Guest guest Posted August 22, 2002 Report Share Posted August 22, 2002 Ceep, Yep, you are right.....and that is the path I've taken thus far. I tell people based on their " need to know " ......if they are MO or even in the ball park and I know they have been struggling or have co-morbs, I would offer the whole she-bang story. If they are an aquaintance ie; a size 3 mom at school, the receptionist at my dental office (both real-life situations which happened recently), I don't say I had surgery. None of their business I feel. Even the people I tell, I say discretely that if they are interested in hearing more about it, call me or talk to me privately. Just how I am. I know there are people in our local support group that tell EVERYONE, like you said. That's not me. I'm not ashamed, just a private kind of person. Interesting that you should bring up boundaries. There was a book I read a while back called just that, I believe, " Boundaries " and it changed a lot of things for me. It's ok to say no for example. As many women are, I was brought up to be " a nice girl " ....always be nice, even when people crap on you and take advantage of you....be nice. Not any more. It's taken a looong time and continues to be a work in progress but I truly believe we have so much power inside ourselves, we just need to believe that. I'm not a writer and I'm not explaining my point really well but I hope I'm getting the point across! Setting boundaries has changed my life. My relationships at work and with my family mostly. Hard to do if you've been raised to always be nice but gets easier the more you do it. And similar to people's reactions sometimes when we transform ourselves with weight loss, the response to suddenly setting boundaries can take people aback. Some people just don't like change.... Ok, that was a bit off-topic....hope I didn't bore anyone! Thanks again, Sharon P. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 22, 2002 Report Share Posted August 22, 2002 Didn't bore me a bit. I have been working on the exact same thing, esp. with my family. I have always been the " fixer " in my family and it's really hard for me to not jump to the rescue at the drop of a hat but I have found myself being able to say no once in a while and they don't like it a bit! In fact, I find that they blame the weight loss on the change. And maybe it is in part. Maybe, just maybe I feel like I can and deserve to say no to their demands on occasion. Alice The Loon RNY 12.28/00 .....suddenly setting boundaries can take people aback. Some people just don't like change.... Ok, that was a bit off-topic....hope I didn't bore anyone!.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 22, 2002 Report Share Posted August 22, 2002 Didn't bore me a bit. I have been working on the exact same thing, esp. with my family. I have always been the " fixer " in my family and it's really hard for me to not jump to the rescue at the drop of a hat but I have found myself being able to say no once in a while and they don't like it a bit! In fact, I find that they blame the weight loss on the change. And maybe it is in part. Maybe, just maybe I feel like I can and deserve to say no to their demands on occasion. Alice The Loon RNY 12.28/00 .....suddenly setting boundaries can take people aback. Some people just don't like change.... Ok, that was a bit off-topic....hope I didn't bore anyone!.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 19, 2002 Report Share Posted November 19, 2002 In a message dated 11/19/2002 12:49:02 PM Eastern Standard Time, inocent1@... writes: > roflmao* I just about choked on my coffee reading this...you are one of a > kind, Ceep....but...what I want to know is this: what's a " mormal " *G* > > Staci =) > I just assume it was a cross between moral and normal. Good guess??? Fay Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 19, 2002 Report Share Posted November 19, 2002 In a message dated 11/19/2002 12:49:02 PM Eastern Standard Time, inocent1@... writes: > roflmao* I just about choked on my coffee reading this...you are one of a > kind, Ceep....but...what I want to know is this: what's a " mormal " *G* > > Staci =) > I just assume it was a cross between moral and normal. Good guess??? Fay Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 19, 2002 Report Share Posted November 19, 2002 In a message dated 11/19/2002 12:49:02 PM Eastern Standard Time, inocent1@... writes: > roflmao* I just about choked on my coffee reading this...you are one of a > kind, Ceep....but...what I want to know is this: what's a " mormal " *G* > > Staci =) > I just assume it was a cross between moral and normal. Good guess??? Fay Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 19, 2002 Report Share Posted November 19, 2002 And we all knw, because we are ALL a part of PEEPS ANONYMOUS. I have been sober of peeps for almost three years. more mormal ceep *roflmao* I just about choked on my coffee reading this...you are one of a kind, Ceep....but...what I want to know is this: what's a " mormal " *G* Staci =) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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