RE: what to say to Nosy s ?

[Guest guest]

I have a slightly different problem than the Nosy ....

I have always been very up-front about how I lost weight, I feel that WLS

has always had a bad rap, and I take any opportunity to " set the record

straight " and will answer questions from just about anyone about it. I've

been on TV three times and the newspaper has also done a story on my

story....

That said, I am now 3+ years out, and I'm trying to move on....I feel like

I've " done my part " and I'm tired of it all being about my surgery. Now I

don't tell everyone I meet about it, and offer information only if I feel it

might be helpful.

My problem is one woman in my office who has heard about my surgery, has

seen my pics...all well and good, and I've shown them and answered her

questions...but now, every single week when we get together as a group to

have our sales meeting, she watches me eat (most of the time we have muffins

or breakfast tacos) and she asks me questions (in front of everyone) about

the surgery, my eating habits, etc. The first few weeks....ok, I'll

answer...but now can't we talk about something else? I don't really want to

be " friends " with her, we have little in common except the fact that we work

in the same office, and I generally only see her at the meetings. I'm tired

of all her questions and the fact that her only interest in my life appears

to be my medical history and my " diet " or lack thereof. How do I politely

tell her that there is more to " me " than my WLS, and her questions are

tiresome? Again, she does this in front of other people and I don't want to

be rude or embarrass her, but I don't care to continue to satisfy her

curiosity at every meeting.

KC

[Guest guest]

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I'd try being nice, once! Talk to her privately and tell her that it makes you

uncomfortable that she seems to focus on this issue, and you'd appreciate her

not bringing it up again. If she does it after that, then I would probably

respond in a way to embarass her in front of the group (I guess I'm really not a

nice person deep down ). Something to the effect of " XXXX, you really need

to find another hobby than watching me eat / asking about my diet / monitoring

my health/ etc. "

Kate

[Guest guest]

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I'd try being nice, once! Talk to her privately and tell her that it makes you

uncomfortable that she seems to focus on this issue, and you'd appreciate her

not bringing it up again. If she does it after that, then I would probably

respond in a way to embarass her in front of the group (I guess I'm really not a

nice person deep down ). Something to the effect of " XXXX, you really need

to find another hobby than watching me eat / asking about my diet / monitoring

my health/ etc. "

Kate

[Guest guest]

I always handle situations like this with a joke and a

smile. Since she choses to address these issues

publicly and in a work meeting environment, she is

opening herself up to a " friendly " rebuff. Say

something like " I'm sure we all have something more

entertaining or productive to talk about than my

eating habits " . Say it as a joke, laughing as you say

it. She would really have to embarrass herself to

take it any further. Others will respect you for

handling it that way. If that doesn't work, catch her

after the meeting and frankly tell her that her

questions in a group meeting are inappropriate.

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judy in austin

5'9 " of wild Texas redhead

SRVG 5/99 380 lbs

Ext. Abdominoplasty 5/00 180 lbs

Current 165-170 lbs

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