Guest guest Posted July 29, 2005 Report Share Posted July 29, 2005 Hi , I'd like to say congrats on your decision to do the surg. It is a big lifestyle change for you but I'm confident that you won't regret it. Welcome to the group and best of luck with your surg Junior wrote: Hello everyone. I normally just sit back and read everyone's thoughts on weight loss and the great things that happen in the process of losing the weight. But I would like to take this time to let everyone know that after 2 years of researching my options, I have decided to have the surgery. Although I have tried numerous times to lose weight, it has not happened the way I thought it would and I realized that I need some help. I am very excited to have the surgery and I have many goals after the loss of my weight. I am sure that I will be able to exercise more and the pain in my back and knees will cease. I used to be a runner but after several injuries, I just put on weight. After this surgery, I will run again. I love that and Francisco run now. I am excited to think that I may run marathons again. My surgery is August 9th and will be in furt Germany. I live in Germany. My insurance company would have approved this surgery 2 years ago but I needed to be ready for it. I needed to look into other means, research it and prepare mentally for this change. Now, I am ready. I also needed to prepare my children. I am a single parent of two fantastic kids. I needed them to be ready too. They are very excited for me to be outside with them on the track or go bike riding and also be healthy again. We have a pact to help each other be healthy. They have promised to walk with me and even change our eating habits. As teens, they eat anything. Both are slendar but we are going to work on eating healthier not just for me but for us all. I wanted to express my true admiration in you all. You are a great group and you inspire me. I used to feel alone in this but since joining your group, I have learned that we are a community striving for healthier lives. And I love that you all help to build each other up. We need people to believe in us and you make me feel good about me. There are discussions that hit home with me and I normally don't speak of my personal life with anyone. But I sure do appreciate when some of you speak of things and others make their resolve to it. It makes me think and I understand that there is light at the end of the tunnel. Thank you all again and may God bless you all in your endeavors. From my heart - thank you, - __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 29, 2005 Report Share Posted July 29, 2005 Hi , I'd like to say congrats on your decision to do the surg. It is a big lifestyle change for you but I'm confident that you won't regret it. Welcome to the group and best of luck with your surg Junior wrote: Hello everyone. I normally just sit back and read everyone's thoughts on weight loss and the great things that happen in the process of losing the weight. But I would like to take this time to let everyone know that after 2 years of researching my options, I have decided to have the surgery. Although I have tried numerous times to lose weight, it has not happened the way I thought it would and I realized that I need some help. I am very excited to have the surgery and I have many goals after the loss of my weight. I am sure that I will be able to exercise more and the pain in my back and knees will cease. I used to be a runner but after several injuries, I just put on weight. After this surgery, I will run again. I love that and Francisco run now. I am excited to think that I may run marathons again. My surgery is August 9th and will be in furt Germany. I live in Germany. My insurance company would have approved this surgery 2 years ago but I needed to be ready for it. I needed to look into other means, research it and prepare mentally for this change. Now, I am ready. I also needed to prepare my children. I am a single parent of two fantastic kids. I needed them to be ready too. They are very excited for me to be outside with them on the track or go bike riding and also be healthy again. We have a pact to help each other be healthy. They have promised to walk with me and even change our eating habits. As teens, they eat anything. Both are slendar but we are going to work on eating healthier not just for me but for us all. I wanted to express my true admiration in you all. You are a great group and you inspire me. I used to feel alone in this but since joining your group, I have learned that we are a community striving for healthier lives. And I love that you all help to build each other up. We need people to believe in us and you make me feel good about me. There are discussions that hit home with me and I normally don't speak of my personal life with anyone. But I sure do appreciate when some of you speak of things and others make their resolve to it. It makes me think and I understand that there is light at the end of the tunnel. Thank you all again and may God bless you all in your endeavors. From my heart - thank you, - __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 29, 2005 Report Share Posted July 29, 2005 Congratulations on making the BIG decision to have this surgery. It took me about 2 years to come to the conclusion that I needed this surgery too. I had my surgery on May 24, 2005. Best day of my life and life just keeps getting better. Keep us posted on your journey and best of luck to you! Tina Dr. Baggs 5/24/05 Orientation: 330 Surgery: 294 Today: 247 > > Hello everyone. > > I normally just sit back and read everyone's thoughts on weight loss and the great things that happen in the process of losing the weight. But I would like to take this time to let everyone know that after 2 years of researching my options, I have decided to have the surgery. Although I have tried numerous times to lose weight, it has not happened the way I thought it would and I realized that I need some help. > > I am very excited to have the surgery and I have many goals after the loss of my weight. I am sure that I will be able to exercise more and the pain in my back and knees will cease. I used to be a runner but after several injuries, I just put on weight. After this surgery, I will run again. I love that and Francisco run now. I am excited to think that I may run marathons again. > > My surgery is August 9th and will be in furt Germany. I live in Germany. My insurance company would have approved this surgery 2 years ago but I needed to be ready for it. I needed to look into other means, research it and prepare mentally for this change. Now, I am ready. I also needed to prepare my children. I am a single parent of two fantastic kids. I needed them to be ready too. > > They are very excited for me to be outside with them on the track or go bike riding and also be healthy again. We have a pact to help each other be healthy. They have promised to walk with me and even change our eating habits. As teens, they eat anything. Both are slendar but we are going to work on eating healthier not just for me but for us all. > > I wanted to express my true admiration in you all. You are a great group and you inspire me. I used to feel alone in this but since joining your group, I have learned that we are a community striving for healthier lives. And I love that you all help to build each other up. We need people to believe in us and you make me feel good about me. There are discussions that hit home with me and I normally don't speak of my personal life with anyone. But I sure do appreciate when some of you speak of things and others make their resolve to it. It makes me think and I understand that there is light at the end of the tunnel. > > Thank you all again and may God bless you all in your endeavors. > > From my heart - thank you, > > - > > > __________________________________________________ > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 29, 2005 Report Share Posted July 29, 2005 I'm a newbie here - been lurking for a while, reading and gathering information. This rang a bell for me, 'cuz I'm still in the " deciding " phase myself. My orthopedic surgeon recommended WLS for me a few years back, and I didn't even want to think about it then. Too drastic, too permanent. Now, I've been in pain for a couple more years (bad knees, bad heels, etc. - I'm sure you all know the drill) and it's starting to seem like a better option. But here's my question: how do you deal with the nay-sayers in your life? My husband considers WLS " mutilation " (his exact word!). He shares a lot of my health problems (sleep apnea, diabetes) but because of his height his BMI is much lower than mine even though we weigh about the same (around 300) and he is able to be much more active than I am. For the past several years my arthritis has been so bad that exercise HURTS, and what works for my husband doesn't work for me. I know WLS isn't a magic bullet; I know that I'll have to do a lot of hard work to make it a success. But I'm starting to think it's my best option. So. . . how do I explain this all to someone who is against it? He's heard of the risks, and he's afraid for me. How have others dealt with this? Cathy PS - while writing this, I just got the call from Kaiser to schedule my initial class!!! Fate, or what? > Congratulations on making the BIG decision to have this > surgery. It took me about 2 years to come to the conclusion that I > needed this surgery too. I had my surgery on May 24, 2005. Best day > of my life and life just keeps getting better. > > Keep us posted on your journey and best of luck to you! > > Tina > Dr. Baggs > 5/24/05 > Orientation: 330 > Surgery: 294 > Today: 247 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 29, 2005 Report Share Posted July 29, 2005 I'm a newbie here - been lurking for a while, reading and gathering information. This rang a bell for me, 'cuz I'm still in the " deciding " phase myself. My orthopedic surgeon recommended WLS for me a few years back, and I didn't even want to think about it then. Too drastic, too permanent. Now, I've been in pain for a couple more years (bad knees, bad heels, etc. - I'm sure you all know the drill) and it's starting to seem like a better option. But here's my question: how do you deal with the nay-sayers in your life? My husband considers WLS " mutilation " (his exact word!). He shares a lot of my health problems (sleep apnea, diabetes) but because of his height his BMI is much lower than mine even though we weigh about the same (around 300) and he is able to be much more active than I am. For the past several years my arthritis has been so bad that exercise HURTS, and what works for my husband doesn't work for me. I know WLS isn't a magic bullet; I know that I'll have to do a lot of hard work to make it a success. But I'm starting to think it's my best option. So. . . how do I explain this all to someone who is against it? He's heard of the risks, and he's afraid for me. How have others dealt with this? Cathy PS - while writing this, I just got the call from Kaiser to schedule my initial class!!! Fate, or what? > Congratulations on making the BIG decision to have this > surgery. It took me about 2 years to come to the conclusion that I > needed this surgery too. I had my surgery on May 24, 2005. Best day > of my life and life just keeps getting better. > > Keep us posted on your journey and best of luck to you! > > Tina > Dr. Baggs > 5/24/05 > Orientation: 330 > Surgery: 294 > Today: 247 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 29, 2005 Report Share Posted July 29, 2005 I'm a newbie here - been lurking for a while, reading and gathering information. This rang a bell for me, 'cuz I'm still in the " deciding " phase myself. My orthopedic surgeon recommended WLS for me a few years back, and I didn't even want to think about it then. Too drastic, too permanent. Now, I've been in pain for a couple more years (bad knees, bad heels, etc. - I'm sure you all know the drill) and it's starting to seem like a better option. But here's my question: how do you deal with the nay-sayers in your life? My husband considers WLS " mutilation " (his exact word!). He shares a lot of my health problems (sleep apnea, diabetes) but because of his height his BMI is much lower than mine even though we weigh about the same (around 300) and he is able to be much more active than I am. For the past several years my arthritis has been so bad that exercise HURTS, and what works for my husband doesn't work for me. I know WLS isn't a magic bullet; I know that I'll have to do a lot of hard work to make it a success. But I'm starting to think it's my best option. So. . . how do I explain this all to someone who is against it? He's heard of the risks, and he's afraid for me. How have others dealt with this? Cathy PS - while writing this, I just got the call from Kaiser to schedule my initial class!!! Fate, or what? > Congratulations on making the BIG decision to have this > surgery. It took me about 2 years to come to the conclusion that I > needed this surgery too. I had my surgery on May 24, 2005. Best day > of my life and life just keeps getting better. > > Keep us posted on your journey and best of luck to you! > > Tina > Dr. Baggs > 5/24/05 > Orientation: 330 > Surgery: 294 > Today: 247 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 29, 2005 Report Share Posted July 29, 2005 Congrats on your surgery date. I'll be meeting my surgeon on the 9th and hopefully I'll be back with a surgery date too! Best of luck to you! Azin > > Congratulations on making the BIG decision to have this > > surgery. It took me about 2 years to come to the conclusion that I > > needed this surgery too. I had my surgery on May 24, 2005. Best day > > of my life and life just keeps getting better. > > > > Keep us posted on your journey and best of luck to you! > > > > Tina > > Dr. Baggs > > 5/24/05 > > Orientation: 330 > > Surgery: 294 > > Today: 247 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 29, 2005 Report Share Posted July 29, 2005 Congrats on your surgery date. I'll be meeting my surgeon on the 9th and hopefully I'll be back with a surgery date too! Best of luck to you! Azin > > Congratulations on making the BIG decision to have this > > surgery. It took me about 2 years to come to the conclusion that I > > needed this surgery too. I had my surgery on May 24, 2005. Best day > > of my life and life just keeps getting better. > > > > Keep us posted on your journey and best of luck to you! > > > > Tina > > Dr. Baggs > > 5/24/05 > > Orientation: 330 > > Surgery: 294 > > Today: 247 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 29, 2005 Report Share Posted July 29, 2005 Congrats on your surgery date. I'll be meeting my surgeon on the 9th and hopefully I'll be back with a surgery date too! Best of luck to you! Azin > > Congratulations on making the BIG decision to have this > > surgery. It took me about 2 years to come to the conclusion that I > > needed this surgery too. I had my surgery on May 24, 2005. Best day > > of my life and life just keeps getting better. > > > > Keep us posted on your journey and best of luck to you! > > > > Tina > > Dr. Baggs > > 5/24/05 > > Orientation: 330 > > Surgery: 294 > > Today: 247 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 29, 2005 Report Share Posted July 29, 2005 In some cases, the reason the spouse is less than enthusiastic is insecurity. You may need to address this headon with him. Is there is a chance that he is afraid you will get thin and leave him for another man? Any insecurity might also be increased by the fact that he also is overweight. I faced this issue with my own sweet husband. is two or three inches shorter than I am, and is currently about a hundred pounds more. When I started the process, I outweighed him. I was clear with him that I wanted the surgery to improve my health and energy. I told him, and have repeated MANY times since then, that I have NO interest in replacing him. I did a lot of dating before we married just over seven years ago. I know what else is out there, and ain't interested. I tell bluntly that I ain't that f***ing stupid! Tell your hubby what you hope with be the improvements in your health as a result of losing weight. Tell him you are doing this so that you and he can have a LONG and HAPPY and HEALTHY life, TOGETHER. I should warn you that there is a risk to the relationship, especially if the two of you are not BOTH willing to work together as the dynamics change. And the dynamics in your relationship may very well change, as your energy increases. If he is not able to understand your motivation and support you, you may need to start some counselling, as soon as possible. Address the issue soon. It will NOT go away if ignored, it will fester. Sad to say, I know quite a few relationships that did not survive weight loss surgery. This is particularly true in instances where there was an inequality in the relationship. In many cases, one person (usually but not always the guy) likes having a fat woman, because no one else is going to compete with him. Also, when we have been overweight, we seem to be more willing to work hard to please the other person. We put their needs first, instead of asserting our own rights to have some of our emotional and physical needs and desires met. I will share with you what happened in my own case. Before I had my surgery, my husband used to take our son (now almost five) to places like the park, zoo, etc. I would stay home, because I knew I didn't have the energy to keep up with them. Now I am the one who takes Isaac on outings. Tomorrow I will be taking him to Roaring Camp to see the Tank Engine (tried to get tickets to ride, but they were sold out), then ride the shuttle train to Santa Cruz and run around the boardwalk with him. Hubby is looking forward to having some quiet, uncommitted computer programming time. I am no longer willing to stay home. I feel like I'm finally an active participant in my own life, rather than a passive observer. Anyway, that's my experience! You of course are quite welcome to reject any of my comments as not applying to you. Congrats on your initial class date! You're on the start of a wonderful, exciting, sometimes scary but definitely worthwhile journey! Cathy wrote: >I'm a newbie here - been lurking for a while, reading and gathering >information. This rang a bell for me, 'cuz I'm still in the > " deciding " phase myself. My orthopedic surgeon recommended WLS for me >a few years back, and I didn't even want to think about it then. Too >drastic, too permanent. Now, I've been in pain for a couple more >years (bad knees, bad heels, etc. - I'm sure you all know the drill) >and it's starting to seem like a better option. > >But here's my question: how do you deal with the nay-sayers in your >life? My husband considers WLS " mutilation " (his exact word!). He >shares a lot of my health problems (sleep apnea, diabetes) but because >of his height his BMI is much lower than mine even though we weigh >about the same (around 300) and he is able to be much more active than >I am. For the past several years my arthritis has been so bad that >exercise HURTS, and what works for my husband doesn't work for me. > -- Eleanor Oster eleanor@... (personal address) www.smallboxes.com/gastricbypass.htm San , CA Open RNY (100 cm bypassed) 07/15/2003 P. Fisher, M.D., Kaiser Richmond (CA) ~5'9 " tall 05/09/2003 319 Orientation 07/15/2003 ~290 Surgery Current 150-155 Goal until plastics? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 29, 2005 Report Share Posted July 29, 2005 In some cases, the reason the spouse is less than enthusiastic is insecurity. You may need to address this headon with him. Is there is a chance that he is afraid you will get thin and leave him for another man? Any insecurity might also be increased by the fact that he also is overweight. I faced this issue with my own sweet husband. is two or three inches shorter than I am, and is currently about a hundred pounds more. When I started the process, I outweighed him. I was clear with him that I wanted the surgery to improve my health and energy. I told him, and have repeated MANY times since then, that I have NO interest in replacing him. I did a lot of dating before we married just over seven years ago. I know what else is out there, and ain't interested. I tell bluntly that I ain't that f***ing stupid! Tell your hubby what you hope with be the improvements in your health as a result of losing weight. Tell him you are doing this so that you and he can have a LONG and HAPPY and HEALTHY life, TOGETHER. I should warn you that there is a risk to the relationship, especially if the two of you are not BOTH willing to work together as the dynamics change. And the dynamics in your relationship may very well change, as your energy increases. If he is not able to understand your motivation and support you, you may need to start some counselling, as soon as possible. Address the issue soon. It will NOT go away if ignored, it will fester. Sad to say, I know quite a few relationships that did not survive weight loss surgery. This is particularly true in instances where there was an inequality in the relationship. In many cases, one person (usually but not always the guy) likes having a fat woman, because no one else is going to compete with him. Also, when we have been overweight, we seem to be more willing to work hard to please the other person. We put their needs first, instead of asserting our own rights to have some of our emotional and physical needs and desires met. I will share with you what happened in my own case. Before I had my surgery, my husband used to take our son (now almost five) to places like the park, zoo, etc. I would stay home, because I knew I didn't have the energy to keep up with them. Now I am the one who takes Isaac on outings. Tomorrow I will be taking him to Roaring Camp to see the Tank Engine (tried to get tickets to ride, but they were sold out), then ride the shuttle train to Santa Cruz and run around the boardwalk with him. Hubby is looking forward to having some quiet, uncommitted computer programming time. I am no longer willing to stay home. I feel like I'm finally an active participant in my own life, rather than a passive observer. Anyway, that's my experience! You of course are quite welcome to reject any of my comments as not applying to you. Congrats on your initial class date! You're on the start of a wonderful, exciting, sometimes scary but definitely worthwhile journey! Cathy wrote: >I'm a newbie here - been lurking for a while, reading and gathering >information. This rang a bell for me, 'cuz I'm still in the > " deciding " phase myself. My orthopedic surgeon recommended WLS for me >a few years back, and I didn't even want to think about it then. Too >drastic, too permanent. Now, I've been in pain for a couple more >years (bad knees, bad heels, etc. - I'm sure you all know the drill) >and it's starting to seem like a better option. > >But here's my question: how do you deal with the nay-sayers in your >life? My husband considers WLS " mutilation " (his exact word!). He >shares a lot of my health problems (sleep apnea, diabetes) but because >of his height his BMI is much lower than mine even though we weigh >about the same (around 300) and he is able to be much more active than >I am. For the past several years my arthritis has been so bad that >exercise HURTS, and what works for my husband doesn't work for me. > -- Eleanor Oster eleanor@... (personal address) www.smallboxes.com/gastricbypass.htm San , CA Open RNY (100 cm bypassed) 07/15/2003 P. Fisher, M.D., Kaiser Richmond (CA) ~5'9 " tall 05/09/2003 319 Orientation 07/15/2003 ~290 Surgery Current 150-155 Goal until plastics? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 29, 2005 Report Share Posted July 29, 2005 In some cases, the reason the spouse is less than enthusiastic is insecurity. You may need to address this headon with him. Is there is a chance that he is afraid you will get thin and leave him for another man? Any insecurity might also be increased by the fact that he also is overweight. I faced this issue with my own sweet husband. is two or three inches shorter than I am, and is currently about a hundred pounds more. When I started the process, I outweighed him. I was clear with him that I wanted the surgery to improve my health and energy. I told him, and have repeated MANY times since then, that I have NO interest in replacing him. I did a lot of dating before we married just over seven years ago. I know what else is out there, and ain't interested. I tell bluntly that I ain't that f***ing stupid! Tell your hubby what you hope with be the improvements in your health as a result of losing weight. Tell him you are doing this so that you and he can have a LONG and HAPPY and HEALTHY life, TOGETHER. I should warn you that there is a risk to the relationship, especially if the two of you are not BOTH willing to work together as the dynamics change. And the dynamics in your relationship may very well change, as your energy increases. If he is not able to understand your motivation and support you, you may need to start some counselling, as soon as possible. Address the issue soon. It will NOT go away if ignored, it will fester. Sad to say, I know quite a few relationships that did not survive weight loss surgery. This is particularly true in instances where there was an inequality in the relationship. In many cases, one person (usually but not always the guy) likes having a fat woman, because no one else is going to compete with him. Also, when we have been overweight, we seem to be more willing to work hard to please the other person. We put their needs first, instead of asserting our own rights to have some of our emotional and physical needs and desires met. I will share with you what happened in my own case. Before I had my surgery, my husband used to take our son (now almost five) to places like the park, zoo, etc. I would stay home, because I knew I didn't have the energy to keep up with them. Now I am the one who takes Isaac on outings. Tomorrow I will be taking him to Roaring Camp to see the Tank Engine (tried to get tickets to ride, but they were sold out), then ride the shuttle train to Santa Cruz and run around the boardwalk with him. Hubby is looking forward to having some quiet, uncommitted computer programming time. I am no longer willing to stay home. I feel like I'm finally an active participant in my own life, rather than a passive observer. Anyway, that's my experience! You of course are quite welcome to reject any of my comments as not applying to you. Congrats on your initial class date! You're on the start of a wonderful, exciting, sometimes scary but definitely worthwhile journey! Cathy wrote: >I'm a newbie here - been lurking for a while, reading and gathering >information. This rang a bell for me, 'cuz I'm still in the > " deciding " phase myself. My orthopedic surgeon recommended WLS for me >a few years back, and I didn't even want to think about it then. Too >drastic, too permanent. Now, I've been in pain for a couple more >years (bad knees, bad heels, etc. - I'm sure you all know the drill) >and it's starting to seem like a better option. > >But here's my question: how do you deal with the nay-sayers in your >life? My husband considers WLS " mutilation " (his exact word!). He >shares a lot of my health problems (sleep apnea, diabetes) but because >of his height his BMI is much lower than mine even though we weigh >about the same (around 300) and he is able to be much more active than >I am. For the past several years my arthritis has been so bad that >exercise HURTS, and what works for my husband doesn't work for me. > -- Eleanor Oster eleanor@... (personal address) www.smallboxes.com/gastricbypass.htm San , CA Open RNY (100 cm bypassed) 07/15/2003 P. Fisher, M.D., Kaiser Richmond (CA) ~5'9 " tall 05/09/2003 319 Orientation 07/15/2003 ~290 Surgery Current 150-155 Goal until plastics? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 29, 2005 Report Share Posted July 29, 2005 Congratulations!! I would have the surgery again in a minute..no hesitation. Huggles > > Hello everyone. > > I normally just sit back and read everyone's thoughts on weight loss and the great things that happen in the process of losing the weight. But I would like to take this time to let everyone know that after 2 years of researching my options, I have decided to have the surgery. Although I have tried numerous times to lose weight, it has not happened the way I thought it would and I realized that I need some help. > > I am very excited to have the surgery and I have many goals after the loss of my weight. I am sure that I will be able to exercise more and the pain in my back and knees will cease. I used to be a runner but after several injuries, I just put on weight. After this surgery, I will run again. I love that and Francisco run now. I am excited to think that I may run marathons again. > > My surgery is August 9th and will be in furt Germany. I live in Germany. My insurance company would have approved this surgery 2 years ago but I needed to be ready for it. I needed to look into other means, research it and prepare mentally for this change. Now, I am ready. I also needed to prepare my children. I am a single parent of two fantastic kids. I needed them to be ready too. > > They are very excited for me to be outside with them on the track or go bike riding and also be healthy again. We have a pact to help each other be healthy. They have promised to walk with me and even change our eating habits. As teens, they eat anything. Both are slendar but we are going to work on eating healthier not just for me but for us all. > > I wanted to express my true admiration in you all. You are a great group and you inspire me. I used to feel alone in this but since joining your group, I have learned that we are a community striving for healthier lives. And I love that you all help to build each other up. We need people to believe in us and you make me feel good about me. There are discussions that hit home with me and I normally don't speak of my personal life with anyone. But I sure do appreciate when some of you speak of things and others make their resolve to it. It makes me think and I understand that there is light at the end of the tunnel. > > Thank you all again and may God bless you all in your endeavors. > > From my heart - thank you, > > - > > > __________________________________________________ > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 29, 2005 Report Share Posted July 29, 2005 Eleanor, did ever have his surgery? I remember you saying he was going thru Richmond. Laurie 15 days out ____________________________________________________ Start your day with Yahoo! - make it your home page http://www.yahoo.com/r/hs Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 29, 2005 Report Share Posted July 29, 2005 Eleanor, did ever have his surgery? I remember you saying he was going thru Richmond. Laurie 15 days out ____________________________________________________ Start your day with Yahoo! - make it your home page http://www.yahoo.com/r/hs Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 29, 2005 Report Share Posted July 29, 2005 No, he got a new job in Cupertino at Apple, which is kinda his dream job. He's been a programmer since before the Macintosh came out. I am hoping that he will still have the surgery, but it isn't clear if/when. I might try to get him transferred to Fremont. For one thing, since we're now living in San , that would be a LOT closer. I've been hearing good things about them. LLLORY@... wrote: >Eleanor, did ever have his surgery? I remember >you saying he was going thru Richmond. > > -- Eleanor Oster eleanor@... (personal address) www.smallboxes.com/gastricbypass.htm San , CA Open RNY (100 cm bypassed) 07/15/2003 P. Fisher, M.D., Kaiser Richmond (CA) ~5'9 " tall 05/09/2003 319 Orientation 07/15/2003 ~290 Surgery Current 150-155 Goal until plastics? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 29, 2005 Report Share Posted July 29, 2005 No, he got a new job in Cupertino at Apple, which is kinda his dream job. He's been a programmer since before the Macintosh came out. I am hoping that he will still have the surgery, but it isn't clear if/when. I might try to get him transferred to Fremont. For one thing, since we're now living in San , that would be a LOT closer. I've been hearing good things about them. LLLORY@... wrote: >Eleanor, did ever have his surgery? I remember >you saying he was going thru Richmond. > > -- Eleanor Oster eleanor@... (personal address) www.smallboxes.com/gastricbypass.htm San , CA Open RNY (100 cm bypassed) 07/15/2003 P. Fisher, M.D., Kaiser Richmond (CA) ~5'9 " tall 05/09/2003 319 Orientation 07/15/2003 ~290 Surgery Current 150-155 Goal until plastics? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 29, 2005 Report Share Posted July 29, 2005 No, he got a new job in Cupertino at Apple, which is kinda his dream job. He's been a programmer since before the Macintosh came out. I am hoping that he will still have the surgery, but it isn't clear if/when. I might try to get him transferred to Fremont. For one thing, since we're now living in San , that would be a LOT closer. I've been hearing good things about them. LLLORY@... wrote: >Eleanor, did ever have his surgery? I remember >you saying he was going thru Richmond. > > -- Eleanor Oster eleanor@... (personal address) www.smallboxes.com/gastricbypass.htm San , CA Open RNY (100 cm bypassed) 07/15/2003 P. Fisher, M.D., Kaiser Richmond (CA) ~5'9 " tall 05/09/2003 319 Orientation 07/15/2003 ~290 Surgery Current 150-155 Goal until plastics? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 29, 2005 Report Share Posted July 29, 2005 WEll, keep us posted! We'll definitely send good thoughts his way. I had my 2 week post op appointment today at Fremont. Everyone I talked to in the waiting room just loves their surgeon. Sounds like they have a good bunch. I had Dr. Dennen, and I do like him. Dr. Dutta did my orientation, and was very nice, and Dr Hahn took over my care in the hospital when Dr. Dennen flew away and abandoned me the morning after surgery! He was very thorough. Laurie ____________________________________________________ Start your day with Yahoo! - make it your home page http://www.yahoo.com/r/hs Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 29, 2005 Report Share Posted July 29, 2005 WEll, keep us posted! We'll definitely send good thoughts his way. I had my 2 week post op appointment today at Fremont. Everyone I talked to in the waiting room just loves their surgeon. Sounds like they have a good bunch. I had Dr. Dennen, and I do like him. Dr. Dutta did my orientation, and was very nice, and Dr Hahn took over my care in the hospital when Dr. Dennen flew away and abandoned me the morning after surgery! He was very thorough. Laurie ____________________________________________________ Start your day with Yahoo! - make it your home page http://www.yahoo.com/r/hs Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 30, 2005 Report Share Posted July 30, 2005 Eleanor, I will be taking my son to in Roaring Camp next week-end, and am very nervous as I do not ambulate well. About how far are the trains from the parking lot? Is there alot of walking involved? Pam --- Eleanor Oster wls@...> wrote: > In some cases, the reason the spouse is less than > enthusiastic is > insecurity. You may need to address this headon with > him. Is there is a > chance that he is afraid you will get thin and leave > him for another > man? Any insecurity might also be increased by the > fact that he also is > overweight. > > I faced this issue with my own sweet husband. > is two or three > inches shorter than I am, and is currently about a > hundred pounds more. > When I started the process, I outweighed him. I was > clear with him that > I wanted the surgery to improve my health and > energy. I told him, and > have repeated MANY times since then, that I have NO > interest in > replacing him. I did a lot of dating before we > married just over seven > years ago. I know what else is out there, and ain't > interested. I tell > bluntly that I ain't that f***ing stupid! > > Tell your hubby what you hope with be the > improvements in your health as > a result of losing weight. Tell him you are doing > this so that you and > he can have a LONG and HAPPY and HEALTHY life, > TOGETHER. > > I should warn you that there is a risk to the > relationship, especially > if the two of you are not BOTH willing to work > together as the dynamics > change. And the dynamics in your relationship may > very well change, as > your energy increases. If he is not able to > understand your motivation > and support you, you may need to start some > counselling, as soon as > possible. Address the issue soon. It will NOT go > away if ignored, it > will fester. Sad to say, I know quite a few > relationships that did not > survive weight loss surgery. This is particularly > true in instances > where there was an inequality in the relationship. > In many cases, one > person (usually but not always the guy) likes having > a fat woman, > because no one else is going to compete with him. > Also, when we have > been overweight, we seem to be more willing to work > hard to please the > other person. We put their needs first, instead of > asserting our own > rights to have some of our emotional and physical > needs and desires met. > > I will share with you what happened in my own case. > Before I had my > surgery, my husband used to take our son (now almost > five) to places > like the park, zoo, etc. I would stay home, because > I knew I didn't have > the energy to keep up with them. Now I am the one > who takes Isaac on > outings. Tomorrow I will be taking him to Roaring > Camp to see the > Tank Engine (tried to get tickets to ride, but they > were sold out), then > ride the shuttle train to Santa Cruz and run around > the boardwalk with > him. Hubby is looking forward to having some quiet, > uncommitted computer > programming time. I am no longer willing to stay > home. I feel like I'm > finally an active participant in my own life, rather > than a passive > observer. > > Anyway, that's my experience! You of course are > quite welcome to reject > any of my comments as not applying to you. Congrats > on your initial > class date! You're on the start of a wonderful, > exciting, sometimes > scary but definitely worthwhile journey! > > Cathy wrote: > > >I'm a newbie here - been lurking for a while, > reading and gathering > >information. This rang a bell for me, 'cuz I'm > still in the > > " deciding " phase myself. My orthopedic surgeon > recommended WLS for me > >a few years back, and I didn't even want to think > about it then. Too > >drastic, too permanent. Now, I've been in pain for > a couple more > >years (bad knees, bad heels, etc. - I'm sure you > all know the drill) > >and it's starting to seem like a better option. > > > >But here's my question: how do you deal with the > nay-sayers in your > >life? My husband considers WLS " mutilation " (his > exact word!). He > >shares a lot of my health problems (sleep apnea, > diabetes) but because > >of his height his BMI is much lower than mine even > though we weigh > >about the same (around 300) and he is able to be > much more active than > >I am. For the past several years my arthritis has > been so bad that > >exercise HURTS, and what works for my husband > doesn't work for me. > > > -- > > Eleanor Oster > eleanor@... (personal address) > www.smallboxes.com/gastricbypass.htm > San , CA > Open RNY (100 cm bypassed) 07/15/2003 > P. Fisher, M.D., Kaiser Richmond (CA) > ~5'9 " tall > 05/09/2003 319 Orientation > 07/15/2003 ~290 Surgery > Current 150-155 Goal until plastics? > > ____________________________________________________ Start your day with Yahoo! - make it your home page http://www.yahoo.com/r/hs Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 30, 2005 Report Share Posted July 30, 2005 Eleanor, I will be taking my son to in Roaring Camp next week-end, and am very nervous as I do not ambulate well. About how far are the trains from the parking lot? Is there alot of walking involved? Pam --- Eleanor Oster wls@...> wrote: > In some cases, the reason the spouse is less than > enthusiastic is > insecurity. You may need to address this headon with > him. Is there is a > chance that he is afraid you will get thin and leave > him for another > man? Any insecurity might also be increased by the > fact that he also is > overweight. > > I faced this issue with my own sweet husband. > is two or three > inches shorter than I am, and is currently about a > hundred pounds more. > When I started the process, I outweighed him. I was > clear with him that > I wanted the surgery to improve my health and > energy. I told him, and > have repeated MANY times since then, that I have NO > interest in > replacing him. I did a lot of dating before we > married just over seven > years ago. I know what else is out there, and ain't > interested. I tell > bluntly that I ain't that f***ing stupid! > > Tell your hubby what you hope with be the > improvements in your health as > a result of losing weight. Tell him you are doing > this so that you and > he can have a LONG and HAPPY and HEALTHY life, > TOGETHER. > > I should warn you that there is a risk to the > relationship, especially > if the two of you are not BOTH willing to work > together as the dynamics > change. And the dynamics in your relationship may > very well change, as > your energy increases. If he is not able to > understand your motivation > and support you, you may need to start some > counselling, as soon as > possible. Address the issue soon. It will NOT go > away if ignored, it > will fester. Sad to say, I know quite a few > relationships that did not > survive weight loss surgery. This is particularly > true in instances > where there was an inequality in the relationship. > In many cases, one > person (usually but not always the guy) likes having > a fat woman, > because no one else is going to compete with him. > Also, when we have > been overweight, we seem to be more willing to work > hard to please the > other person. We put their needs first, instead of > asserting our own > rights to have some of our emotional and physical > needs and desires met. > > I will share with you what happened in my own case. > Before I had my > surgery, my husband used to take our son (now almost > five) to places > like the park, zoo, etc. I would stay home, because > I knew I didn't have > the energy to keep up with them. Now I am the one > who takes Isaac on > outings. Tomorrow I will be taking him to Roaring > Camp to see the > Tank Engine (tried to get tickets to ride, but they > were sold out), then > ride the shuttle train to Santa Cruz and run around > the boardwalk with > him. Hubby is looking forward to having some quiet, > uncommitted computer > programming time. I am no longer willing to stay > home. I feel like I'm > finally an active participant in my own life, rather > than a passive > observer. > > Anyway, that's my experience! You of course are > quite welcome to reject > any of my comments as not applying to you. Congrats > on your initial > class date! You're on the start of a wonderful, > exciting, sometimes > scary but definitely worthwhile journey! > > Cathy wrote: > > >I'm a newbie here - been lurking for a while, > reading and gathering > >information. This rang a bell for me, 'cuz I'm > still in the > > " deciding " phase myself. My orthopedic surgeon > recommended WLS for me > >a few years back, and I didn't even want to think > about it then. Too > >drastic, too permanent. Now, I've been in pain for > a couple more > >years (bad knees, bad heels, etc. - I'm sure you > all know the drill) > >and it's starting to seem like a better option. > > > >But here's my question: how do you deal with the > nay-sayers in your > >life? My husband considers WLS " mutilation " (his > exact word!). He > >shares a lot of my health problems (sleep apnea, > diabetes) but because > >of his height his BMI is much lower than mine even > though we weigh > >about the same (around 300) and he is able to be > much more active than > >I am. For the past several years my arthritis has > been so bad that > >exercise HURTS, and what works for my husband > doesn't work for me. > > > -- > > Eleanor Oster > eleanor@... (personal address) > www.smallboxes.com/gastricbypass.htm > San , CA > Open RNY (100 cm bypassed) 07/15/2003 > P. Fisher, M.D., Kaiser Richmond (CA) > ~5'9 " tall > 05/09/2003 319 Orientation > 07/15/2003 ~290 Surgery > Current 150-155 Goal until plastics? > > ____________________________________________________ Start your day with Yahoo! - make it your home page http://www.yahoo.com/r/hs Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 30, 2005 Report Share Posted July 30, 2005 Eleanor, I will be taking my son to in Roaring Camp next week-end, and am very nervous as I do not ambulate well. About how far are the trains from the parking lot? Is there alot of walking involved? Pam --- Eleanor Oster wls@...> wrote: > In some cases, the reason the spouse is less than > enthusiastic is > insecurity. You may need to address this headon with > him. Is there is a > chance that he is afraid you will get thin and leave > him for another > man? Any insecurity might also be increased by the > fact that he also is > overweight. > > I faced this issue with my own sweet husband. > is two or three > inches shorter than I am, and is currently about a > hundred pounds more. > When I started the process, I outweighed him. I was > clear with him that > I wanted the surgery to improve my health and > energy. I told him, and > have repeated MANY times since then, that I have NO > interest in > replacing him. I did a lot of dating before we > married just over seven > years ago. I know what else is out there, and ain't > interested. I tell > bluntly that I ain't that f***ing stupid! > > Tell your hubby what you hope with be the > improvements in your health as > a result of losing weight. Tell him you are doing > this so that you and > he can have a LONG and HAPPY and HEALTHY life, > TOGETHER. > > I should warn you that there is a risk to the > relationship, especially > if the two of you are not BOTH willing to work > together as the dynamics > change. And the dynamics in your relationship may > very well change, as > your energy increases. If he is not able to > understand your motivation > and support you, you may need to start some > counselling, as soon as > possible. Address the issue soon. It will NOT go > away if ignored, it > will fester. Sad to say, I know quite a few > relationships that did not > survive weight loss surgery. This is particularly > true in instances > where there was an inequality in the relationship. > In many cases, one > person (usually but not always the guy) likes having > a fat woman, > because no one else is going to compete with him. > Also, when we have > been overweight, we seem to be more willing to work > hard to please the > other person. We put their needs first, instead of > asserting our own > rights to have some of our emotional and physical > needs and desires met. > > I will share with you what happened in my own case. > Before I had my > surgery, my husband used to take our son (now almost > five) to places > like the park, zoo, etc. I would stay home, because > I knew I didn't have > the energy to keep up with them. Now I am the one > who takes Isaac on > outings. Tomorrow I will be taking him to Roaring > Camp to see the > Tank Engine (tried to get tickets to ride, but they > were sold out), then > ride the shuttle train to Santa Cruz and run around > the boardwalk with > him. Hubby is looking forward to having some quiet, > uncommitted computer > programming time. I am no longer willing to stay > home. I feel like I'm > finally an active participant in my own life, rather > than a passive > observer. > > Anyway, that's my experience! You of course are > quite welcome to reject > any of my comments as not applying to you. Congrats > on your initial > class date! You're on the start of a wonderful, > exciting, sometimes > scary but definitely worthwhile journey! > > Cathy wrote: > > >I'm a newbie here - been lurking for a while, > reading and gathering > >information. This rang a bell for me, 'cuz I'm > still in the > > " deciding " phase myself. My orthopedic surgeon > recommended WLS for me > >a few years back, and I didn't even want to think > about it then. Too > >drastic, too permanent. Now, I've been in pain for > a couple more > >years (bad knees, bad heels, etc. - I'm sure you > all know the drill) > >and it's starting to seem like a better option. > > > >But here's my question: how do you deal with the > nay-sayers in your > >life? My husband considers WLS " mutilation " (his > exact word!). He > >shares a lot of my health problems (sleep apnea, > diabetes) but because > >of his height his BMI is much lower than mine even > though we weigh > >about the same (around 300) and he is able to be > much more active than > >I am. For the past several years my arthritis has > been so bad that > >exercise HURTS, and what works for my husband > doesn't work for me. > > > -- > > Eleanor Oster > eleanor@... (personal address) > www.smallboxes.com/gastricbypass.htm > San , CA > Open RNY (100 cm bypassed) 07/15/2003 > P. Fisher, M.D., Kaiser Richmond (CA) > ~5'9 " tall > 05/09/2003 319 Orientation > 07/15/2003 ~290 Surgery > Current 150-155 Goal until plastics? > > ____________________________________________________ Start your day with Yahoo! - make it your home page http://www.yahoo.com/r/hs Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 30, 2005 Report Share Posted July 30, 2005 Thanks, Eleanor, for your thoughtful answer. I don't *think* he's concerned about my being thinner/more attractive and all that. . . he's doing his best to lose weight and get healthier himself. I think it's more his fear of the complications of surgery, and the lifestyle changes that it will bring. It's scary when you read about a 1 in 200 mortality rate for the first year PS. But you're right, we need to do a LOT of talking about this. Cathy > > >I'm a newbie here - been lurking for a while, reading and gathering > >information. This rang a bell for me, 'cuz I'm still in the > > " deciding " phase myself. My orthopedic surgeon recommended WLS for me > >a few years back, and I didn't even want to think about it then. Too > >drastic, too permanent. Now, I've been in pain for a couple more > >years (bad knees, bad heels, etc. - I'm sure you all know the drill) > >and it's starting to seem like a better option. > > > >But here's my question: how do you deal with the nay-sayers in your > >life? My husband considers WLS " mutilation " (his exact word!). He > >shares a lot of my health problems (sleep apnea, diabetes) but because > >of his height his BMI is much lower than mine even though we weigh > >about the same (around 300) and he is able to be much more active than > >I am. For the past several years my arthritis has been so bad that > >exercise HURTS, and what works for my husband doesn't work for me. > > > -- > > Eleanor Oster > eleanor@s... (personal address) > www.smallboxes.com/gastricbypass.htm > San , CA > Open RNY (100 cm bypassed) 07/15/2003 > P. Fisher, M.D., Kaiser Richmond (CA) > ~5'9 " tall > 05/09/2003 319 Orientation > 07/15/2003 ~290 Surgery > Current 150-155 Goal until plastics? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 30, 2005 Report Share Posted July 30, 2005 Thanks, Eleanor, for your thoughtful answer. I don't *think* he's concerned about my being thinner/more attractive and all that. . . he's doing his best to lose weight and get healthier himself. I think it's more his fear of the complications of surgery, and the lifestyle changes that it will bring. It's scary when you read about a 1 in 200 mortality rate for the first year PS. But you're right, we need to do a LOT of talking about this. Cathy > > >I'm a newbie here - been lurking for a while, reading and gathering > >information. This rang a bell for me, 'cuz I'm still in the > > " deciding " phase myself. My orthopedic surgeon recommended WLS for me > >a few years back, and I didn't even want to think about it then. Too > >drastic, too permanent. Now, I've been in pain for a couple more > >years (bad knees, bad heels, etc. - I'm sure you all know the drill) > >and it's starting to seem like a better option. > > > >But here's my question: how do you deal with the nay-sayers in your > >life? My husband considers WLS " mutilation " (his exact word!). He > >shares a lot of my health problems (sleep apnea, diabetes) but because > >of his height his BMI is much lower than mine even though we weigh > >about the same (around 300) and he is able to be much more active than > >I am. For the past several years my arthritis has been so bad that > >exercise HURTS, and what works for my husband doesn't work for me. > > > -- > > Eleanor Oster > eleanor@s... (personal address) > www.smallboxes.com/gastricbypass.htm > San , CA > Open RNY (100 cm bypassed) 07/15/2003 > P. Fisher, M.D., Kaiser Richmond (CA) > ~5'9 " tall > 05/09/2003 319 Orientation > 07/15/2003 ~290 Surgery > Current 150-155 Goal until plastics? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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