Re: - WARNING - adult in nature

June 13, 2005

Eleanor

Once again, you lead me outta the fire!! LOL

Yes, with his impotency and premature release...we have begun

experimenting with other options. Especially since viagra sent him

back to the hospital. It is getting better, but I still have to

initiate everything. Just once, Id like him to....that way I would

feel I was desirable to him...not just something he thinks he HAS to

do to fulfill his husbandly duty(hey isnt it usually the other way

around LOL)

I am thinking about going to a naughty toy party or find some one

that will have one for me. Im willing to try anything at this point.

Huggles

> Hi ,

>

> I mentioned that I was with my previous husband for decades. What

I did

> not mention is that he was impotent, so I basically closed the

door on

> my sexuality for more than a decade.

>

> OK, here's my personal (very!) recommendation, and I truly hope it

does

> not offend. If it doesn't fit you and your marriage, feel free to

reject

> it. I understand that your husband's libido is diminished because

of his

> health problems. Is he comfortable with either helping you with

either

> hands, mouth, or toys, or holding you while you play with them?

This may

> seem awkward at first, but might be a way for your libido issues

to be

> addressed, without straying. I highly recommend Good Vibrations on

San

> Pablo as a source of advice, toys, and erotic literature.

>

> Feel free to contact me for any other suggestions. You do need to

take

> care of ALL facets of your life, including your sexuality. Like I

said,

> I hope this doesn't offend. I truly don't mean it to.

>

> Eleanor

>

> --

> Eleanor Oster

> eleanor@s... (personal address)

> www.smallboxes.com/gastricbypass.htm

> San , CA

> Open RNY (100 cm bypassed) 07/15/2003

> P. Fisher, M.D., Kaiser Richmond (CA)

> ~5'9 " tall

> 05/09/2003 319 Orientation

> 07/15/2003 ~290 Surgery

> Current ~150 Goal until plastics?

> Goal 140-150?

June 13, 2005

Eleanor

Once again, you lead me outta the fire!! LOL

Yes, with his impotency and premature release...we have begun

experimenting with other options. Especially since viagra sent him

back to the hospital. It is getting better, but I still have to

initiate everything. Just once, Id like him to....that way I would

feel I was desirable to him...not just something he thinks he HAS to

do to fulfill his husbandly duty(hey isnt it usually the other way

around LOL)

I am thinking about going to a naughty toy party or find some one

that will have one for me. Im willing to try anything at this point.

Huggles

> Hi ,

>

> I mentioned that I was with my previous husband for decades. What

I did

> not mention is that he was impotent, so I basically closed the

door on

> my sexuality for more than a decade.

>

> OK, here's my personal (very!) recommendation, and I truly hope it

does

> not offend. If it doesn't fit you and your marriage, feel free to

reject

> it. I understand that your husband's libido is diminished because

of his

> health problems. Is he comfortable with either helping you with

either

> hands, mouth, or toys, or holding you while you play with them?

This may

> seem awkward at first, but might be a way for your libido issues

to be

> addressed, without straying. I highly recommend Good Vibrations on

San

> Pablo as a source of advice, toys, and erotic literature.

>

> Feel free to contact me for any other suggestions. You do need to

take

> care of ALL facets of your life, including your sexuality. Like I

said,

> I hope this doesn't offend. I truly don't mean it to.

>

> Eleanor

>

> --

> Eleanor Oster

> eleanor@s... (personal address)

> www.smallboxes.com/gastricbypass.htm

> San , CA

> Open RNY (100 cm bypassed) 07/15/2003

> P. Fisher, M.D., Kaiser Richmond (CA)

> ~5'9 " tall

> 05/09/2003 319 Orientation

> 07/15/2003 ~290 Surgery

> Current ~150 Goal until plastics?

> Goal 140-150?

June 13, 2005

Eleanor

Once again, you lead me outta the fire!! LOL

Yes, with his impotency and premature release...we have begun

experimenting with other options. Especially since viagra sent him

back to the hospital. It is getting better, but I still have to

initiate everything. Just once, Id like him to....that way I would

feel I was desirable to him...not just something he thinks he HAS to

do to fulfill his husbandly duty(hey isnt it usually the other way

around LOL)

I am thinking about going to a naughty toy party or find some one

that will have one for me. Im willing to try anything at this point.

Huggles

> Hi ,

>

> I mentioned that I was with my previous husband for decades. What

I did

> not mention is that he was impotent, so I basically closed the

door on

> my sexuality for more than a decade.

>

> OK, here's my personal (very!) recommendation, and I truly hope it

does

> not offend. If it doesn't fit you and your marriage, feel free to

reject

> it. I understand that your husband's libido is diminished because

of his

> health problems. Is he comfortable with either helping you with

either

> hands, mouth, or toys, or holding you while you play with them?

This may

> seem awkward at first, but might be a way for your libido issues

to be

> addressed, without straying. I highly recommend Good Vibrations on

San

> Pablo as a source of advice, toys, and erotic literature.

>

> Feel free to contact me for any other suggestions. You do need to

take

> care of ALL facets of your life, including your sexuality. Like I

said,

> I hope this doesn't offend. I truly don't mean it to.

>

> Eleanor

>

> --

> Eleanor Oster

> eleanor@s... (personal address)

> www.smallboxes.com/gastricbypass.htm

> San , CA

> Open RNY (100 cm bypassed) 07/15/2003

> P. Fisher, M.D., Kaiser Richmond (CA)

> ~5'9 " tall

> 05/09/2003 319 Orientation

> 07/15/2003 ~290 Surgery

> Current ~150 Goal until plastics?

> Goal 140-150?

June 13, 2005

Eleanor, I realize that I am not the one involved here and so maybe I

shouldn't say anything, but I think it took courage and caring to give that

kind of advice. By the way, I think it's good advice, but

again.... LaWanda At 07:02 PM 6/13/05, you wrote:

>Hi ,

>

>I mentioned that I was with my previous husband for decades. What I did

>not mention is that he was impotent, so I basically closed the door on

>my sexuality for more than a decade.

>

>OK, here's my personal (very!) recommendation, and I truly hope it does

>not offend. If it doesn't fit you and your marriage, feel free to reject

>it. I understand that your husband's libido is diminished because of his

>health problems. Is he comfortable with either helping you with either

>hands, mouth, or toys, or holding you while you play with them? This may

>seem awkward at first, but might be a way for your libido issues to be

>addressed, without straying. I highly recommend Good Vibrations on San

>Pablo as a source of advice, toys, and erotic literature.

>

>Feel free to contact me for any other suggestions. You do need to take

>care of ALL facets of your life, including your sexuality. Like I said,

>I hope this doesn't offend. I truly don't mean it to.

>

>Eleanor

>

>--

>Eleanor Oster

>eleanor@... (personal address)

>www.smallboxes.com/gastricbypass.htm

>San , CA

>Open RNY (100 cm bypassed) 07/15/2003

> P. Fisher, M.D., Kaiser Richmond (CA)

>~5'9 " tall

>05/09/2003 319 Orientation

>07/15/2003 ~290 Surgery

>Current ~150 Goal until plastics?

>Goal 140-150?

>

June 13, 2005

Eleanor, I realize that I am not the one involved here and so maybe I

shouldn't say anything, but I think it took courage and caring to give that

kind of advice. By the way, I think it's good advice, but

again.... LaWanda At 07:02 PM 6/13/05, you wrote:

>Hi ,

>

>I mentioned that I was with my previous husband for decades. What I did

>not mention is that he was impotent, so I basically closed the door on

>my sexuality for more than a decade.

>

>OK, here's my personal (very!) recommendation, and I truly hope it does

>not offend. If it doesn't fit you and your marriage, feel free to reject

>it. I understand that your husband's libido is diminished because of his

>health problems. Is he comfortable with either helping you with either

>hands, mouth, or toys, or holding you while you play with them? This may

>seem awkward at first, but might be a way for your libido issues to be

>addressed, without straying. I highly recommend Good Vibrations on San

>Pablo as a source of advice, toys, and erotic literature.

>

>Feel free to contact me for any other suggestions. You do need to take

>care of ALL facets of your life, including your sexuality. Like I said,

>I hope this doesn't offend. I truly don't mean it to.

>

>Eleanor

>

>--

>Eleanor Oster

>eleanor@... (personal address)

>www.smallboxes.com/gastricbypass.htm

>San , CA

>Open RNY (100 cm bypassed) 07/15/2003

> P. Fisher, M.D., Kaiser Richmond (CA)

>~5'9 " tall

>05/09/2003 319 Orientation

>07/15/2003 ~290 Surgery

>Current ~150 Goal until plastics?

>Goal 140-150?

>

June 13, 2005

Eleanor, I realize that I am not the one involved here and so maybe I

shouldn't say anything, but I think it took courage and caring to give that

kind of advice. By the way, I think it's good advice, but

again.... LaWanda At 07:02 PM 6/13/05, you wrote:

>Hi ,

>

>I mentioned that I was with my previous husband for decades. What I did

>not mention is that he was impotent, so I basically closed the door on

>my sexuality for more than a decade.

>

>OK, here's my personal (very!) recommendation, and I truly hope it does

>not offend. If it doesn't fit you and your marriage, feel free to reject

>it. I understand that your husband's libido is diminished because of his

>health problems. Is he comfortable with either helping you with either

>hands, mouth, or toys, or holding you while you play with them? This may

>seem awkward at first, but might be a way for your libido issues to be

>addressed, without straying. I highly recommend Good Vibrations on San

>Pablo as a source of advice, toys, and erotic literature.

>

>Feel free to contact me for any other suggestions. You do need to take

>care of ALL facets of your life, including your sexuality. Like I said,

>I hope this doesn't offend. I truly don't mean it to.

>

>Eleanor

>

>--

>Eleanor Oster

>eleanor@... (personal address)

>www.smallboxes.com/gastricbypass.htm

>San , CA

>Open RNY (100 cm bypassed) 07/15/2003

> P. Fisher, M.D., Kaiser Richmond (CA)

>~5'9 " tall

>05/09/2003 319 Orientation

>07/15/2003 ~290 Surgery

>Current ~150 Goal until plastics?

>Goal 140-150?

>

June 13, 2005

, I don't have any advice to give. What you're going through must be

so hard, especially since you've lost so much weight and must just be

longing for for approval from him. I just felt that I wanted to

commiserate with you and try to give you some support, as you're always so

generous with your support to others. Best of luck to you and your husband

both, I hope the health gets better, and the sex

too. Huggles, LaWanda At 07:10 PM 6/13/05, you wrote:

>Eleanor

>

>Once again, you lead me outta the fire!! LOL

>

>Yes, with his impotency and premature release...we have begun

>experimenting with other options. Especially since viagra sent him

>back to the hospital. It is getting better, but I still have to

>initiate everything. Just once, Id like him to....that way I would

>feel I was desirable to him...not just something he thinks he HAS to

>do to fulfill his husbandly duty(hey isnt it usually the other way

>around LOL)

>

>I am thinking about going to a naughty toy party or find some one

>that will have one for me. Im willing to try anything at this point.

>

>Huggles

>

> > Hi ,

> >

> > I mentioned that I was with my previous husband for decades. What

>I did

> > not mention is that he was impotent, so I basically closed the

>door on

> > my sexuality for more than a decade.

> >

> > OK, here's my personal (very!) recommendation, and I truly hope it

>does

> > not offend. If it doesn't fit you and your marriage, feel free to

>reject

> > it. I understand that your husband's libido is diminished because

>of his

> > health problems. Is he comfortable with either helping you with

>either

> > hands, mouth, or toys, or holding you while you play with them?

>This may

> > seem awkward at first, but might be a way for your libido issues

>to be

> > addressed, without straying. I highly recommend Good Vibrations on

>San

> > Pablo as a source of advice, toys, and erotic literature.

> >

> > Feel free to contact me for any other suggestions. You do need to

>take

> > care of ALL facets of your life, including your sexuality. Like I

>said,

> > I hope this doesn't offend. I truly don't mean it to.

> >

> > Eleanor

> >

> > --

> > Eleanor Oster

> > eleanor@s... (personal address)

> > www.smallboxes.com/gastricbypass.htm

> > San , CA

> > Open RNY (100 cm bypassed) 07/15/2003

> > P. Fisher, M.D., Kaiser Richmond (CA)

> > ~5'9 " tall

> > 05/09/2003 319 Orientation

> > 07/15/2003 ~290 Surgery

> > Current ~150 Goal until plastics?

> > Goal 140-150?

>

June 13, 2005

Eleanor, I concur with your Good Vibrations recommendation. There is this great little rabbit thing that is purple and er, penis shaped, and it has an additional thing that stimulates the clitoris at the same time. It changes speed and directions...and lemme tell you. Yippee. When Olivier was here, he used it on me, too. (He started struggling with some issues because of his emotional situation). It was very very erotic, and quite satisfying.

RobynnLaWanda Ezell wrote:

, I don't have any advice to give. What you're going through must be so hard, especially since you've lost so much weight and must just be longing for for approval from him. I just felt that I wanted to commiserate with you and try to give you some support, as you're always so generous with your support to others. Best of luck to you and your husband both, I hope the health gets better, and the sex too. Huggles, LaWanda At 07:10 PM 6/13/05, you wrote:>Eleanor>>Once again, you lead me outta the fire!! LOL>>Yes, with his impotency and premature release...we have begun>experimenting with other options. Especially since viagra sent him>back to the hospital. It is getting better, but I still have to>initiate everything. Just once, Id like him to....that way I

would>feel I was desirable to him...not just something he thinks he HAS to>do to fulfill his husbandly duty(hey isnt it usually the other way>around LOL)>>I am thinking about going to a naughty toy party or find some one>that will have one for me. Im willing to try anything at this point.>>Huggles>>>>> > Hi ,> >> > I mentioned that I was with my previous husband for decades. What>I did> > not mention is that he was impotent, so I basically closed the>door on> > my sexuality for more than a decade.> >> > OK, here's my personal (very!) recommendation, and I truly hope it>does> > not offend. If it doesn't fit you and your marriage, feel free to>reject> > it. I understand that

your husband's libido is diminished because>of his> > health problems. Is he comfortable with either helping you with>either> > hands, mouth, or toys, or holding you while you play with them?>This may> > seem awkward at first, but might be a way for your libido issues>to be> > addressed, without straying. I highly recommend Good Vibrations on>San> > Pablo as a source of advice, toys, and erotic literature.> >> > Feel free to contact me for any other suggestions. You do need to>take> > care of ALL facets of your life, including your sexuality. Like I>said,> > I hope this doesn't offend. I truly don't mean it to.> >> > Eleanor> >> > --> > Eleanor Oster> > eleanor@s... (personal address)> > www.smallboxes.com/gastricbypass.htm> > San , CA> > Open RNY (100

cm bypassed) 07/15/2003> > P. Fisher, M.D., Kaiser Richmond (CA)> > ~5'9" tall> > 05/09/2003 319 Orientation> > 07/15/2003 ~290 Surgery> > Current ~150 Goal until plastics?> > Goal 140-150?>>>>>>>

June 13, 2005

Eleanor, I concur with your Good Vibrations recommendation. There is this great little rabbit thing that is purple and er, penis shaped, and it has an additional thing that stimulates the clitoris at the same time. It changes speed and directions...and lemme tell you. Yippee. When Olivier was here, he used it on me, too. (He started struggling with some issues because of his emotional situation). It was very very erotic, and quite satisfying.

RobynnLaWanda Ezell wrote:

, I don't have any advice to give. What you're going through must be so hard, especially since you've lost so much weight and must just be longing for for approval from him. I just felt that I wanted to commiserate with you and try to give you some support, as you're always so generous with your support to others. Best of luck to you and your husband both, I hope the health gets better, and the sex too. Huggles, LaWanda At 07:10 PM 6/13/05, you wrote:>Eleanor>>Once again, you lead me outta the fire!! LOL>>Yes, with his impotency and premature release...we have begun>experimenting with other options. Especially since viagra sent him>back to the hospital. It is getting better, but I still have to>initiate everything. Just once, Id like him to....that way I

would>feel I was desirable to him...not just something he thinks he HAS to>do to fulfill his husbandly duty(hey isnt it usually the other way>around LOL)>>I am thinking about going to a naughty toy party or find some one>that will have one for me. Im willing to try anything at this point.>>Huggles>>>>> > Hi ,> >> > I mentioned that I was with my previous husband for decades. What>I did> > not mention is that he was impotent, so I basically closed the>door on> > my sexuality for more than a decade.> >> > OK, here's my personal (very!) recommendation, and I truly hope it>does> > not offend. If it doesn't fit you and your marriage, feel free to>reject> > it. I understand that

your husband's libido is diminished because>of his> > health problems. Is he comfortable with either helping you with>either> > hands, mouth, or toys, or holding you while you play with them?>This may> > seem awkward at first, but might be a way for your libido issues>to be> > addressed, without straying. I highly recommend Good Vibrations on>San> > Pablo as a source of advice, toys, and erotic literature.> >> > Feel free to contact me for any other suggestions. You do need to>take> > care of ALL facets of your life, including your sexuality. Like I>said,> > I hope this doesn't offend. I truly don't mean it to.> >> > Eleanor> >> > --> > Eleanor Oster> > eleanor@s... (personal address)> > www.smallboxes.com/gastricbypass.htm> > San , CA> > Open RNY (100

cm bypassed) 07/15/2003> > P. Fisher, M.D., Kaiser Richmond (CA)> > ~5'9" tall> > 05/09/2003 319 Orientation> > 07/15/2003 ~290 Surgery> > Current ~150 Goal until plastics?> > Goal 140-150?>>>>>>>

June 13, 2005

I am so glad you don't seem offended by my frank suggestions. I can

understand why hubby doesn't want to initiate any kind of play, since

that can make him feel like a failure. " If I were more of a man you

wouldn't need to... " He may also be afraid to want to, since previous

encounters (or at least the medication) put him in the hospital. That's

gotta be something of a disincentive for him.

Ok, telling more about myself here. There have been times when my libido

has been at a low ebb. has found it helpful, if I didn't feel like

playing, for me to hold him while he pleasured himself. That way there

was the shared intimacy, it got his needs taken care of, without him

feeling like he had pressured me into something I really didn't feel

like doing.

At some point, if you want and are comfortable with the idea, I might be

able to meet you at Good Vibes. There was a woman in the area who sold

toys at " Passion Parties " but she has moved out of state. I know she was

talking about coming back to the area periodically for parties, but I

haven't heard anything more about/from her.

By the way, I'm discussing this " publicly " because I know there are

probably others who have the same issues, but aren't as comfortable

being so open about it. As many of you are aware, I refuse to be

ashamed. A quick glance at my website proves that! If my openness helps

someone else that's great! I remember how I felt when I thought that

Marty didn't have sex with me because he didn't want to. It took me

years to realize that the problem was NOT me, it was his body not

working right. I just don't want anyone else to feel that way!

Anyone who wants to can certainly contact me privately, if they think

there's some advice I might have, or if they just want to talk. If

anyone wants to, they can contact me at eo@.... That address

doesn't get published, so it doesn't get spammed. That also means that

I'm more likely to respond to messages to it more quickly.

TTFN

Diane Duenas wrote:

>Eleanor

>

>Once again, you lead me outta the fire!! LOL

>

>Yes, with his impotency and premature release...we have begun

>experimenting with other options. Especially since viagra sent him

>back to the hospital. It is getting better, but I still have to

>initiate everything. Just once, Id like him to....that way I would

>feel I was desirable to him...not just something he thinks he HAS to

>do to fulfill his husbandly duty(hey isnt it usually the other way

>around LOL)

>

>I am thinking about going to a naughty toy party or find some one

>that will have one for me. Im willing to try anything at this point.

>

>Huggles

>

--

Eleanor Oster

eleanor@... (personal address)

www.smallboxes.com/gastricbypass.htm

San , CA

Open RNY (100 cm bypassed) 07/15/2003

P. Fisher, M.D., Kaiser Richmond (CA)

~5'9 " tall

05/09/2003 319 Orientation

07/15/2003 ~290 Surgery

Current ~150 Goal until plastics?

Goal 140-150?

June 13, 2005