pregnancy/ relaxing, other views, from ceep

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Good Morning everyone: one of the emails I rec'd this am is from a

lady-lurker, gb-er, more than one year out, who does not post to Grad list

yet. She asked that I not convey that " relaxing " is a way for some women to

become pregnant who have been trying to become pregnant.

Even though her email was sent to me privately, I can hear her desire that

others not suffer with lack of knowlege about their true conditions, organic

and otherwise. So I would like to clarify for anyone else in this lucha,

struggle. It can be a tremendum and anguish beyond belief. I myself know from

having a history of many " late miscarriages " amongst my daughters and myself,

and having buried a beautiful full-term infant child in our family in the

recent past. We are, like many families who wanted children, the more the

better.

The story of the person who wrote to me this mornng is one of tremendous

torment during trying to become pregnant, (she does have a child now) and for

her, relaxing had nothing to do with it. Quite the contrary. It is true that

for many couples with organic issues regarding pregnancy, they have

" traditionally " been given much disinformation, ridiculous guesstimates, and

patronizing by doctors over the years. One of the bromides was, " Just relax

and everything will be fine. " But for many it was not fine. It made them

anguish even more.

I hope no one will miscontrue the context I wrote in (quoting two women who

wrote their personal experience to me that feeling relaxed helped them).

(their expereince is theirs, as the third letter writer's is hers and that of

many others). Also no one ought think that the two women quoted represent ALL

women who are wanting to be pregnant and have a baby. If there is difficulty,

a specialist in fertility and/or high-risk pregnancies would be the one to

consult. I hope this clarifies adequately for our forum. If not, please let

me know.

love,

ceep G_MOM