RE: Re: need some TLC (or a reality check)

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Bonnie, thank you. You expressed it all beautifully. I did get a phone call from Sam on the weekend. She was very polite and sounded remorseful. She asked me if I wanted her to come back here to live. I told her that at this time, NO. She told me how sorry she was, realized her mistakes, etc. And I told her that it's impossible for me to know if she really means that or is just trying to manipulate me, because she has said all of the same stuff more than once. I told her that she is the only one who knows what is really in her heart. I don't know what will happen. We are waiting on a court hearing. The whole thing has just worn me out. Here is a picture of Sam & me just a week before all this happened. I just don't understand how her attitude & behavior can flip so suddenly.

Ramblin' Rose

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Reply-To: Neurosarcoidosis To: Neurosarcoidosis Subject: Re: need some TLC (or a reality check)Date: Fri, 21 Apr 2006 20:14:28 -0000RosePlease don't blame yourself. There is only so much that you can do. People make their own choices, right or wrong, and they are usually only thinking of themselves when they make them. It sounds like you have tried to be honest, fair, and loving. Some people accept that, others just take advantage of it or throw it away. I come from a family who likes to blame everyone else for their problems. I don't see them anymore because I got tired of it. They also have the attitude if they pretend it is not there, it will go away. I have a nephew who has been in and out of juvenile centers since he was 14. He spent a year in a center where we could only visit 1 hour a week. He came out, got back into trouble, and is now in prison. I have to drive by that prison on my way to church. It breaks my heart. My sister is in jail also and may be facing prison time. Again, don't blame yourself. Someday when she is grown up and looks back, she will see that you were right and she was wrong. She will wish that she had done things differently. She will also know that you tried to help her and that that she hurt you by what she did. She will also know that you loved her.Take care of yourself and try to keep your spirits up. Thought and prayers are with you.Bonnie ~~~~ *** ~~~ *** ~~~ *** ~~~~The Neurosarcoidosis CommunityNS CHAT:- Has been cancelled for now.Message Archives:-http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Neurosarcoidosis/messagesMembers Database:-Listings of locations, phone numbers, and instant messengers.http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Neurosarcoidosis/database

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Bonnie, thank you. You expressed it all beautifully. I did get a phone call from Sam on the weekend. She was very polite and sounded remorseful. She asked me if I wanted her to come back here to live. I told her that at this time, NO. She told me how sorry she was, realized her mistakes, etc. And I told her that it's impossible for me to know if she really means that or is just trying to manipulate me, because she has said all of the same stuff more than once. I told her that she is the only one who knows what is really in her heart. I don't know what will happen. We are waiting on a court hearing. The whole thing has just worn me out. Here is a picture of Sam & me just a week before all this happened. I just don't understand how her attitude & behavior can flip so suddenly.

Ramblin' Rose

Moderator

Reply-To: Neurosarcoidosis To: Neurosarcoidosis Subject: Re: need some TLC (or a reality check)Date: Fri, 21 Apr 2006 20:14:28 -0000RosePlease don't blame yourself. There is only so much that you can do. People make their own choices, right or wrong, and they are usually only thinking of themselves when they make them. It sounds like you have tried to be honest, fair, and loving. Some people accept that, others just take advantage of it or throw it away. I come from a family who likes to blame everyone else for their problems. I don't see them anymore because I got tired of it. They also have the attitude if they pretend it is not there, it will go away. I have a nephew who has been in and out of juvenile centers since he was 14. He spent a year in a center where we could only visit 1 hour a week. He came out, got back into trouble, and is now in prison. I have to drive by that prison on my way to church. It breaks my heart. My sister is in jail also and may be facing prison time. Again, don't blame yourself. Someday when she is grown up and looks back, she will see that you were right and she was wrong. She will wish that she had done things differently. She will also know that you tried to help her and that that she hurt you by what she did. She will also know that you loved her.Take care of yourself and try to keep your spirits up. Thought and prayers are with you.Bonnie ~~~~ *** ~~~ *** ~~~ *** ~~~~The Neurosarcoidosis CommunityNS CHAT:- Has been cancelled for now.Message Archives:-http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Neurosarcoidosis/messagesMembers Database:-Listings of locations, phone numbers, and instant messengers.http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Neurosarcoidosis/database

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Bonnie, thank you. You expressed it all beautifully. I did get a phone call from Sam on the weekend. She was very polite and sounded remorseful. She asked me if I wanted her to come back here to live. I told her that at this time, NO. She told me how sorry she was, realized her mistakes, etc. And I told her that it's impossible for me to know if she really means that or is just trying to manipulate me, because she has said all of the same stuff more than once. I told her that she is the only one who knows what is really in her heart. I don't know what will happen. We are waiting on a court hearing. The whole thing has just worn me out. Here is a picture of Sam & me just a week before all this happened. I just don't understand how her attitude & behavior can flip so suddenly.

Ramblin' Rose

Moderator

Reply-To: Neurosarcoidosis To: Neurosarcoidosis Subject: Re: need some TLC (or a reality check)Date: Fri, 21 Apr 2006 20:14:28 -0000RosePlease don't blame yourself. There is only so much that you can do. People make their own choices, right or wrong, and they are usually only thinking of themselves when they make them. It sounds like you have tried to be honest, fair, and loving. Some people accept that, others just take advantage of it or throw it away. I come from a family who likes to blame everyone else for their problems. I don't see them anymore because I got tired of it. They also have the attitude if they pretend it is not there, it will go away. I have a nephew who has been in and out of juvenile centers since he was 14. He spent a year in a center where we could only visit 1 hour a week. He came out, got back into trouble, and is now in prison. I have to drive by that prison on my way to church. It breaks my heart. My sister is in jail also and may be facing prison time. Again, don't blame yourself. Someday when she is grown up and looks back, she will see that you were right and she was wrong. She will wish that she had done things differently. She will also know that you tried to help her and that that she hurt you by what she did. She will also know that you loved her.Take care of yourself and try to keep your spirits up. Thought and prayers are with you.Bonnie ~~~~ *** ~~~ *** ~~~ *** ~~~~The Neurosarcoidosis CommunityNS CHAT:- Has been cancelled for now.Message Archives:-http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Neurosarcoidosis/messagesMembers Database:-Listings of locations, phone numbers, and instant messengers.http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Neurosarcoidosis/database

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Rose, I am sorry for all the trouble you are going through with your grandaughter right now. I am glad though that are standing firm though in your decision. I know you love her so much, but she has to learn on her own how to how to take responsibilities from her mistakes. I have 3 boys myself 21, 18, & 15. So I know how tough it is in standing your ground. Hang in there, Rose. You are a strong lady. We are all here to support you. Hugs, DebbieRose wrote: Bonnie, thank you. You expressed it all beautifully. I did get a phone call from Sam on the weekend. She was very polite and sounded remorseful. She asked me if I wanted her to come back

here to live. I told her that at this time, NO. She told me how sorry she was, realized her mistakes, etc. And I told her that it's impossible for me to know if she really means that or is just trying to manipulate me, because she has said all of the same stuff more than once. I told her that she is the only one who knows what is really in her heart. I don't know what will happen. We are waiting on a court hearing. The whole thing has just worn me out. Here is a picture of Sam & me just a week before all this happened. I just don't understand how her attitude & behavior can flip so suddenly. Ramblin' Rose Moderator Reply-To: Neurosarcoidosis To: Neurosarcoidosis Subject: Re: need some TLC (or a reality check)Date: Fri, 21 Apr 2006 20:14:28 -0000RosePlease don't blame yourself. There is only so much that you can do. People make their own choices, right or wrong, and they are usually only thinking of themselves when they make them. It sounds like you have tried to be honest, fair, and loving. Some people accept that, others just take advantage of it

or throw it away. I come from a family who likes to blame everyone else for their problems. I don't see them anymore because I got tired of it. They also have the attitude if they pretend it is not there, it will go away. I have a nephew who has been in and out of juvenile centers since he was 14. He spent a year in a center where we could only visit 1 hour a week. He came out, got back into trouble, and is now in prison. I have to drive by that prison on my way to church. It breaks my heart. My sister is in jail also and may be facing prison time. Again, don't blame yourself. Someday when she is grown up and looks back, she will see that you were right and she was wrong. She will wish that she had done things differently. She will also know that you tried to help her and that that she hurt you by what she did. She will also know that

you loved her.Take care of yourself and try to keep your spirits up. Thought and prayers are with you.Bonnie ~~~~ *** ~~~ *** ~~~ *** ~~~~The Neurosarcoidosis CommunityNS CHAT:- Has been cancelled for now.Message Archives:-http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Neurosarcoidosis/messagesMembers Database:-Listings of locations, phone numbers, and instant messengers.http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Neurosarcoidosis/database