Dorian

[Guest guest]

Hi Dorian,

How sad that some people that you work with cannot congratulate you

for making such a positive decision for your life. Obviously they

are not the supporting, loving friends you need right now. Maybe

they are jealous. You are making such great changes and moving

toward such a healthier life. I hope that you surround yourself now

with those friends of yours who do understand what a huge, life

changing decision this is, and will support you and love you on your

journey! 68 pounds is GREAT!! If you are swimming in your clothes,

you are getting the best feedback from your own closet! Ha! Keep up

the great work, and know that even though some people won't/can't

understand and support your decision, many more do understand and

support you...especially here!!

Keep us posted!

Jean in SC

Dr Baltasar, Spain

May 14 2001

> It has been just over 3 months since I've had DS surgery. Before

and

> during this time, I have told very few people that I had WLS, and

> those that knew about it at work have refused to acknowledge it in

> any way. They (work friends with whom I also socialize with

outside

> of work) have not once asked me if I was okay, how I was feeling,

> nothing. So I have had very little feedback as to whether or not

my

> weight loss is noticeable. Of course those outside of work (family

> and friends) that I told about the surgery have mentioned that they

> can tell I'm loosing weight, but this week I finally have started

to

> receive compliments from people that have no idea that I had any

type

> of wls at all. I have had to lose 68 pounds before my loss has

> been noticed enough to be commented on. Have any of you experienced

> the same reactions from others?

>

> Actually, I only told one co-worker/friend that I was having

surgery

> because she had just been diagnosed with Diabetes and she was even

> larger than me. I thought I would try and help her out by telling

> her about this option that has helped so many others and cured

> some people's Diabetes. She immediately told me that she had a

> friend who had undergone stomach stapling and that her friend had

> gained all her weight back and that she wouldn't do such a thing to

> her body.

>

> After that I never mentioned it again and felt like an idiot for

> offering her a solution in the first place. Unfortunately, she

can't

> keep a secret even though I asked her not to tell anyone else that I

> was having this surgery and she ended up telling a couple of other

> people that I know at work about my surgery because they mentioned

> that they knew the reason I was going off work to have surgery.

Not

> one of those people will acknowledge my weight loss now even though

> I'm swimming in my clothes. The whole situation would be funny if

it

> wasn't so sad! I'm sorry that I told ANYONE at work that I was

> having this done.

>

> Regards

> Dorian

> Open BPD/DS 02/06/01

> Dr. Elariny

> United Healthcare Options PPO

> Approved in less than 24 hours

> -68 pounds at last count