Re: doing what the dr. tells you

[Guest guest]

Wanted to cross post this ...it's quite illuminating ... never thought of it

until I was *actually* typing it....Not sure how I feel right now...it brought

up alot of emotions ..

anyway ....Speaking from experience, I was much more sexually active and

sexually responsive when I was MO. Oddly enough, when I lost all my weight, I

didn't want ANYTHING to do with sex, much to my husband's dismay - he now had a

thin hot wife who he *wanted* to make love to, and I am so unresponsive... I

find myse;f sneaking into bed after he falls asleep, being careful to not wake

him up, for if I did, he'd roll over and grope me - asking for the acts for

which I had no desire ... still am perplexed by this on a *daily* basis. Being a

Nurse, I justify my not going to my PCP by saying that she has more important

patients to care for than a chick who is status-post WLS and had the nerve to

come to her office complaining of 21 months of low sex drive. I tend to self

diagnose - I'm good at it...Not sure of the pshysiology behind the sex drive

loss, but if I had to venture 2 guesses, they would be (1) my estrogen and

testosterone levels became totally doinked up by my starving nearly to death,

and even though they have leveled off, I still have not ovulated in 21 months

since my surgery......or (2) I used my sexuality pre-surg while MO to get

attention from men - but now that I'm thin and don't need to use sex as a tool,

I am left with nothing ... no desire, no emotion, no sex drive .....

Man that was deep...

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Subject: Re: Re: doing what the dr. tells you

Yeah, but who wants to have sex when you are depressed. I certainly never did.

I felt so unworthy and unsexy that it wasn't even funny. I would much rather be

happy with myself with no sex then depressed and possibly suicidal with no sex.

Lori O.

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On Mon, 19 Aug 2002 12:46:54 -0500 " K M " kmbryan@...>

writes:

I agree with you but remember that the side effects from some of these meds make

you lose your sex drive...and I don't know about you, but, for the first time in

my life being comfy in my own skin and allowing the lights to be on during

marital relations ,,,makes it hard to be sexy if the meds have zapped your sex

drive...just a thought...

KMB

[Guest guest]

Nurses are a different breed of folk ... we run to the Doc for major issues like

quarter-sized mole changes, pap smears, or broken bones...We curse those who run

to the Doc for sniffles and a smoking-indiced bronchitis, or in my case,

surgery-induced hypolibido....whilst applying " tincture of time " to cure them

all ..... I'd feel like a fool if I went to the Doc for such an issue. I

actually talked to my boss yesterday morning, and she suggested I that she'd

much rather see my symptoms as apposed to a broken toe which only needed

buddy-taping, Motrin, and tincture of time....but also added that Ishould have

my hormone levels drawn (duh!) as starvation can doink them up majorly (duh,

again!)

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Subject: Re: Re: doing what the dr. tells you

> Honey, RUN don't walk to your doctor! And you are a

> NURSE!!! You know better. If you can correct this

> with some hormone therapy, then go do it. This is a

> time that you should be rediscovering yourself and

> your sex life. Don't short change yourself now!

>

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> judy in austin

> 5'9 " of wild Texas redhead

> SRVG 5/99 380 lbs

> Ext. Abdominoplasty 5/00 180 lbs

> Current 165-170 lbs