Changes in Mother

[Guest guest]

You have all been discussing changes in friends since surgery....I

have had a major problem with my mother.

I told my mother I was having the surgery and she said you are

absolutly not having it....well I am of age and told her it was my

decision. My mother is the type to research everything, so I thought

if she was educated about the surgery she would change her mind. I

gave her lots of websites to go to...she never researched it. She

had a friend who had the surgery years before that had gained all her

weight back. My mother wears a size 6 or 8 but has stuggled all her

life with her weight and has gone up to much larger sizes.

Now 2 1/2 years later, my mother has seen my weight loss. At one

point I was really proud of myself because I had finally fit into a

size 8, and told her I had just bought a size 8...she looked at me

and said you don't wear an 8...it really hurt my feelings. Now at 2

1/2 years post-op I have had a some re-gain. I told my mother that I

was trying to lose the weight I had gained...her comment was

that..that was how it had started for her friend and she gained it

all back.

Now every time I see my mother she makes some comment about what I am

eating...or you are eating too much...or are you exercising...because

you know it would really be a shame if you gained all that weight

back after everything you have been through. It's almost like she

wants to say I told you so.

So...with friend you walk away and find a better support

system...what do you do about your own mother?

Karla Hook

Dr. Provost

4/7/00

261/158 (want to get back down to 143 my lowest weight)