Re: RE : (MSA) : I NEED HUGS!!

[Guest guest]

Amy,

We all feel this way from time to time. It is like being on a roller coaster and we can't get off. I send a big hug and a prayer. Hang in there.

Close your eyes and think about a calming place - go there for 5 minutes in your mind. Take big deep breathes... Some days I find this is all that helps.

You are a wonderful person for all that you do. You are aloud to be frustrated sometimes. This just shows that you are human.

Again, I send a big hug....did you get it????

Joan

RE : (MSA) : I NEED HUGS!!

Hello Everyone! I feel as if I have disconnected from everyone! I have been reading the post trying to catch up. I thought things were turning around but like they always say--It always gets worse before it gets better! My prayers have been with you all, but I need some hugs and prayers! I feel as if well don't get me wrong- I Love my mama more than anything (other than my kids) but have you ever felt like Oh god here we go again--like dreading the day ahead! That sounds so terrible I can't believe I said that(typed). My step-dad is getting worse and worse-He asked me things like how can we keep mama from getting infections(UTI), or like the Hospital bed is better well things like that! But damn he doesn't even keep the charts and daily notetations anymore or even helps me with making sure (on a day that I may be there 1/2 day) that she is cathed 4 x a day! My sister??????????HA!!!!!!!!! Bad as ever-fixing up house and landscaping more and more but picking the things she likes and not even consulting w/ mama. It is suppose to be all about my mama right now but my step-dad always sides w/ my sister (as usual) and everything revolves around my sister-(which by the way we don't even speak or cross paths anymore-some family huh! My mama has no life anymore but like some of you said it is been way too long and she needs to have the say so and put a stop to things! Then I feel so guilty and bad for her like no one knows how she feels and she cannot stand up for herself! Like when the Hospital Bed came I worked all day long to fix the bedroom how mama wanted it and she came in went crazy and took the other bed apart and threw it outside! What a real ungrateful bitch----but so is he!!!!!!!!!!!! Mama told her 3 times along with me to leave it how it was but no- she really thinks that it is her house now and she is just riding the waves til mama is gone! (step-dad as well) People are so cruel and unfair to the point of sickness! I am going back to Doc on Thursday have some lab work done and a check-up! I just got over a UTI not long ago and also terrible sinus infection w/ earaches(eardrums are bowed out!) and bloddy nose and now it feels as if it is all back 2 x as worse! God forgive me for feeling this way right now! My mama and me are so close but I am feeling these awful feelings about my days! My husband and our kids are going to the beach June 1 and coming back on the 5th. My step-dad actually took a little time off so we could go! Free condo- just have to pay for food! That helps when you have two hungry 11 yr old boys, 9 yr old daughter, and also a 6 yr old daughter! If it wasn't for that the closest I would come to a beach would be the litter box(sand) water bowl, and a CD that plays ocean noise w/ supposable relaxation music! I just wanted to let everyone know I am back and wheeew thanks for letting me vent so much-it helps but like Annette,Vera,Barb, and others have said I wait until I have too much on me before I let it out! You all are great! I hope the day will come when I can get to meet everyone (in person) and Pam I would like to get more involved helping others I would really like to start a support group but maybe I need to chill for a little bit on that! I am long overdue a break but it breaks my heart to be away from my mama knowing what she will endure when I am not there!Love to you All!!!!!!!!Amy DeBuskWinston-SalemNorth Carolina (336)788-6110 If you do not wish to belong to shydrager, you may unsubscribe by sending a blank email to shydrager-unsubscribe

[Guest guest]

Dearest Amy,

My heart goes out to you and my hugs come to you via this message. I

can't wait to have the opportunity to meet you. I will be in

Greensboro this August and will save many hugs for you. Hang in

there, take a few deep breaths and know you are in our prayers.

See you in a couple months. Looking forward to getting to know you.

Jan ((((((( ))))))))

> Hello Everyone!

>

> I feel as if I have disconnected from everyone! I have been

reading the

> post trying to catch up. I thought things were turning around but

like they

> always say--It always gets worse before it gets better! My prayers

have been

> with you all, but I need some hugs and prayers! I feel as if well

don't get

> me wrong- I Love my mama more than anything (other than my kids)

but have you

> ever felt like Oh god here we go again--like dreading the day

ahead! That

> sounds so terrible I can't believe I said that(typed). My step-dad

is getting

> worse and worse-He asked me things like how can we keep mama from

getting

> infections(UTI), or like the Hospital bed is better well things

like that!

> But damn he doesn't even keep the charts and daily notetations

anymore or

> even helps me with making sure (on a day that I may be there 1/2

day) that

> she is cathed 4 x a day! My sister??????????HA!!!!!!!!! Bad as ever-

fixing up

> house and landscaping more and more but picking the things she

likes and not

> even consulting w/ mama. It is suppose to be all about my mama

right now but

> my step-dad always sides w/ my sister (as usual) and everything

revolves

> around my sister-(which by the way we don't even speak or cross

paths

> anymore-some family huh! My mama has no life anymore but like some

of you

> said it is been way too long and she needs to have the say so and

put a stop

> to things! Then I feel so guilty and bad for her like no one knows

how she

> feels and she cannot stand up for herself! Like when the Hospital

Bed came I

> worked all day long to fix the bedroom how mama wanted it and she

came in

> went crazy and took the other bed apart and threw it outside! What

a real

> ungrateful bitch----but so is he!!!!!!!!!!!! Mama told her 3 times

along with

> me to leave it how it was but no- she really thinks that it is her

house now

> and she is just riding the waves til mama is gone! (step-dad as

well) People

> are so cruel and unfair to the point of sickness! I am going back

to Doc on

> Thursday have some lab work done and a check-up! I just got over a

UTI not

> long ago and also terrible sinus infection w/ earaches(eardrums are

bowed

> out!) and bloddy nose and now it feels as if it is all back 2 x as

worse! God

> forgive me for feeling this way right now! My mama and me are so

close but I

> am feeling these awful feelings about my days! My husband and our

kids are

> going to the beach June 1 and coming back on the 5th. My step-dad

actually

> took a little time off so we could go! Free condo- just have to pay

for food!

> That helps when you have two hungry 11 yr old boys, 9 yr old

daughter, and

> also a 6 yr old daughter! If it wasn't for that the closest I

would come to

> a beach would be the litter box(sand) water bowl, and a CD that

plays ocean

> noise w/ supposable relaxation music! I just wanted to let everyone

know I am

> back and wheeew thanks for letting me vent so much-it helps but

like

> Annette,Vera,Barb, and others have said I wait until I have too

much on me

> before I let it out! You all are great! I hope the day will come

when I can

> get to meet everyone (in person) and Pam I would like to get more

involved

> helping others I would really like to start a support group but

maybe I need

> to chill for a little bit on that! I am long overdue a break but it

breaks my

> heart to be away from my mama knowing what she will endure when I

am not

> there!

>

> Love to you All!!!!!!!!

> Amy DeBusk

> Winston-Salem

> North Carolina (336)788-6110

[Guest guest]

Dear Dear Amy,

I am so sorry that you are having it so hard lately. I know that it

is hard enough taking care of your mother and your family especially

when you have 4 children without having to fight other family

members. It has always suprised me how children can be raised by the

same parents but be totally different. It always seems like there is

someone caring and someone else with their hand out. Usually the one

who has had everything given and done for them are the ones with

their hand out. I know its hard but it sounds like if it wasn't for

you your mother would suffer greatly and I know you are too caring

and loving for that to happen. I know it is hard to ignore your

stepdad and sister also. Have a good time at the ocean. You need it!

Don't feel bad about it. Your mother will be ok while you are gone.

It isn't like you are leaving for a long time. Forget your troubles

and enjoy yourself! I have 4 children also and know how expensive

just raising kids are let alone take them on a vacation. What a

wonderful opportunity for you all. I guarantee you when you get back

it all will be waiting for you. I will pray for you.

God bless,

Belinda

> Hello Everyone!

>

> I feel as if I have disconnected from everyone! I have been

reading the

> post trying to catch up. I thought things were turning around but

like they

> always say--It always gets worse before it gets better! My prayers

have been

> with you all, but I need some hugs and prayers! I feel as if well

don't get

> me wrong- I Love my mama more than anything (other than my kids)

but have you

> ever felt like Oh god here we go again--like dreading the day

ahead! That

> sounds so terrible I can't believe I said that(typed). My step-dad

is getting

> worse and worse-He asked me things like how can we keep mama from

getting

> infections(UTI), or like the Hospital bed is better well things

like that!

> But damn he doesn't even keep the charts and daily notetations

anymore or

> even helps me with making sure (on a day that I may be there 1/2

day) that

> she is cathed 4 x a day! My sister??????????HA!!!!!!!!! Bad as ever-

fixing up

> house and landscaping more and more but picking the things she

likes and not

> even consulting w/ mama. It is suppose to be all about my mama

right now but

> my step-dad always sides w/ my sister (as usual) and everything

revolves

> around my sister-(which by the way we don't even speak or cross

paths

> anymore-some family huh! My mama has no life anymore but like some

of you

> said it is been way too long and she needs to have the say so and

put a stop

> to things! Then I feel so guilty and bad for her like no one knows

how she

> feels and she cannot stand up for herself! Like when the Hospital

Bed came I

> worked all day long to fix the bedroom how mama wanted it and she

came in

> went crazy and took the other bed apart and threw it outside! What

a real

> ungrateful bitch----but so is he!!!!!!!!!!!! Mama told her 3 times

along with

> me to leave it how it was but no- she really thinks that it is her

house now

> and she is just riding the waves til mama is gone! (step-dad as

well) People

> are so cruel and unfair to the point of sickness! I am going back

to Doc on

> Thursday have some lab work done and a check-up! I just got over a

UTI not

> long ago and also terrible sinus infection w/ earaches(eardrums are

bowed

> out!) and bloddy nose and now it feels as if it is all back 2 x as

worse! God

> forgive me for feeling this way right now! My mama and me are so

close but I

> am feeling these awful feelings about my days! My husband and our

kids are

> going to the beach June 1 and coming back on the 5th. My step-dad

actually

> took a little time off so we could go! Free condo- just have to pay

for food!

> That helps when you have two hungry 11 yr old boys, 9 yr old

daughter, and

> also a 6 yr old daughter! If it wasn't for that the closest I

would come to

> a beach would be the litter box(sand) water bowl, and a CD that

plays ocean

> noise w/ supposable relaxation music! I just wanted to let everyone

know I am

> back and wheeew thanks for letting me vent so much-it helps but

like

> Annette,Vera,Barb, and others have said I wait until I have too

much on me

> before I let it out! You all are great! I hope the day will come

when I can

> get to meet everyone (in person) and Pam I would like to get more

involved

> helping others I would really like to start a support group but

maybe I need

> to chill for a little bit on that! I am long overdue a break but it

breaks my

> heart to be away from my mama knowing what she will endure when I

am not

> there!

>

> Love to you All!!!!!!!!

> Amy DeBusk

> Winston-Salem

> North Carolina (336)788-6110

[Guest guest]

Nothing takes more out of you than acknowledging when enough

is enough. You're dangerously close to becoming a doormat (I've

been there), 120% is enough! Stop and enjoy the beach. Now

close your eyes and enjoy the ((((huggs)))). Next time don't wait

so long to say uncle.

At Tuesday 5/21/02 08:02 PM, you wrote:

Hello

Everyone!

I feel as if I have disconnected from everyone! I have

been reading the post trying to catch up. I thought things were

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[Guest guest]

Amy,

I wish a cyber hug was as good as the real thing. If you want to run away from home and have a place to scream, cry, yell and laugh, please know that you are always welcome to come here and visit and me. We are just a little over an hour away down here in Charlotte. Please consider it at least.

I hope things improve soon and you get that much deserved breath of fresh air. Know that we are both thinking about you and praying for you.

Deborah Setzer in Charlotte

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