Guest guest Posted October 22, 2002 Report Share Posted October 22, 2002 October 22, 2002 - Well, what an amazing year this has been. My surgery anniversary date was October 1. I started out at 336 lbs with a BMI of 51. As of today, I am 160 and my BMI is 23.6. Who would have ever thought! I am currently going to school full-time and am carrying a 4.0 average. Chemistry is fun and I am enjoying Psychology, Sociology, Algebra (yes, Algebra) and English Composition. Shopping is a blast. Can't afford new clothes so I frequent Thrift Shops at churches and hospital auxilaries. I started out a size 32W and am currently wearing a size 6/8 in tops and jackets and a size 10 in pants. A mom from my youngest sons school remarked " You have such small bone structure " . Wow! I used to say I was big boned. Amazing what is hiding under all that fat. People tell me I'm skinny. I don't see it. I guess I need to work on some body image stuff. It's a blast to see the reaction of people once they recognize my voice. It's even more shocking to people that never knew me when I was heavier and I pull out the " before " pictures. I am currently working through some issues with a spouse that has become verbally abusive again and extremely controlling. I need to get out of this toxic relationship once and for all. I am worth more than this. I have come to far to be put down and degraded. I am a grown woman that has to ask " permission " to sing in a church choir, or to go out of the driveway. I need to get out of this and I need to get out soon. I have 3 children that are disrespectful of me. My daughter has started to become physically abusive, walking by and kicking me. Screaming in my face. I don't need this anymore. I am being accused of having affairs. I have never, ever cheated on my husband. I would never cheat on my husband. And the last thing I want in my life is another man telling me what to do. I need to answer to myself now. Sorry about the negativity. Just be aware that relationships will change as the weight comes off. Be it better or worse, there will be a change. Well, I need to get back to my school work. Please keep me in your prayers. -- Cheryl in NY Open RNY - 10/1/01 336/160/140 Sizes - 30W/10/8 (I hope!) Yahoo Messenger - graphicslady AOL IM - cdhaywood12583 ~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^ ~^~^~^~^~^~ " You've got to work like you don't need the money, dance like nobody's atching, and love like it's never going to hurt. " __________________________________________________________________ The NEW Netscape 7.0 browser is now available. Upgrade now! http://channels.netscape.com/ns/browsers/download.jsp Get your own FREE, personal Netscape Mail account today at http://webmail.netscape.com/ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 22, 2002 Report Share Posted October 22, 2002 I just had to jump in here. I am proud of your accomplishments. You go girl. It sounds to me that you are realizing that hubby has his share of issues. Remember, they are his NOT yours. You are doing the right thing concentrating on yourself (probably - for once). As for the kids, you are the PARENT, don't let them bully you. Stay consistent with your parental control. Let them know that it is NOT acceptable to treat another human badly mentally or physically (especially the person that brings them into the world...MOM). Remember this, Today, Today, Today, that's all we have. Be firm in your beliefs & we're here for you. I know teenagers can be little monsters, I was one once too. I think it's the hormones. Janene West Haven, CT 8/30/01 297/191/?? 1 year anniversary update October 22, 2002 - Well, what an amazing year this has been. My surgery anniversary date was October 1. I started out at 336 lbs with a BMI of 51. As of today, I am 160 and my BMI is 23.6. Who would have ever thought! I am currently going to school full-time and am carrying a 4.0 average. Chemistry is fun and I am enjoying Psychology, Sociology, Algebra (yes, Algebra) and English Composition. Shopping is a blast. Can't afford new clothes so I frequent Thrift Shops at churches and hospital auxilaries. I started out a size 32W and am currently wearing a size 6/8 in tops and jackets and a size 10 in pants. A mom from my youngest sons school remarked " You have such small bone structure " . Wow! I used to say I was big boned. Amazing what is hiding under all that fat. People tell me I'm skinny. I don't see it. I guess I need to work on some body image stuff. It's a blast to see the reaction of people once they recognize my voice. It's even more shocking to people that never knew me when I was heavier and I pull out the " before " pictures. I am currently working through some issues with a spouse that has become verbally abusive again and extremely controlling. I need to get out of this toxic relationship once and for all. I am worth more than this. I have come to far to be put down and degraded. I am a grown woman that has to ask " permission " to sing in a church choir, or to go out of the driveway. I need to get out of this and I need to get out soon. I have 3 children that are disrespectful of me. My daughter has started to become physically abusive, walking by and kicking me. Screaming in my face. I don't need this anymore. I am being accused of having affairs. I have never, ever cheated on my husband. I would never cheat on my husband. And the last thing I want in my life is another man telling me what to do. I need to answer to myself now. Sorry about the negativity. Just be aware that relationships will change as the weight comes off. Be it better or worse, there will be a change. Well, I need to get back to my school work. Please keep me in your prayers. -- Cheryl in NY Open RNY - 10/1/01 336/160/140 Sizes - 30W/10/8 (I hope!) Yahoo Messenger - graphicslady AOL IM - cdhaywood12583 ~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^ ~^~^~^~^~^~ " You've got to work like you don't need the money, dance like nobody's atching, and love like it's never going to hurt. " __________________________________________________________________ The NEW Netscape 7.0 browser is now available. Upgrade now! http://channels.netscape.com/ns/browsers/download.jsp Get your own FREE, personal Netscape Mail account today at http://webmail.netscape.com/ Homepage: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Graduate-OSSG Unsubscribe: mailto:Graduate-OSSG-unsubscribe Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 22, 2002 Report Share Posted October 22, 2002 I just had to jump in here. I am proud of your accomplishments. You go girl. It sounds to me that you are realizing that hubby has his share of issues. Remember, they are his NOT yours. You are doing the right thing concentrating on yourself (probably - for once). As for the kids, you are the PARENT, don't let them bully you. Stay consistent with your parental control. Let them know that it is NOT acceptable to treat another human badly mentally or physically (especially the person that brings them into the world...MOM). Remember this, Today, Today, Today, that's all we have. Be firm in your beliefs & we're here for you. I know teenagers can be little monsters, I was one once too. I think it's the hormones. Janene West Haven, CT 8/30/01 297/191/?? 1 year anniversary update October 22, 2002 - Well, what an amazing year this has been. My surgery anniversary date was October 1. I started out at 336 lbs with a BMI of 51. As of today, I am 160 and my BMI is 23.6. Who would have ever thought! I am currently going to school full-time and am carrying a 4.0 average. Chemistry is fun and I am enjoying Psychology, Sociology, Algebra (yes, Algebra) and English Composition. Shopping is a blast. Can't afford new clothes so I frequent Thrift Shops at churches and hospital auxilaries. I started out a size 32W and am currently wearing a size 6/8 in tops and jackets and a size 10 in pants. A mom from my youngest sons school remarked " You have such small bone structure " . Wow! I used to say I was big boned. Amazing what is hiding under all that fat. People tell me I'm skinny. I don't see it. I guess I need to work on some body image stuff. It's a blast to see the reaction of people once they recognize my voice. It's even more shocking to people that never knew me when I was heavier and I pull out the " before " pictures. I am currently working through some issues with a spouse that has become verbally abusive again and extremely controlling. I need to get out of this toxic relationship once and for all. I am worth more than this. I have come to far to be put down and degraded. I am a grown woman that has to ask " permission " to sing in a church choir, or to go out of the driveway. I need to get out of this and I need to get out soon. I have 3 children that are disrespectful of me. My daughter has started to become physically abusive, walking by and kicking me. Screaming in my face. I don't need this anymore. I am being accused of having affairs. I have never, ever cheated on my husband. I would never cheat on my husband. And the last thing I want in my life is another man telling me what to do. I need to answer to myself now. Sorry about the negativity. Just be aware that relationships will change as the weight comes off. Be it better or worse, there will be a change. Well, I need to get back to my school work. Please keep me in your prayers. -- Cheryl in NY Open RNY - 10/1/01 336/160/140 Sizes - 30W/10/8 (I hope!) Yahoo Messenger - graphicslady AOL IM - cdhaywood12583 ~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^ ~^~^~^~^~^~ " You've got to work like you don't need the money, dance like nobody's atching, and love like it's never going to hurt. " __________________________________________________________________ The NEW Netscape 7.0 browser is now available. Upgrade now! http://channels.netscape.com/ns/browsers/download.jsp Get your own FREE, personal Netscape Mail account today at http://webmail.netscape.com/ Homepage: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Graduate-OSSG Unsubscribe: mailto:Graduate-OSSG-unsubscribe Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 22, 2002 Report Share Posted October 22, 2002 I just had to jump in here. I am proud of your accomplishments. You go girl. It sounds to me that you are realizing that hubby has his share of issues. Remember, they are his NOT yours. You are doing the right thing concentrating on yourself (probably - for once). As for the kids, you are the PARENT, don't let them bully you. Stay consistent with your parental control. Let them know that it is NOT acceptable to treat another human badly mentally or physically (especially the person that brings them into the world...MOM). Remember this, Today, Today, Today, that's all we have. Be firm in your beliefs & we're here for you. I know teenagers can be little monsters, I was one once too. I think it's the hormones. Janene West Haven, CT 8/30/01 297/191/?? 1 year anniversary update October 22, 2002 - Well, what an amazing year this has been. My surgery anniversary date was October 1. I started out at 336 lbs with a BMI of 51. As of today, I am 160 and my BMI is 23.6. Who would have ever thought! I am currently going to school full-time and am carrying a 4.0 average. Chemistry is fun and I am enjoying Psychology, Sociology, Algebra (yes, Algebra) and English Composition. Shopping is a blast. Can't afford new clothes so I frequent Thrift Shops at churches and hospital auxilaries. I started out a size 32W and am currently wearing a size 6/8 in tops and jackets and a size 10 in pants. A mom from my youngest sons school remarked " You have such small bone structure " . Wow! I used to say I was big boned. Amazing what is hiding under all that fat. People tell me I'm skinny. I don't see it. I guess I need to work on some body image stuff. It's a blast to see the reaction of people once they recognize my voice. It's even more shocking to people that never knew me when I was heavier and I pull out the " before " pictures. I am currently working through some issues with a spouse that has become verbally abusive again and extremely controlling. I need to get out of this toxic relationship once and for all. I am worth more than this. I have come to far to be put down and degraded. I am a grown woman that has to ask " permission " to sing in a church choir, or to go out of the driveway. I need to get out of this and I need to get out soon. I have 3 children that are disrespectful of me. My daughter has started to become physically abusive, walking by and kicking me. Screaming in my face. I don't need this anymore. I am being accused of having affairs. I have never, ever cheated on my husband. I would never cheat on my husband. And the last thing I want in my life is another man telling me what to do. I need to answer to myself now. Sorry about the negativity. Just be aware that relationships will change as the weight comes off. Be it better or worse, there will be a change. Well, I need to get back to my school work. Please keep me in your prayers. -- Cheryl in NY Open RNY - 10/1/01 336/160/140 Sizes - 30W/10/8 (I hope!) Yahoo Messenger - graphicslady AOL IM - cdhaywood12583 ~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^~^ ~^~^~^~^~^~ " You've got to work like you don't need the money, dance like nobody's atching, and love like it's never going to hurt. " __________________________________________________________________ The NEW Netscape 7.0 browser is now available. Upgrade now! http://channels.netscape.com/ns/browsers/download.jsp Get your own FREE, personal Netscape Mail account today at http://webmail.netscape.com/ Homepage: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Graduate-OSSG Unsubscribe: mailto:Graduate-OSSG-unsubscribe Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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