Re:Vera> Deborah.>caretakers-sick

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Vera,

You are right. I know that we do give the caretakers a fit. I also

know that it is hard job to be a caretaker. You didn't sign up to be

a caretaker anymore than we signed up to be sick. I know that

sometimes it's hard for either side to see the other side of things.

I think the caretakers in this group does a very good job of it

though. I have never heard anyone in this group complain about being

the caregiver even though I know you all could start your own group

in the complaint department if you wanted to! LOL Don't even think

about it we are on to you! HEHEHEHEHE So to the caretakers: We love

you, We thank you, And We don't know what we would do if we didn't

have you! We will try to make your job easier but don't hold us to it

because we still have alot of spirit left in us that if we give up

you know that we don't have much longer to be with you.

God bless us all,

Belinda

> Deborah:

> I know that Fred is trying to stay on top of this illness by doing

things,

> but my job as a caregiver is to help him keep from hurting

himself . Now I

> know his trying to fight this, That's what I'm trying to help him

do also,

> but when he does things like try to climb a ladder and he know's

his balance

> is bad and falls , hit's his head and then try's to climb the

ladder again

> the next day, well that's where I have to put my foot down and

believe me

> that isn't easy because I haven't big feet. It's not good for Fred

to keep

> hitting his head the way he has. His had three good hit's on the

head this

> last week. Then it's not an easy job being a caregiver like you

said. I know

> your right , you have to fight this illness and stay one step in

front of it,

> but can't the steps be a safe one , without hurting yourself ?

Believe me it

> would be less stress for the caregiver. You don't know how our

heart's go

> into our throat when we see you fall and get hurt.Talk about B/P

going up.

>

> I'm going to bed now and dream of your vacation. It sound's like a

dream come

> true. Come to think about it , being suffed in Bill suitcase and

going to the

> land of Oz does to. Boy some of us are sure lucky.

>

> Only in my dreams )

> Vera

>

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> Subject: Re: Vera

>

> Vera,

>

> I don't think he will ever learn and in a way, you don't really

want him

> too if you think about it. He is still fighting in whatever way he

can to

> stay above this disease, like me.

>

> There, since you don't know which posts to respond to, I put your

name in

> the subject line...lol...

>

> & I had a nice 2 days in Myrtle Beach. Only one mishap. We

had a

> suite with a bedroom, small hallway then a living room. The living

room had

> a view over the ocean. We opened up the window late in the evening

night

> before last so that we could hear the waves. I feel asleep on the

murphy

> bed and did not want to disturb me so when he got tired he

went into

> the other room and went to sleep. I woke during the night, did not

know

> where I was, got out of bed, hit a few walls walking to the

restroom, fell

> on the door, jammed it into the kitchen cabinets and then fell and

hit my

> head. slept through all of this. By the time I got to the

bed he

> was sleeping in I was fit to be tied. Poor man, trying to let me

sleep and

> all he gets is " Didn't you think I would be disoriented, " " Didn't

you hear

> me fall, " Didn't you this, didn't you that " ... well, poor darlin'

it's

> tough being the caregiver. The worse part is that now that I have a

little

> hair, it is sticking straight out on 3 sides so I look like a

chimpanzee and

> this makes it all the more difficult for anyone to take me

seriously when

> talking. He is a sweetie and we survived abate a bruise on my head.

>

> Hugs,

> Deborah aka Tenacity

>

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