Guest guest Posted April 7, 2002 Report Share Posted April 7, 2002 Maybe more pronounced in MSA'er and the like; to apologize for things not needing apology. to doctors for 'wasting their time' on us for imposing on our loved ones with an illness for being sick being unemployed lacking energy not pulling our weight being sad not being sad enough not producing positives on medical tests living longer than expected not living long enough offending people's sensibilities with symptoms crying too much not crying at all And the care givers: for not doing enough for not being able to stop suffering and death for feeling angry and cheated for being tired and worn not being there all the time for being sad for being happy and so on... Shame on those who make us feel this way, and shame on us for complying. My crutch in regards to this is a quote of Florence Nightingale, who died after 20 years bedridden with a mystery illness my supposed was malingering: " I neither give, nor take, excuses " . We all get tired and cranky, its enough just to say we're tired and cranky, no apology necessary. If the intent of what we say is interpreted as offensive or hurtful, to say so is enough, no apology required. Apologies cut off discussion and paths to understanding, not very useful, or kind. So Brine, I'm yanking your chain, m'dear, havin' some fun on an otherwise dreary day - my God-concept is not so shaky I can't have a little fun about it. Look at us, you think god doesn't have a sense of humour? aletta mes, vancouver, bc canada http://www.aletta.0catch.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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