Guest guest Posted August 21, 2002 Report Share Posted August 21, 2002 Alice, I think the direct approach works best with pushy people. When someone asks me how much weight I lost, I just smile and say, " I don't quote numbers " with a tone that I like to think says, " end of conversation. " . No one's ever pushed further. Helen RNY 12/22/99 350/170 (up from 150) Alice Grillo wrote: > Sharon wanted some answers to this question: > I still struggle with knowing what to tell people who haven't seen me in a > while and are shocked at my new bod. " What did you do? " " Any special plan > or program? " ... If I say diet and exercise and I don't eat sugar anymore > (all true) I feel like I am telling a half-truth. At the same time, part of > me, I guess most of me, feels that unless they are MO themselves and are > looking for help, it falls under the MYOB catagory. I am a very honest, > forthcoming person but I have a hard time with this one, especially when my > kids are with me and they hear me fumble my story. I just don't feel like > going into all the details with people who are just curious/nosy. Any > advice?? > > Sharon, > Yep, advice. I'm great at giving it, not so great at following it. But it > depends on who is doing the asking. If it is a loved one, then you should > tell them you had a medical procedure, and are watching your weight, and do > not really care to talk about it, thanks for noticing how your efforts have > been paying off. > > If they are acquaintances only, then the best answer in the book comes from > Dear Abby. You can look them straight in the eye and tell them you'd rather > not talk about your personal issues, or you can smile sweetly and say: " Why > do you ask? " or, more boldly: " Why is it important for you to know that > about me? " Either question will put them on the spot, and you can still get > out of telling. I have a nosy, distant relative who just insisted on > knowing how much weight I had lost. Now, I told the world, on my own. But > it struck me as none of her business, and I didn't care to share it with > her. So I said that I had lost a " great deal " of weight. She asked me > about 7 times in the course of the day, and each time, I answered vaguely. > Finally, she said, " you aren't going to tell me, are you? " to which I > replied " that's right! " I laughed, and changed the subject. You don't owe > anyone any personal information that you don't want to share. > > Alice in NY > > Homepage: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Graduate-OSSG > > Unsubscribe: mailto:Graduate-OSSG-unsubscribe > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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