Guest guest Posted October 17, 2002 Report Share Posted October 17, 2002 > Hello everyone, > > I rarely post, but i have been spending the day in the house and trying to > catch up on my emails. > > this is such a " touchy " subject.. no pun intended guys. > > I'm in my 40's. was married for 17 years to a child psychiatrist. > Controlling, verbally abusive and impotent for MOST of those years. Thank GOD > his plumbing got into gear twice, i have two incredible children. > > I am writing becuase although believe me i am NOT looking for accolades, > during those 17 years.. well i cried myself to sleep thru my 20's, shut down > thru my 30's.. a way to remain sane i guess.. and not till my early 40's did > i enter therapy and crawl out of the dysfunctional existance with the well > known PSYCHIATRIST!! > > in all those years, not ONCE did i cheat. i believe it is something that is > just inherent in ones character. i knew that one day i would summon the > strength to leave my ex and if it was meant to be that i find happiness with > a life partner... then i would. > > well lets fast forward.... I divorced in early '99 and started dating up a > storm. i mean date!! i would date several times a week, sometimes i had two > dates in one evening. I rarely went on a second date with any of these men, > it was clear to me that what they were looking for was not what i was. and > then ONLINE i met Mr. Perfect (i thought) we communicated for a year till he > flew in from his home (canada) and spent a week in miami with me. it was > glorious. over the next year he flew in once a month and spent a week in > miami, and in between those trips, he flew me out to canada to his apartment. > i would call his work, and apartment as he called mine. > > to make a long story short ( too late already) my mother (rest in peace) was > as smart as she was beautiful. one day she said to me.. Jodi.. G*****is > married. i responded in SHOCK... oh mommy, you are so paranoid.... yada > yada yada.... but she asked one thing of me.. that night at dinner, to ask > not IF he were married but HOW LONG he had been married... and to ask it when > he least expected it. So... " to keep her quiet " i did... and he responded... > 13 years.. and i have two children. > > I never saw him again. and it took me a LONG time to mend my heart. the point > is that now when i look back on it.. i find it ironic. that it would have > happened to me. > > in essence, i do NOT believe in cheating, flirting, because what i try to do > is put MYSELF in the position of my partner.. how would I FEEL if HE were > just " innocently " flirting.... i would feel like S*** people. > > OK.. now for those that do not know, because i do not post often at all... a > little over two years ago, i was messaged on aol by a complete stranger. He > asked to meet in a public place for coffee after chatting for about half > hour. I was leary. REALLY LEARY. > > First, he was YOUNGER then I.... and second, he was a stranger and one that > was connecting with me of all places ON THE NET... > > OF course i met him we spent a lovely evening out, and when he came over > the next morning to take me to breakfast, he has not left since!! i have > never known love before till this man. if i even thought that he was flirting > with another woman, it would break my heart, and he feels the same way, yet > we are secure in each others love. Now.. i am not saying that if i see a > good looking man in the street i do not LOOK, come on, i'm very much > alive.... but past looking, not for me. > > we will be marrying this coming year.. so hang in there single women... there > ARE some wonderful men out there... just not a simple task finding them. > > Good luck to all and smile from > Jodi in Miami > > Open RNY 1/29/99 Dr. Norman s Vencor Hospital Ft. Lauderdale Florida pre op wt. 206.6 lowest 106 current 129 doing low carb Sorry i had to re post this.... left out some impt info!! Being SO HAPPILY MARRIED i ballooned to 206.5 i'm just 5'3 " so when i threw the hubby out... i also lost about 100 pounds after having my life saving surgery. ALSO have normal sugars, was Type II Diabetic and my blood pressure is 110/70 was on meds for that too. Phew.. hope i pass this time Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 18, 2002 Report Share Posted October 18, 2002 In a message dated 10/17/2002 1:58:36 AM Eastern Daylight Time, rgrillo@... writes: << yesterday we got the news that his lung cancer is going to kill him in a year or less. I am in shock, saddened, frightened, and worried. I am also grateful to God for the 23 great years we have had, and that I had WLS 3 years ago so that I can now take care of him. >> Alice, It sounds as if you do have a wonderful marriage, and it is hard to understand why your husband has fallen ill and will leave you too soon. I am sorry for your pain. Thank you for sharing this news with us. B Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 18, 2002 Report Share Posted October 18, 2002 In a message dated 10/17/2002 1:58:36 AM Eastern Daylight Time, rgrillo@... writes: << yesterday we got the news that his lung cancer is going to kill him in a year or less. I am in shock, saddened, frightened, and worried. I am also grateful to God for the 23 great years we have had, and that I had WLS 3 years ago so that I can now take care of him. >> Alice, It sounds as if you do have a wonderful marriage, and it is hard to understand why your husband has fallen ill and will leave you too soon. I am sorry for your pain. Thank you for sharing this news with us. B Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 18, 2002 Report Share Posted October 18, 2002 In a message dated 10/17/2002 1:58:36 AM Eastern Daylight Time, rgrillo@... writes: << yesterday we got the news that his lung cancer is going to kill him in a year or less. I am in shock, saddened, frightened, and worried. I am also grateful to God for the 23 great years we have had, and that I had WLS 3 years ago so that I can now take care of him. >> Alice, It sounds as if you do have a wonderful marriage, and it is hard to understand why your husband has fallen ill and will leave you too soon. I am sorry for your pain. Thank you for sharing this news with us. B Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 18, 2002 Report Share Posted October 18, 2002 Alice, My thoughts and prayers are with you both. Marjie ngbcpa1@... wrote: >In a message dated 10/17/2002 1:58:36 AM Eastern Daylight Time, >rgrillo@... writes: > ><< yesterday we got the news that his lung cancer is going to kill him in a >year or less. I am in shock, saddened, frightened, and worried. I am also >grateful to God for the 23 great years we have had, and that I had WLS 3 >years ago so that I can now take care of him. >> >Alice, It sounds as if you do have a wonderful marriage, and it is hard to >understand why your husband has fallen ill and will leave you too soon. I am >sorry for your pain. Thank you for sharing this news with us. > B > >Homepage: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Graduate-OSSG > >Unsubscribe: mailto:Graduate-OSSG-unsubscribe > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 18, 2002 Report Share Posted October 18, 2002 Alice, My thoughts and prayers are with you both. Marjie ngbcpa1@... wrote: >In a message dated 10/17/2002 1:58:36 AM Eastern Daylight Time, >rgrillo@... writes: > ><< yesterday we got the news that his lung cancer is going to kill him in a >year or less. I am in shock, saddened, frightened, and worried. I am also >grateful to God for the 23 great years we have had, and that I had WLS 3 >years ago so that I can now take care of him. >> >Alice, It sounds as if you do have a wonderful marriage, and it is hard to >understand why your husband has fallen ill and will leave you too soon. I am >sorry for your pain. Thank you for sharing this news with us. > B > >Homepage: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Graduate-OSSG > >Unsubscribe: mailto:Graduate-OSSG-unsubscribe > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 18, 2002 Report Share Posted October 18, 2002 Alice, My thoughts and prayers are with you both. Marjie ngbcpa1@... wrote: >In a message dated 10/17/2002 1:58:36 AM Eastern Daylight Time, >rgrillo@... writes: > ><< yesterday we got the news that his lung cancer is going to kill him in a >year or less. I am in shock, saddened, frightened, and worried. I am also >grateful to God for the 23 great years we have had, and that I had WLS 3 >years ago so that I can now take care of him. >> >Alice, It sounds as if you do have a wonderful marriage, and it is hard to >understand why your husband has fallen ill and will leave you too soon. I am >sorry for your pain. Thank you for sharing this news with us. > B > >Homepage: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Graduate-OSSG > >Unsubscribe: mailto:Graduate-OSSG-unsubscribe > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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