Guest guest Posted July 22, 2002 Report Share Posted July 22, 2002 Hi April, I am 23 years post gastric by-pass... I am an extravert by passion and attitude toward life! I had been quite large pre gastric bypass (525lbs). You can try any game you want with your mind, but it took me many years to get to my highest weight, and it took me almost 17 years for my mental picture to finally adjust to my true image...even though I was buying clothes off the rack wherever I desired and seeing myself in the mirror twice a day shaving, etc.... You will NOT be able to see in your " mind's eye " the current you for some time into the future..it is just a false illusion. It is important though, that you focus as you have on the " real " you, as that is what was inside, hidden by what other people saw before (especially those that judge you before they get to know you). Congradulations on your relaization, of the real you..but don't let that " mental image " distract you from where you really are..it will take time and doesn't adjust quite nearly as fast as the physical adjustment takes. Just from my experience, ///Bob Body Image stuff > Good morning! While I don't post often, I have read the posts for > over a year now. I had a major realization this weekend (although > it's simple as can be) & thought I would share it as I'm sure I'm not > the only one to deal with this. > > This past week I hit 2 big milestones in my life....made it below > 200# and am now wearing most things in large or just xl. Both are > huge (no pun intended LOL) things for me. > > On Sat, after trying on 5 different outfits to wear to my salsa > class, I suddenly feel FAT again. This kept going during and after > the class. I had all the old feelings of looking inferior, being the > largest one in the class (although I am not by far), not wanting to > look people in the eye which is hard to accomplish while dancing, > etc. So, on the way home I called a wls buddy and whined to her - it > helped. Once I got home I kept thinking on the subject, suddenly > realizing that I go through this EVERY time I reach a big milestone > in loss. See, before surgery I wore or should have worn 4-5X, now L- > XL....a year ago even after weight loss of about 60 pounds I still > wore 26-28 comfortably. I never thought that I would wear larges in > my wildest dreams...so, what I have realized is that my mind is > telling me lies and I have been listening to them. I have been > thinking that this is all a fairy tale, and one day I will wake up > and be the same way I was. WELL, no more! As of yesterday, I have > committed myself to stop listening to the lies that my head are > telling me, to stop believing that I haven't or won't change > anymore. > > Here's the kicker....you can stop believing things all day, but if I > don't replace those belief's with something else than they really > haven't left just been put on the back burner. So, I commit to > replacing those thoughts with the truth. The truth is that I am a > beautiful person inside & out; I am worth receiving and giving love; > I am accepted and received by God, church, family and friends; I will > continue to change and grow emotionally and spiritually; I will be an > example of God's glory through all of this. The bottom line is that > while I may " look " normal on the outside, the inside is still having > to become normal (if that's possible that is..LOL). So, I am excited > by this, excited to see what is out there for me in the next month > and year...... > > April > > > Homepage: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Graduate-OSSG > > Unsubscribe: mailto:Graduate-OSSG-unsubscribe > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 23, 2002 Report Share Posted July 23, 2002 Wow Bob!!! 23 YEARS!!! I am so very glad that you posted and looking forward to you sharing your exeriences with us. I have never met anyone who was more than 10 years post-op. Thank you so much for contributing your knoweldge and experience to the group. I am sure that we all have a ton of questions for you! Carol Richmond, VA Open RNY 10/31/97 >>> " Bob Miedema " bobmiedema@...> 07/22/02 08:03AM >>> Hi April, I am 23 years post gastric by-pass... I am an extravert by passion and attitude toward life! I had been quite large pre gastric bypass (525lbs). You can try any game you want with your mind, but it took me many years to get to my highest weight, and it took me almost 17 years for my mental picture to finally adjust to my true image...even though I was buying clothes off the rack wherever I desired and seeing myself in the mirror twice a day shaving, etc.... You will NOT be able to see in your " mind's eye " the current you for some time into the future..it is just a false illusion. It is important though, that you focus as you have on the " real " you, as that is what was inside, hidden by what other people saw before (especially those that judge you before they get to know you). Congradulations on your relaization, of the real you..but don't let that " mental image " distract you from where you really are..it will take time and doesn't adjust quite nearly as fast as the physical adjustment takes. Just from my experience, ///Bob Body Image stuff > Good morning! While I don't post often, I have read the posts for > over a year now. I had a major realization this weekend (although > it's simple as can be) & thought I would share it as I'm sure I'm not > the only one to deal with this. > > This past week I hit 2 big milestones in my life....made it below > 200# and am now wearing most things in large or just xl. Both are > huge (no pun intended LOL) things for me. > > On Sat, after trying on 5 different outfits to wear to my salsa > class, I suddenly feel FAT again. This kept going during and after > the class. I had all the old feelings of looking inferior, being the > largest one in the class (although I am not by far), not wanting to > look people in the eye which is hard to accomplish while dancing, > etc. So, on the way home I called a wls buddy and whined to her - it > helped. Once I got home I kept thinking on the subject, suddenly > realizing that I go through this EVERY time I reach a big milestone > in loss. See, before surgery I wore or should have worn 4-5X, now L- > XL....a year ago even after weight loss of about 60 pounds I still > wore 26-28 comfortably. I never thought that I would wear larges in > my wildest dreams...so, what I have realized is that my mind is > telling me lies and I have been listening to them. I have been > thinking that this is all a fairy tale, and one day I will wake up > and be the same way I was. WELL, no more! As of yesterday, I have > committed myself to stop listening to the lies that my head are > telling me, to stop believing that I haven't or won't change > anymore. > > Here's the kicker....you can stop believing things all day, but if I > don't replace those belief's with something else than they really > haven't left just been put on the back burner. So, I commit to > replacing those thoughts with the truth. The truth is that I am a > beautiful person inside & out; I am worth receiving and giving love; > I am accepted and received by God, church, family and friends; I will > continue to change and grow emotionally and spiritually; I will be an > example of God's glory through all of this. The bottom line is that > while I may " look " normal on the outside, the inside is still having > to become normal (if that's possible that is..LOL). So, I am excited > by this, excited to see what is out there for me in the next month > and year...... > > April > > > Homepage: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Graduate-OSSG > > Unsubscribe: mailto:Graduate-OSSG-unsubscribe > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 23, 2002 Report Share Posted July 23, 2002 Wow Bob!!! 23 YEARS!!! I am so very glad that you posted and looking forward to you sharing your exeriences with us. I have never met anyone who was more than 10 years post-op. Thank you so much for contributing your knoweldge and experience to the group. I am sure that we all have a ton of questions for you! Carol Richmond, VA Open RNY 10/31/97 >>> " Bob Miedema " bobmiedema@...> 07/22/02 08:03AM >>> Hi April, I am 23 years post gastric by-pass... I am an extravert by passion and attitude toward life! I had been quite large pre gastric bypass (525lbs). You can try any game you want with your mind, but it took me many years to get to my highest weight, and it took me almost 17 years for my mental picture to finally adjust to my true image...even though I was buying clothes off the rack wherever I desired and seeing myself in the mirror twice a day shaving, etc.... You will NOT be able to see in your " mind's eye " the current you for some time into the future..it is just a false illusion. It is important though, that you focus as you have on the " real " you, as that is what was inside, hidden by what other people saw before (especially those that judge you before they get to know you). Congradulations on your relaization, of the real you..but don't let that " mental image " distract you from where you really are..it will take time and doesn't adjust quite nearly as fast as the physical adjustment takes. Just from my experience, ///Bob Body Image stuff > Good morning! While I don't post often, I have read the posts for > over a year now. I had a major realization this weekend (although > it's simple as can be) & thought I would share it as I'm sure I'm not > the only one to deal with this. > > This past week I hit 2 big milestones in my life....made it below > 200# and am now wearing most things in large or just xl. Both are > huge (no pun intended LOL) things for me. > > On Sat, after trying on 5 different outfits to wear to my salsa > class, I suddenly feel FAT again. This kept going during and after > the class. I had all the old feelings of looking inferior, being the > largest one in the class (although I am not by far), not wanting to > look people in the eye which is hard to accomplish while dancing, > etc. So, on the way home I called a wls buddy and whined to her - it > helped. Once I got home I kept thinking on the subject, suddenly > realizing that I go through this EVERY time I reach a big milestone > in loss. See, before surgery I wore or should have worn 4-5X, now L- > XL....a year ago even after weight loss of about 60 pounds I still > wore 26-28 comfortably. I never thought that I would wear larges in > my wildest dreams...so, what I have realized is that my mind is > telling me lies and I have been listening to them. I have been > thinking that this is all a fairy tale, and one day I will wake up > and be the same way I was. WELL, no more! As of yesterday, I have > committed myself to stop listening to the lies that my head are > telling me, to stop believing that I haven't or won't change > anymore. > > Here's the kicker....you can stop believing things all day, but if I > don't replace those belief's with something else than they really > haven't left just been put on the back burner. So, I commit to > replacing those thoughts with the truth. The truth is that I am a > beautiful person inside & out; I am worth receiving and giving love; > I am accepted and received by God, church, family and friends; I will > continue to change and grow emotionally and spiritually; I will be an > example of God's glory through all of this. The bottom line is that > while I may " look " normal on the outside, the inside is still having > to become normal (if that's possible that is..LOL). So, I am excited > by this, excited to see what is out there for me in the next month > and year...... > > April > > > Homepage: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Graduate-OSSG > > Unsubscribe: mailto:Graduate-OSSG-unsubscribe > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 23, 2002 Report Share Posted July 23, 2002 Wow Bob!!! 23 YEARS!!! I am so very glad that you posted and looking forward to you sharing your exeriences with us. I have never met anyone who was more than 10 years post-op. Thank you so much for contributing your knoweldge and experience to the group. I am sure that we all have a ton of questions for you! Carol Richmond, VA Open RNY 10/31/97 >>> " Bob Miedema " bobmiedema@...> 07/22/02 08:03AM >>> Hi April, I am 23 years post gastric by-pass... I am an extravert by passion and attitude toward life! I had been quite large pre gastric bypass (525lbs). You can try any game you want with your mind, but it took me many years to get to my highest weight, and it took me almost 17 years for my mental picture to finally adjust to my true image...even though I was buying clothes off the rack wherever I desired and seeing myself in the mirror twice a day shaving, etc.... You will NOT be able to see in your " mind's eye " the current you for some time into the future..it is just a false illusion. It is important though, that you focus as you have on the " real " you, as that is what was inside, hidden by what other people saw before (especially those that judge you before they get to know you). Congradulations on your relaization, of the real you..but don't let that " mental image " distract you from where you really are..it will take time and doesn't adjust quite nearly as fast as the physical adjustment takes. Just from my experience, ///Bob Body Image stuff > Good morning! While I don't post often, I have read the posts for > over a year now. I had a major realization this weekend (although > it's simple as can be) & thought I would share it as I'm sure I'm not > the only one to deal with this. > > This past week I hit 2 big milestones in my life....made it below > 200# and am now wearing most things in large or just xl. Both are > huge (no pun intended LOL) things for me. > > On Sat, after trying on 5 different outfits to wear to my salsa > class, I suddenly feel FAT again. This kept going during and after > the class. I had all the old feelings of looking inferior, being the > largest one in the class (although I am not by far), not wanting to > look people in the eye which is hard to accomplish while dancing, > etc. So, on the way home I called a wls buddy and whined to her - it > helped. Once I got home I kept thinking on the subject, suddenly > realizing that I go through this EVERY time I reach a big milestone > in loss. See, before surgery I wore or should have worn 4-5X, now L- > XL....a year ago even after weight loss of about 60 pounds I still > wore 26-28 comfortably. I never thought that I would wear larges in > my wildest dreams...so, what I have realized is that my mind is > telling me lies and I have been listening to them. I have been > thinking that this is all a fairy tale, and one day I will wake up > and be the same way I was. WELL, no more! As of yesterday, I have > committed myself to stop listening to the lies that my head are > telling me, to stop believing that I haven't or won't change > anymore. > > Here's the kicker....you can stop believing things all day, but if I > don't replace those belief's with something else than they really > haven't left just been put on the back burner. So, I commit to > replacing those thoughts with the truth. The truth is that I am a > beautiful person inside & out; I am worth receiving and giving love; > I am accepted and received by God, church, family and friends; I will > continue to change and grow emotionally and spiritually; I will be an > example of God's glory through all of this. The bottom line is that > while I may " look " normal on the outside, the inside is still having > to become normal (if that's possible that is..LOL). So, I am excited > by this, excited to see what is out there for me in the next month > and year...... > > April > > > Homepage: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Graduate-OSSG > > Unsubscribe: mailto:Graduate-OSSG-unsubscribe > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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