MOTHER

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In a message dated 9/23/02 4:24:06 PM, Graduate-OSSG writes:

<< It's almost like she

wants to say I told you so.

>>

sit down with your mom, you are old enough now to talk to her this way. Some

mothers JUST DON " T KNOW HOW TO BE with their older children who are grown.

Tell her you want her love and not her advice, that these are different from

each other. love is, so happy to see you, how are you my darling, oh you

look pretty today, I hope life is going well for you...I am proud of

you...(the message is she is glad to see you, that you are her beloved child,

that you are okay with her)

Advice is, don't eat that, watch out for this and look out for that, and I

think you're losing it, and you have to be careful , and here let me educate

you, and I am just rying to help you, etc. (the message is not really meant

to say you are a dimwit, it just comes across that way.)

I pray your mother for having such a fine child /grown c=woman as you will

find it in her heart to be loving instead of being " on guard. " Being vigilant

was required when you were little. Onlly love is required now.

If you want me to speak to you mother, " mother to mother of grown children, i

will... (grin)

But I bet you can do it well...

hang in there, mothers have to learn to let go of the grown children over and

over again...

love,

ceep