark

> >

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