Re: proud of me....

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In a message dated 7/2/2002 3:33:46 AM Pacific Standard Time,

datwell@... writes:

> The only person who was standing in my way was ME. *light bulb* I am my own

> worst enemy when it comes to taking care of myself... I AM RESPONSIBLE...

> and I find when I take care of me there is so much more of me to help take

> care of others who depend on me... *sigh*

>

> I'm 22 months post-op and I wonder if that " concept " will ever really

> " sink

> in " and just become a part of me or if it will always remain a conscious

> thought, a forced action, always having to remember to take care of

> myself...

>

> I also wonder if any one else has this " thing " going on where your

> constantly putting yourself on the back burner and saying.. I'll get to

> it... I'll get to it... and then you never do until you just " force "

> yourself -- and does it ever get to be a habit that comes naturally?

>

> Sorry if anyone gets this twice -- just means we're on the same lists

> ~smile~

>

> hugz,

> ~denise

>

Unfortunately this is normal stuff . . . I think we did in rebellion to the

label " the me generation. " Well, damn it if I don't take care of me, who

is??? I think that is a lesson we all need to learn in order to succeed

100% . . .We keep talking about food and exercise, and when you get right

with those things, you find out it never was about that in the first place.

No all our " stuff " isn't the same, just the results we got, meaning morbid

obesity. In my beloved 7 secrets they emphasize that weight is the symptom,

not the real problem. If you take care of the real problem, the symptom goes

away. If the real problem is there still what lies beaneath will always

surface, though post op it may do so to a lesser extent! I know for my

journey I had to face a dozen issues and they weren't as scary as I thought

they would be . . .And its true the weight problem went away and hasn't

treared its head . . now my concern when eating is my physical well being <

period>. It sounds like you are getting to the right place that you need to

in order to have the success you dreamed of! You should be proud . . .

) Vicki

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In a message dated 7/2/2002 6:53:37 AM Pacific Standard Time,

chrysalis@... writes:

> Vicki posted earlier about the common

> traits of successful folks that she has encountered....to that list of

> traits I would add, " Those who are successful have come to realize that

> ultimately it is up to them...to make good choices, to take responsibility,

> and to be diligent... " and this includes everything from vitamin supps,

> labs, and exercise to food choices. We really can't expect anyone eles to

> do

> it for us, and we should not blame them either when they don't...the

> responsibility lies within us.

>

> KC

>

>

Absolutely . . . BUT I do understand the frustration of being willing and

able and then not knowing what way to turn . . .

Again, its our responsibility to figure it out . . .

) Vicki

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Yes, so true.

The greatest thing about time, is that we build up such good habits

that they turn into rote. I really don't remember making my shakes

anymore. It is like I've become a robot. My husband says I make

them so fast he can barely keep up with what I'm doing. I don't even

think anymore. It's not even a conscious choice to make the shakes,

it's just something I do every day like breathing. I couldn't stop

even if I wanted to.

Same thing with my supps. I used to pop 5 or 6, go back here and

there. Now I get them all out and set them by my water. I take one

at a time, between bites of food, between sips of shake. I know what

order to take them and when to take them. I never have to " think "

about it.

Kind of scary, right? But dang, it gives me so much control. No

fighting demons. I wouldn't eat a piece of cake if it was dangling

in front of my face. I feel that the surgery is a tool, like a lot

of us. It is like going to a homesite and suddenly having all of the

proper equipment to build a home. The shakes are just one more

aspect of the tool. It is like having the equipment to build the

home, but also having the knowledge to KNOW how to build a home. The

training, the discipline. Control....oh, sweet control.

Felicia

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'99 lap RNY

> Good post, . So often we are " our own worst enemy " when it

comes to

> taking responsibility and taking time for ourselves. So many people

blame

> their weight gain or lack of exercise or wrong food choices

on " outside

> forces " when in truth NO ONE forces Little Debbies down our

throats, ties us

> to a chair to keep us from going for a walk, or otherwise sabotages

our

> efforts. We do that quite well on our own, thank you very much! I

think a

> lot of us have had that epiphany of " ultimately, I make the choices

and I

> reap the results " and some never do. Vicki posted earlier about the

common

> traits of successful folks that she has encountered....to that list

of

> traits I would add, " Those who are successful have come to realize

that

> ultimately it is up to them...to make good choices, to take

responsibility,

> and to be diligent... " and this includes everything from vitamin

supps,

> labs, and exercise to food choices. We really can't expect anyone

eles to do

> it for us, and we should not blame them either when they don't...the

> responsibility lies within us.

>

> KC

>

> << ... so I wanted to toot my own horn ~smile~ (but, thought

others

> might

> relate too) -- a few months back I quit going to my yoga classes

(the

> exercise of choice, that I love to do and don't really consider

exercise)

> Anyway, I excused myself due to " cost " due to " no one to watch my

kid " due

> to " summer schedule changes that have me taxing all over " due

to " PUTTING

> EVERYONE BEFORE MYSELF " and not even taking a few hours a week for

ME.>