Re: observation;

[Guest guest]

Aletta,

Very good! I printed this out. I guess I am going to have to have a

bigger desk before long! I just want to add one more. When my

children get down on theirselves I tell them.... God didn't make no

junk!

God Bless and Have a good day!

Belinda

- In shydrager@y..., aletta mes wrote:

> Maybe more pronounced in MSA'er and the like; to apologize for

things not

> needing apology.

> to doctors for 'wasting their time' on us

> for imposing on our loved ones with an illness

> for being sick

> being unemployed

> lacking energy

> not pulling our weight

> being sad

> not being sad enough

> not producing positives on medical tests

> living longer than expected

> not living long enough

> offending people's sensibilities with symptoms

> crying too much

> not crying at all

> And the care givers:

> for not doing enough

> for not being able to stop suffering and death

> for feeling angry and cheated

> for being tired and worn

> not being there all the time

> for being sad

> for being happy

> and so on...

>

> Shame on those who make us feel this way, and shame on us for

> complying. My crutch in regards to this is a quote of Florence

> Nightingale, who died after 20 years bedridden with a mystery

illness my

> supposed was malingering: " I neither give, nor take, excuses " . We

all get

> tired and cranky, its enough just to say we're tired and cranky, no

apology

> necessary. If the intent of what we say is interpreted as

offensive or

> hurtful, to say so is enough, no apology required. Apologies cut

off

> discussion and paths to understanding, not very useful, or kind.

So Brine,

> I'm yanking your chain, m'dear, havin' some fun on an otherwise

dreary day

> - my God-concept is not so shaky I can't have a little fun about

it. Look

> at us, you think god doesn't have a sense of humour?

>

> aletta mes, vancouver, bc canada

> http://www.aletta.0catch.com