Guest guest Posted June 6, 2005 Report Share Posted June 6, 2005 First off, I would like to thank everyone for the positive thoughts. It does help to get some cyber luvin' (without a charge on my credit card). I just got another dose of why I am so uptight at work...which reminded me to come back here and say my thanks. There is a woman here, who...got a huge promotion last year. I won't go into details, but let's just say it was a mini-scandal. I am friends with this woman. All this time I thought that she was simply the benefactor (not the instigator) in this mess. I have supported her emotionally ever since. She has come under a lot of flak since that time, and only 2 or 3 people here like her anymore. We have continued to get along during the last year, until I got my promotion. Now our jobs are entertwined. In the last two months, she has " threw me under the bus " on several occasions...and outright lied to me on two others. Both instances made my life even more stressful. And I am her friend! Oh, and she also recently was the mover and shaker behind two other women getting the sack...both of which are smarter - and more capable than her. (was her friend anyway...my wife wants to kick her ass!) Anyway, that some of what has kept me from staying on track. I am taking some solace in the fact that at least I am not gaining weight. I am getting past this now, and some of the other #$% is getting better too. xxxoooxxxooo!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 6, 2005 Report Share Posted June 6, 2005 Cut out the poisonous people in your life. I know it hurts and one mourns the semblance of a relationship that once was but in the long run your life will be much happier. Im still struggling with trusting too much and getting hurt over and over. Using food as a comforter is a daily demon, but one I wont let win anymore. I know you will get a handle on this and I will be doing the happy dance with you once you get there!! Keep on chugging....You are worth it!! Huggles > First off, I would like to thank everyone for the positive thoughts. > It does help to get some cyber luvin' (without a charge on my credit > card). > > I just got another dose of why I am so uptight at work...which > reminded me to come back here and say my thanks. There is a woman > here, who...got a huge promotion last year. I won't go into details, > but let's just say it was a mini-scandal. I am friends with this > woman. All this time I thought that she was simply the benefactor > (not the instigator) in this mess. I have supported her emotionally > ever since. She has come under a lot of flak since that time, and > only 2 or 3 people here like her anymore. > > We have continued to get along during the last year, until I got my > promotion. Now our jobs are entertwined. In the last two months, she > has " threw me under the bus " on several occasions...and outright lied > to me on two others. Both instances made my life even more > stressful. And I am her friend! Oh, and she also recently was the > mover and shaker behind two other women getting the sack...both of > which are smarter - and more capable than her. > > (was her friend anyway...my wife wants to kick her ass!) > > Anyway, that some of what has kept me from staying on track. I am > taking some solace in the fact that at least I am not gaining weight. > I am getting past this now, and some of the other #$% is getting > better too. > > xxxoooxxxooo!!! > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 6, 2005 Report Share Posted June 6, 2005 , I am so sorry to hear about your stress, my suggestion, ignore, ignore, ignore. Eat lunch somewhere else, stay away except for work related talking, and have someone nearby to listen to what is said. I've been at my job for ten years, same school site and gossip flies.....however I am never around to hear it and therefor can not be part of any scandal. I'm friendly, always smiling (they wonder what I'm up to) and go home when work is done..... it seemed foreign at first, but now it's so much easier than being involved in any petty crap. In ten years here I can honestly, and I have them documented, gone home cranky three times in ten years.We don't socialize after hours, I have different friends for that, and we all get along just fine. My last school site was brutal, they nearly carried me out in a straightjacket.... it still is brutal THERE, but my life is so easy now..... email a friend if you need to be social, the people you work with can't hurt you if they can't get under your skin. Hugs and Support! Sue wrote: First off, I would like to thank everyone for the positive thoughts. It does help to get some cyber luvin' (without a charge on my credit card).I just got another dose of why I am so uptight at work...which reminded me to come back here and say my thanks. There is a woman here, who...got a huge promotion last year. I won't go into details, but let's just say it was a mini-scandal. I am friends with this woman. All this time I thought that she was simply the benefactor (not the instigator) in this mess. I have supported her emotionally ever since. She has come under a lot of flak since that time, and only 2 or 3 people here like her anymore.We have continued to get along during the last year, until I got my promotion. Now our jobs are entertwined. In the last two months, she has "threw me under the bus" on several occasions...and outright lied to me on two others. Both instances made my life even more stressful. And I am her friend! Oh, and she also recently was the mover and shaker behind two other women getting the sack...both of which are smarter - and more capable than her.(was her friend anyway...my wife wants to kick her ass!)Anyway, that some of what has kept me from staying on track. I am taking some solace in the fact that at least I am not gaining weight. I am getting past this now, and some of the other #$% is getting better too.xxxoooxxxooo!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 6, 2005 Report Share Posted June 6, 2005 -- Oh gosh...I'm so sorry! It sounds a lot like people I use to work with at the Girl Scouts. After 8 years I finally had enough and quit...another GREAT decision in my life. Easier said than done, I know, but try and not let them get to you. Tina > First off, I would like to thank everyone for the positive thoughts. > It does help to get some cyber luvin' (without a charge on my credit > card). > > I just got another dose of why I am so uptight at work...which > reminded me to come back here and say my thanks. There is a woman > here, who...got a huge promotion last year. I won't go into details, > but let's just say it was a mini-scandal. I am friends with this > woman. All this time I thought that she was simply the benefactor > (not the instigator) in this mess. I have supported her emotionally > ever since. She has come under a lot of flak since that time, and > only 2 or 3 people here like her anymore. > > We have continued to get along during the last year, until I got my > promotion. Now our jobs are entertwined. In the last two months, she > has " threw me under the bus " on several occasions...and outright lied > to me on two others. Both instances made my life even more > stressful. And I am her friend! Oh, and she also recently was the > mover and shaker behind two other women getting the sack...both of > which are smarter - and more capable than her. > > (was her friend anyway...my wife wants to kick her ass!) > > Anyway, that some of what has kept me from staying on track. I am > taking some solace in the fact that at least I am not gaining weight. > I am getting past this now, and some of the other #$% is getting > better too. > > xxxoooxxxooo!!! > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 6, 2005 Report Share Posted June 6, 2005 , for your own protection, you need to document everything this toxic person has done. It may be difficult, since as you say your jobs are intertwined, but try and limit your exposure to her, both personally and professionally. I know how easy it is to self- medicate over these things. Food was once the only coping mechanism I had. It's still the first thing the defective lump of grey jello between my ears turns to, but fortunately, I've added a few less self-destructive tools to my toolbox. Cyber Hug, brother! Uncle Timmy -236 > First off, I would like to thank everyone for the positive thoughts. > It does help to get some cyber luvin' (without a charge on my credit > card). > > I just got another dose of why I am so uptight at work...which > reminded me to come back here and say my thanks. There is a woman > here, who...got a huge promotion last year. I won't go into details, > but let's just say it was a mini-scandal. I am friends with this > woman. All this time I thought that she was simply the benefactor > (not the instigator) in this mess. I have supported her emotionally > ever since. She has come under a lot of flak since that time, and > only 2 or 3 people here like her anymore. > > We have continued to get along during the last year, until I got my > promotion. Now our jobs are entertwined. In the last two months, she > has " threw me under the bus " on several occasions...and outright lied > to me on two others. Both instances made my life even more > stressful. And I am her friend! Oh, and she also recently was the > mover and shaker behind two other women getting the sack...both of > which are smarter - and more capable than her. > > (was her friend anyway...my wife wants to kick her ass!) > > Anyway, that some of what has kept me from staying on track. I am > taking some solace in the fact that at least I am not gaining weight. > I am getting past this now, and some of the other #$% is getting > better too. > > xxxoooxxxooo!!! > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 6, 2005 Report Share Posted June 6, 2005 Don't let her get to you .Evrything always comes out in the wash they say........and if it does'nt add bleach. It is good to see you here again. Cecilia --- onebigscot@...> wrote: > First off, I would like to thank everyone for the > positive thoughts. > It does help to get some cyber luvin' (without a > charge on my credit > card). > > I just got another dose of why I am so uptight at > work...which > reminded me to come back here and say my thanks. > There is a woman > here, who...got a huge promotion last year. I won't > go into details, > but let's just say it was a mini-scandal. I am > friends with this > woman. All this time I thought that she was simply > the benefactor > (not the instigator) in this mess. I have supported > her emotionally > ever since. She has come under a lot of flak since > that time, and > only 2 or 3 people here like her anymore. > > We have continued to get along during the last year, > until I got my > promotion. Now our jobs are entertwined. In the > last two months, she > has " threw me under the bus " on several > occasions...and outright lied > to me on two others. Both instances made my life > even more > stressful. And I am her friend! Oh, and she also > recently was the > mover and shaker behind two other women getting the > sack...both of > which are smarter - and more capable than her. > > (was her friend anyway...my wife wants to kick her > ass!) > > Anyway, that some of what has kept me from staying > on track. I am > taking some solace in the fact that at least I am > not gaining weight. > I am getting past this now, and some of the other > #$% is getting > better too. > > xxxoooxxxooo!!! > > > > > > > > > > > > __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 6, 2005 Report Share Posted June 6, 2005 Hey my husband says i am a good ask kicker, can i get in line ? LOL, Its great to see that even in the turmoil of things you still have your humor ! I love that about you colleensnickers_95203@... wrote: Don't let her get to you .Evrything always comesout in the wash they say........and if it does'nt addbleach. :)It is good to see you here again.Cecilia--- wrote:> First off, I would like to thank everyone for the> positive thoughts. > It does help to get some cyber luvin' (without a> charge on my credit > card).> > I just got another dose of why I am so uptight at> work...which > reminded me to come back here and say my thanks. > There is a woman > here, who...got a huge promotion last year. I won't> go into details, > but let's just say it was a mini-scandal. I am> friends with this > woman. All this time I thought that she was simply> the benefactor > (not the instigator) in this mess. I have supported> her emotionally > ever since. She has come under a lot of flak since> that time, and > only 2 or 3 people here like her anymore.> > We have continued to get along during the last year,> until I got my > promotion. Now our jobs are entertwined. In the> last two months, she > has "threw me under the bus" on several> occasions...and outright lied > to me on two others. Both instances made my life> even more > stressful. And I am her friend! Oh, and she also> recently was the > mover and shaker behind two other women getting the> sack...both of > which are smarter - and more capable than her.> > (was her friend anyway...my wife wants to kick her> ass!)> > Anyway, that some of what has kept me from staying> on track. I am > taking some solace in the fact that at least I am> not gaining weight. > I am getting past this now, and some of the other> #$% is getting > better too.> > xxxoooxxxooo!!!> > > > > > > > > > > > __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 6, 2005 Report Share Posted June 6, 2005 , success is the sweetest revenge. You live your life, continue to be the competent, wonderful person you are...get your health on track, your weight in line...and if she's been a bad actor in all of this...well, you'll be on top, and she'll just suffer like the little worm she is.... Robynnsnickers_95203@... wrote: Don't let her get to you .Evrything always comesout in the wash they say........and if it does'nt addbleach. :)It is good to see you here again.Cecilia--- wrote:> First off, I would like to thank everyone for the> positive thoughts. > It does help to get some cyber luvin' (without a> charge on my credit > card).> > I just got another dose of why I am so uptight at> work...which > reminded me to come back here and say my thanks. > There is a woman > here, who...got a huge promotion last year. I won't> go into details, > but let's just say it was a mini-scandal. I am> friends with this > woman. All this time I thought that she was simply> the benefactor > (not the instigator) in this mess. I have supported> her emotionally > ever since. She has come under a lot of flak since> that time, and > only 2 or 3 people here like her anymore.> > We have continued to get along during the last year,> until I got my > promotion. Now our jobs are entertwined. In the> last two months, she > has "threw me under the bus" on several> occasions...and outright lied > to me on two others. Both instances made my life> even more > stressful. And I am her friend! Oh, and she also> recently was the > mover and shaker behind two other women getting the> sack...both of > which are smarter - and more capable than her.> > (was her friend anyway...my wife wants to kick her> ass!)> > Anyway, that some of what has kept me from staying> on track. I am > taking some solace in the fact that at least I am> not gaining weight. > I am getting past this now, and some of the other> #$% is getting > better too.> > xxxoooxxxooo!!!> > > > > > > > > > > > __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 7, 2005 Report Share Posted June 7, 2005 Cecilia, I love your slogan. , hold your head up and keep pressing forward. You are the most important person on this journey so we need you to continue to put yourself first. Buddy, its all about DAVID. Big hug to you! Pam Marsh --- Robynn VanPatten robynnsf@...> wrote: > , success is the sweetest revenge. You live > your life, continue to be the competent, wonderful > person you are...get your health on track, your > weight in line...and if she's been a bad actor in > all of this...well, you'll be on top, and she'll > just suffer like the little worm she is.... > > Robynn > > snickers_95203@... wrote: > Don't let her get to you .Evrything always > comes > out in the wash they say........and if it does'nt > add > bleach. > It is good to see you here again. > Cecilia > > --- onebigscot@...> wrote: > > > First off, I would like to thank everyone for the > > positive thoughts. > > It does help to get some cyber luvin' (without a > > charge on my credit > > card). > > > > I just got another dose of why I am so uptight at > > work...which > > reminded me to come back here and say my thanks. > > There is a woman > > here, who...got a huge promotion last year. I > won't > > go into details, > > but let's just say it was a mini-scandal. I am > > friends with this > > woman. All this time I thought that she was > simply > > the benefactor > > (not the instigator) in this mess. I have > supported > > her emotionally > > ever since. She has come under a lot of flak > since > > that time, and > > only 2 or 3 people here like her anymore. > > > > We have continued to get along during the last > year, > > until I got my > > promotion. Now our jobs are entertwined. In the > > last two months, she > > has " threw me under the bus " on several > > occasions...and outright lied > > to me on two others. Both instances made my life > > even more > > stressful. And I am her friend! Oh, and she also > > recently was the > > mover and shaker behind two other women getting > the > > sack...both of > > which are smarter - and more capable than her. > > > > (was her friend anyway...my wife wants to kick her > > ass!) > > > > Anyway, that some of what has kept me from staying > > on track. I am > > taking some solace in the fact that at least I am > > not gaining weight. > > I am getting past this now, and some of the other > > #$% is getting > > better too. > > > > xxxoooxxxooo!!! > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > __________________________________________________ > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 16, 2005 Report Share Posted June 16, 2005 , just keep having faith and tell yourself that you are going to suceed and you WILL do it. Love you girl!! Pam Marsh --- Diane Duenas brendadiane64@...> wrote: > I am just so in a panic state right now. I had a > breakfast to go to > this morning and I think I handled it fairly well. I > immediately had > them bring me a box and only ate what I left out. > About 1/2 the > omelet made with egg beaters, a few bites red > potatoes and 1/2 slice > of toast. Im completely and utterly too full. So for > lunch Im either > skipping if Im still this full or doing fruit. > > I am so petrified. I do not want to be a failure to > myself!! > > I do know that Ive come a long way....I just dont > want to get > complacent and think that 5 or 10 pounds is ok. If I > start thinking > like that then its gonna be that 20 pounds is ok. I > dont want to > rationalize and give myself excuses. I know that > with the grazing > its just because its there, boredom, etc. I gotta > get a handle on > this emotional eating. It was so easier newly post > op, because I > physcially couldnt do it. I need to get strict with > myself again. > Looking at my food log Beth asked me to keep...Im > embarrassed to be > turning it in...but its a truthful look at what Ive > been doing so > hopefully she can give me some real strong tools to > get back in > control. > > Thanks for your support...Pam,Robynn,Tim and anyone > else Ive > forgotten..I dont mean to leave anyone out!! > > Huggles > > > __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 16, 2005 Report Share Posted June 16, 2005 , just keep having faith and tell yourself that you are going to suceed and you WILL do it. Love you girl!! Pam Marsh --- Diane Duenas brendadiane64@...> wrote: > I am just so in a panic state right now. I had a > breakfast to go to > this morning and I think I handled it fairly well. I > immediately had > them bring me a box and only ate what I left out. > About 1/2 the > omelet made with egg beaters, a few bites red > potatoes and 1/2 slice > of toast. Im completely and utterly too full. So for > lunch Im either > skipping if Im still this full or doing fruit. > > I am so petrified. I do not want to be a failure to > myself!! > > I do know that Ive come a long way....I just dont > want to get > complacent and think that 5 or 10 pounds is ok. If I > start thinking > like that then its gonna be that 20 pounds is ok. I > dont want to > rationalize and give myself excuses. I know that > with the grazing > its just because its there, boredom, etc. I gotta > get a handle on > this emotional eating. It was so easier newly post > op, because I > physcially couldnt do it. I need to get strict with > myself again. > Looking at my food log Beth asked me to keep...Im > embarrassed to be > turning it in...but its a truthful look at what Ive > been doing so > hopefully she can give me some real strong tools to > get back in > control. > > Thanks for your support...Pam,Robynn,Tim and anyone > else Ive > forgotten..I dont mean to leave anyone out!! > > Huggles > > > __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 16, 2005 Report Share Posted June 16, 2005 , just keep having faith and tell yourself that you are going to suceed and you WILL do it. Love you girl!! Pam Marsh --- Diane Duenas brendadiane64@...> wrote: > I am just so in a panic state right now. I had a > breakfast to go to > this morning and I think I handled it fairly well. I > immediately had > them bring me a box and only ate what I left out. > About 1/2 the > omelet made with egg beaters, a few bites red > potatoes and 1/2 slice > of toast. Im completely and utterly too full. So for > lunch Im either > skipping if Im still this full or doing fruit. > > I am so petrified. I do not want to be a failure to > myself!! > > I do know that Ive come a long way....I just dont > want to get > complacent and think that 5 or 10 pounds is ok. If I > start thinking > like that then its gonna be that 20 pounds is ok. I > dont want to > rationalize and give myself excuses. I know that > with the grazing > its just because its there, boredom, etc. I gotta > get a handle on > this emotional eating. It was so easier newly post > op, because I > physcially couldnt do it. I need to get strict with > myself again. > Looking at my food log Beth asked me to keep...Im > embarrassed to be > turning it in...but its a truthful look at what Ive > been doing so > hopefully she can give me some real strong tools to > get back in > control. > > Thanks for your support...Pam,Robynn,Tim and anyone > else Ive > forgotten..I dont mean to leave anyone out!! > > Huggles > > > __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 23, 2005 Report Share Posted July 23, 2005 How in the hell do I get out of this web site?????I get about a thousand messages a day Diane Duenas wrote: I am just so in a panic state right now. I had a breakfast to go to this morning and I think I handled it fairly well. I immediately had them bring me a box and only ate what I left out. About 1/2 the omelet made with egg beaters, a few bites red potatoes and 1/2 slice of toast. Im completely and utterly too full. So for lunch Im either skipping if Im still this full or doing fruit.I am so petrified. I do not want to be a failure to myself!! I do know that Ive come a long way....I just dont want to get complacent and think that 5 or 10 pounds is ok. If I start thinking like that then its gonna be that 20 pounds is ok. I dont want to rationalize and give myself excuses. I know that with the grazing its just because its there, boredom, etc. I gotta get a handle on this emotional eating. It was so easier newly post op, because I physcially couldnt do it. I need to get strict with myself again. Looking at my food log Beth asked me to keep...Im embarrassed to be turning it in...but its a truthful look at what Ive been doing so hopefully she can give me some real strong tools to get back in control.Thanks for your support...Pam,Robynn,Tim and anyone else Ive forgotten..I dont mean to leave anyone out!!Huggles Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 23, 2005 Report Share Posted July 23, 2005 How in the hell do I get out of this web site?????I get about a thousand messages a day Diane Duenas wrote: I am just so in a panic state right now. I had a breakfast to go to this morning and I think I handled it fairly well. I immediately had them bring me a box and only ate what I left out. About 1/2 the omelet made with egg beaters, a few bites red potatoes and 1/2 slice of toast. Im completely and utterly too full. So for lunch Im either skipping if Im still this full or doing fruit.I am so petrified. I do not want to be a failure to myself!! I do know that Ive come a long way....I just dont want to get complacent and think that 5 or 10 pounds is ok. If I start thinking like that then its gonna be that 20 pounds is ok. I dont want to rationalize and give myself excuses. I know that with the grazing its just because its there, boredom, etc. I gotta get a handle on this emotional eating. It was so easier newly post op, because I physcially couldnt do it. I need to get strict with myself again. Looking at my food log Beth asked me to keep...Im embarrassed to be turning it in...but its a truthful look at what Ive been doing so hopefully she can give me some real strong tools to get back in control.Thanks for your support...Pam,Robynn,Tim and anyone else Ive forgotten..I dont mean to leave anyone out!!Huggles Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 23, 2005 Report Share Posted July 23, 2005 How in the hell do I get out of this web site?????I get about a thousand messages a day Diane Duenas wrote: I am just so in a panic state right now. I had a breakfast to go to this morning and I think I handled it fairly well. I immediately had them bring me a box and only ate what I left out. About 1/2 the omelet made with egg beaters, a few bites red potatoes and 1/2 slice of toast. Im completely and utterly too full. So for lunch Im either skipping if Im still this full or doing fruit.I am so petrified. I do not want to be a failure to myself!! I do know that Ive come a long way....I just dont want to get complacent and think that 5 or 10 pounds is ok. If I start thinking like that then its gonna be that 20 pounds is ok. I dont want to rationalize and give myself excuses. I know that with the grazing its just because its there, boredom, etc. I gotta get a handle on this emotional eating. It was so easier newly post op, because I physcially couldnt do it. I need to get strict with myself again. Looking at my food log Beth asked me to keep...Im embarrassed to be turning it in...but its a truthful look at what Ive been doing so hopefully she can give me some real strong tools to get back in control.Thanks for your support...Pam,Robynn,Tim and anyone else Ive forgotten..I dont mean to leave anyone out!!Huggles Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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