Friends

[Guest guest]

Is anyone experiencing a big change in the treatment of old friends

since weight loss???

In the beginning of my weight loss journey I had tremendous support and

encouragement from old friends. Now that I have almost reached my goal

after nearly 2 years, I am getting some strange reactions.

" Haven't you lost enough? " How much more will you lose? You can eat a

lot more food, now. You are smaller than me! What size are you?

You can wear a small??? Well, I wear a large, sigh.... "

I am so shocked. I thought they would be so proud of me. They do not

ask me to shop with them, any more. They are sitting with others when we

go to a group luncheon. I am not bragging to them but they hear others

come and tell me how nice I look and how much better I move. So I guess

they are getting tired of hearing the compliments. (I am not.)

Even my own dear sister is depressed because she is now the " biggest

sister " , her words. I was obese my whole life. She was thin. She is a

size large and I am a small or medium. She is really upset and doesn't

want to buy anything new. She really got ticked when I asked her if she

wanted some of my clothes that are too big.

This really hurts me. I love my new freedom. I can walk and breathe and

stand. I was using a scooter or canes before WLS. I wore a size 32. My

future was not good and my life was sad and boring. There are so many

things I can do now. I have made many new friends through my WLS

journey. I run a support group and I am a Bariatric Patient Advocate. I

have changed but I still love people, everyone. I want to be a good

friend to all.

Do you have any suggestions for me? Is this a unique problem to me?

Thanks, Sheila