Re: dan : just two cents re old wounds

[Guest guest]

Good points and well put. Goes to show there's always another angle

to view these sort of things...but I've strayed WAAAAAAAY off topic

and some of the spin off's appear to be going militant. Yup, as I

creep up on the big 50, it's just one of those " review " type of

things; no answers on some issues...so, the knee jerk reaction of

indifference is one that could very well be discounted.

Interesting.

Thanks! I've crawled back out of that little pit...but if anyone

would take note with regards to the original intent of the thread...

it's very possible that the male side of a problem relationship is a

hidden sine wave of ups and downs. The Zipped Lip syndrome compounds

the problem and as the CP has succintly pointed out...appearances and

nuances can be deceiving....and unfortunately, smoldering.

C'est la vie.

Dan

rny10.13.98

EdWaits,MD-Atlanta

>

> In a message dated 10/16/02 8:08:19 PM, Graduate-OSSG@y... writes:

>

> << I'll never understand indifference. >>

>

> Its not indifference. It's pain, and protection, and lack of

healing. when

> you are completley healed you can talk to anyone about anything.

When people

> are silent, it is likely becuase they do not want to in any way

disturb the

> protective armor they have put around their wound. It' not you.

It's an

> interior issue. I am always touched by how, when peope are much

older or

> really old, they speak with such affection and regret and love for

their

> ex-spouses.

>

> no human is indiffferent, if they tell you they are, they are

lying.

> Indifference means to be unbiased. Peope are not unbiased. they are

not

> equipment or machinery. Even the most out of touch person still has

a spirit

> that feels and records everything, even if it is outside the

person's

> consciousness. I always laugh when journalists claim to be

obejctive. you

> cannot be objective and be human. But, you can be just, you can be

fair, you c

> an admit to your biases and do your best.

>

> But obejctive, indifferent, no such thing in my opinion.

> love,

> cp