Re: Predictable jerky spouse behavior..MALE POV

[Guest guest]

Ok,

I have to chime in here. Perhaps this is perverse,

perhaps I am

messed up in the head, but here is another twist in

the post wls

relationship experience that I just have to share.

I had WLS 3/22/01. I did it for me. I did not expect

my husband too

(though I secretly hoped he would). My husband has

been my

cheerleader, compliments me all of the time, is

awesome in so many

ways. Everyone's happy. Husband has WLS 11/8/01 and I

am praising him

and we are doing great - everyone is so proud etc.

THEN I stop losing

weight (I am at 166# 5'8 " ) and he doesnt, ok cool- he

has further to

go than I do....but he is getting DARN attractive

(current weight 255

6'0 " ), he never asks where I am going, never gets

jealous, no little

green monster has ever been seen behind those hazel

eyes. I, however,

have insecurities that have surfaced that rival any

guy I have ever

seen. I wonder, why would he stay with me? Am I a good

enough WIFE?

He married me when he was 410#. Did he just settle and

now will be

looking for someone better? I am supportive,

complimentary, honest,

monogomous etc and I know I am a good wife, but now

that we have both

changed so much I have insecurities and he doesn't.

WHY NOT? Why

isn't he worried I ask- why isn't he jealous? NO

FAIR!! So maybe I am

perverse for wishing my husband had just a tinge of

jealousy but why

is it that I am worried and he isn't?

Ahhhh the mind, such a twisted thing!

We have a great marraige, are best freinds, share

hobbies, are

supportive of each other and think alike on most

things, I couldn't

ask for a better partner/husband......so what's wrong

with ME???

Sincerely,

Latour

3/22/01 Lap BPD/DS

324/166 -158#

Chuck

11/8/01 Lap BPD/DS

410/255 -155#

http://www.picturetrail.com/gallery/view?username=llatour

[Guest guest]

Ok,

I have to chime in here. Perhaps this is perverse,

perhaps I am

messed up in the head, but here is another twist in

the post wls

relationship experience that I just have to share.

I had WLS 3/22/01. I did it for me. I did not expect

my husband too

(though I secretly hoped he would). My husband has

been my

cheerleader, compliments me all of the time, is

awesome in so many

ways. Everyone's happy. Husband has WLS 11/8/01 and I

am praising him

and we are doing great - everyone is so proud etc.

THEN I stop losing

weight (I am at 166# 5'8 " ) and he doesnt, ok cool- he

has further to

go than I do....but he is getting DARN attractive

(current weight 255

6'0 " ), he never asks where I am going, never gets

jealous, no little

green monster has ever been seen behind those hazel

eyes. I, however,

have insecurities that have surfaced that rival any

guy I have ever

seen. I wonder, why would he stay with me? Am I a good

enough WIFE?

He married me when he was 410#. Did he just settle and

now will be

looking for someone better? I am supportive,

complimentary, honest,

monogomous etc and I know I am a good wife, but now

that we have both

changed so much I have insecurities and he doesn't.

WHY NOT? Why

isn't he worried I ask- why isn't he jealous? NO

FAIR!! So maybe I am

perverse for wishing my husband had just a tinge of

jealousy but why

is it that I am worried and he isn't?

Ahhhh the mind, such a twisted thing!

We have a great marraige, are best freinds, share

hobbies, are

supportive of each other and think alike on most

things, I couldn't

ask for a better partner/husband......so what's wrong

with ME???

Sincerely,

Latour

3/22/01 Lap BPD/DS

324/166 -158#

Chuck

11/8/01 Lap BPD/DS

410/255 -155#

http://www.picturetrail.com/gallery/view?username=llatour