Guest guest Posted August 9, 2005 Report Share Posted August 9, 2005 It's not so bad... one does get accustomed to one's circumstances. However, I have become increasingly aware that I eat out of boredom, (having to stay home ALL DAY LONG!!!), and out of resentment. (I miss my job, miss adult conversation, miss my ex being here, etc, etc) Please don't get me wrong, I love my little boy with all of my heart, and would never trade him for anything in the world. It's just that I sometimes wish that circumstances would have been different. (BTW, this is a recent feeling that I have just begun to feel, probably because I was always stuffing the feelings of resentment with food.) And yes, I know that their are so many others out there with far worse circumstances, and I am truly sorry that " they " have to suffer. Furthermore, I also am very grateful that my son is getting the care that he needs to progress, and that he is doing so much better medically. (thank God!) Pam b --- Robynn VanPatten robynnsf@...> wrote: > You have a lot of stress in your life, don't you? > Thats very hard, I am sure. Well, it sounds like > the online classes may be just the ticket. I > believe there is quite a lot of scheduling freedom > with that...and you could probably do it while the > therapists are around. > > I'm sorry, Pam...you don't have a very easy time of > it. > > Thinking of you, > Robynn > > > flo boss florenceboss@...> wrote: > I do get 16-hours of respite care each month, > provided > for by the State. (KP does not cover the cost of > respite care unless the family member is terminally > ill.) But the 16 hours is taken for my Tuesday > Binge-Eating classes, and for the once-a-month > Thursday WLS support group on Thursday evenings, (my > 1st Thursday night class will be this week; I am > sooo > excited!!). If I have anything left over, (which I > usually do not), I spend it grocery shopping so that > I > don't have to bring my son, (I am a single mom). > > And unfortunatly, I HAVE to stay here while the > therapists are here. It is a " liability " issue with > their company; someone over the age of 18 must be > present at all times while the therapists are here. > Also, the therapist will work with my son up to 50 > minutes, and then he will have a 10 to 20 minute > break > with me, and then back to the therapist he goes. > This > goes on from 8-noon then from 1-5, 5 days a week. > (he > has a one hour break for lunch, and it takes that > long > to get the food down him!!) > > Anyway.... not much spontanaity (sp?) for this > household, I am afraid. > > Pam b > > --- Robynn VanPatten robynnsf@...> wrote: > > > Wow...that is very difficult, Pam. I didn't > realize > > that you had such a difficult time of it. Well, > any > > chance that you can get someone to help you just > for > > an hour every day? You could go out and take a > > walk... > > > > Maybe you could enlist a few friends or relatives > to > > give you an hour or two a week? If you don't take > > care of yourself, you won't be able to be there > > consistently for your son while he goes through > all > > of this. Sometimes you can find a little relief > > care. Tak to Kaiser and see if they have anything > > like that, if you can't afford to get someone in. > > > > While the therapist is there, do you have to be > > there? I'm sure you want to be, and you'd only > > leave your son if you can be very sure that the > > therapist is trustworthy...but maybe you could > dash > > out and take a walk, and get some fresh air while > > one of the therapists is working with him? > > > > Robynn > > > > flo boss florenceboss@...> wrote: > > Thank you for all of the grewat ideas! I think > that > > I > > try a few of them, if not all. (Except for the > > painting. I am so not into painting!) But the idea > > about taking a few courses on line was the most > > interesting! > > > > Oh , and to answer your question: I have a > > four-year-old who has 40-hours of in-home therapy > > each > > week, and because he is exhausted after his > 40-hour > > work week, I don't think it fair to take him out > > after > > the last therapist leaves for the afternoon, > > (5:00pm). > > > > Pam > > > > --- Robynn VanPatten robynnsf@...> > wrote: > > > > > Why are you stuck at home? Do you have a > physical > > > problem that prevents you from going outside? I > > > don't remember. A small baby? People you need > to > > > care for? > > > > > > How about taking up some art? Learning to > > > paint...not worrying about the product, but just > > > enjoying the process of creation...like a child. > > > > Learn to just paint whatever you feel. If you > > were > > > to choose a color that mirrors your current > > > feelings, what color would it be? And what if > you > > > did paint a house with wings, would that be ok? > > > > > > The problem with the television is that it > takes, > > > but it doesn't give back. That's why it is > > > boring...no interaction. Even if you have no > real > > > talent, you can paint. It's fun. You can lose > > > yourself for hours. > > > > > > Physical activity, if at all possible, should be > > > done. You need fresh air. You need the > > opportunity > > > to just be, you know? Worst case scenario, you > > can > > > get those tapes that show you how to do > exercises > > > while sitting down. I think they are called > " Sit > > > and Fit " or something like that, and you can > even > > > borrow them from Kaiser's Health Education > center. > > > > > watch those instead of tv...and even if you > don't > > do > > > it all, you'll be inspired. > > > > > > Start writing. Write out your feelings, your > > > journey, your thoughts about what weight means > to > > > you, what it will mean to you to lose the > weight. > > > Think of every little niggling detail, and write > > it > > > out. Your mind will be engaged...and it will > > > relieve boredom. > > > > > > If you are truly stuck at home, can you sign up > > for > > > online classroom work with a local college? > Take > > a > > > literature course where you need to read, or > learn > > a > > > new language (French being my favorite, of > > course), > > > start thinking about life after obesity. Start > > > living life today as a fulfilled person...so > that > > > when you transition to your new slim self...you > > > aren't completely overwhelmed with your upcoming > > > options. > > > > > > There are things you can do, it just requires a > > > little motivation and courage. Live life. It's > > the > > > only one you have. If you start taking classes > > > today, for example (and you can take a lot of > them > > > online), in a few years, you will have a degree. > > > > Maybe, in a couple of years, when you are > getting > > > thinner...you can start actually going to class > on > > > campus...and then, as you start to get out of > the > > > cocoon of extra weight, you will take off as a > > > butterfly, WITH A DEGREE. You can have more > > > confidence because of the school, more > confidence > > > because of your weight...and then maybe you can > > > start a whole new career, that puts money in > your > > > pocket (which youll need for your new clothes), > > and > > > a spring in your step. > > > > === message truncated === ____________________________________________________ Start your day with Yahoo! - make it your home page http://www.yahoo.com/r/hs Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 9, 2005 Report Share Posted August 9, 2005 It's not so bad... one does get accustomed to one's circumstances. However, I have become increasingly aware that I eat out of boredom, (having to stay home ALL DAY LONG!!!), and out of resentment. (I miss my job, miss adult conversation, miss my ex being here, etc, etc) Please don't get me wrong, I love my little boy with all of my heart, and would never trade him for anything in the world. It's just that I sometimes wish that circumstances would have been different. (BTW, this is a recent feeling that I have just begun to feel, probably because I was always stuffing the feelings of resentment with food.) And yes, I know that their are so many others out there with far worse circumstances, and I am truly sorry that " they " have to suffer. Furthermore, I also am very grateful that my son is getting the care that he needs to progress, and that he is doing so much better medically. (thank God!) Pam b --- Robynn VanPatten robynnsf@...> wrote: > You have a lot of stress in your life, don't you? > Thats very hard, I am sure. Well, it sounds like > the online classes may be just the ticket. I > believe there is quite a lot of scheduling freedom > with that...and you could probably do it while the > therapists are around. > > I'm sorry, Pam...you don't have a very easy time of > it. > > Thinking of you, > Robynn > > > flo boss florenceboss@...> wrote: > I do get 16-hours of respite care each month, > provided > for by the State. (KP does not cover the cost of > respite care unless the family member is terminally > ill.) But the 16 hours is taken for my Tuesday > Binge-Eating classes, and for the once-a-month > Thursday WLS support group on Thursday evenings, (my > 1st Thursday night class will be this week; I am > sooo > excited!!). If I have anything left over, (which I > usually do not), I spend it grocery shopping so that > I > don't have to bring my son, (I am a single mom). > > And unfortunatly, I HAVE to stay here while the > therapists are here. It is a " liability " issue with > their company; someone over the age of 18 must be > present at all times while the therapists are here. > Also, the therapist will work with my son up to 50 > minutes, and then he will have a 10 to 20 minute > break > with me, and then back to the therapist he goes. > This > goes on from 8-noon then from 1-5, 5 days a week. > (he > has a one hour break for lunch, and it takes that > long > to get the food down him!!) > > Anyway.... not much spontanaity (sp?) for this > household, I am afraid. > > Pam b > > --- Robynn VanPatten robynnsf@...> wrote: > > > Wow...that is very difficult, Pam. I didn't > realize > > that you had such a difficult time of it. Well, > any > > chance that you can get someone to help you just > for > > an hour every day? You could go out and take a > > walk... > > > > Maybe you could enlist a few friends or relatives > to > > give you an hour or two a week? If you don't take > > care of yourself, you won't be able to be there > > consistently for your son while he goes through > all > > of this. Sometimes you can find a little relief > > care. Tak to Kaiser and see if they have anything > > like that, if you can't afford to get someone in. > > > > While the therapist is there, do you have to be > > there? I'm sure you want to be, and you'd only > > leave your son if you can be very sure that the > > therapist is trustworthy...but maybe you could > dash > > out and take a walk, and get some fresh air while > > one of the therapists is working with him? > > > > Robynn > > > > flo boss florenceboss@...> wrote: > > Thank you for all of the grewat ideas! I think > that > > I > > try a few of them, if not all. (Except for the > > painting. I am so not into painting!) But the idea > > about taking a few courses on line was the most > > interesting! > > > > Oh , and to answer your question: I have a > > four-year-old who has 40-hours of in-home therapy > > each > > week, and because he is exhausted after his > 40-hour > > work week, I don't think it fair to take him out > > after > > the last therapist leaves for the afternoon, > > (5:00pm). > > > > Pam > > > > --- Robynn VanPatten robynnsf@...> > wrote: > > > > > Why are you stuck at home? Do you have a > physical > > > problem that prevents you from going outside? I > > > don't remember. A small baby? People you need > to > > > care for? > > > > > > How about taking up some art? Learning to > > > paint...not worrying about the product, but just > > > enjoying the process of creation...like a child. > > > > Learn to just paint whatever you feel. If you > > were > > > to choose a color that mirrors your current > > > feelings, what color would it be? And what if > you > > > did paint a house with wings, would that be ok? > > > > > > The problem with the television is that it > takes, > > > but it doesn't give back. That's why it is > > > boring...no interaction. Even if you have no > real > > > talent, you can paint. It's fun. You can lose > > > yourself for hours. > > > > > > Physical activity, if at all possible, should be > > > done. You need fresh air. You need the > > opportunity > > > to just be, you know? Worst case scenario, you > > can > > > get those tapes that show you how to do > exercises > > > while sitting down. I think they are called > " Sit > > > and Fit " or something like that, and you can > even > > > borrow them from Kaiser's Health Education > center. > > > > > watch those instead of tv...and even if you > don't > > do > > > it all, you'll be inspired. > > > > > > Start writing. Write out your feelings, your > > > journey, your thoughts about what weight means > to > > > you, what it will mean to you to lose the > weight. > > > Think of every little niggling detail, and write > > it > > > out. Your mind will be engaged...and it will > > > relieve boredom. > > > > > > If you are truly stuck at home, can you sign up > > for > > > online classroom work with a local college? > Take > > a > > > literature course where you need to read, or > learn > > a > > > new language (French being my favorite, of > > course), > > > start thinking about life after obesity. Start > > > living life today as a fulfilled person...so > that > > > when you transition to your new slim self...you > > > aren't completely overwhelmed with your upcoming > > > options. > > > > > > There are things you can do, it just requires a > > > little motivation and courage. Live life. It's > > the > > > only one you have. If you start taking classes > > > today, for example (and you can take a lot of > them > > > online), in a few years, you will have a degree. > > > > Maybe, in a couple of years, when you are > getting > > > thinner...you can start actually going to class > on > > > campus...and then, as you start to get out of > the > > > cocoon of extra weight, you will take off as a > > > butterfly, WITH A DEGREE. You can have more > > > confidence because of the school, more > confidence > > > because of your weight...and then maybe you can > > > start a whole new career, that puts money in > your > > > pocket (which youll need for your new clothes), > > and > > > a spring in your step. > > > > === message truncated === ____________________________________________________ Start your day with Yahoo! - make it your home page http://www.yahoo.com/r/hs Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 9, 2005 Report Share Posted August 9, 2005 Thanks for the tip, Ramona! Pam b --- sweetgemlady656@... wrote: > Hi Pam > There is an excellent tape that you can get from > Kaiser educational dept > called Chair Dancing. It is fun and you can do it in > front of your TV. That way > you can try it without buying it. > Ramona > ____________________________________________________ Start your day with Yahoo! - make it your home page http://www.yahoo.com/r/hs Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 9, 2005 Report Share Posted August 9, 2005 Thanks for the tip, Ramona! Pam b --- sweetgemlady656@... wrote: > Hi Pam > There is an excellent tape that you can get from > Kaiser educational dept > called Chair Dancing. It is fun and you can do it in > front of your TV. That way > you can try it without buying it. > Ramona > ____________________________________________________ Start your day with Yahoo! - make it your home page http://www.yahoo.com/r/hs Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 9, 2005 Report Share Posted August 9, 2005 Thanks for the tip, Ramona! Pam b --- sweetgemlady656@... wrote: > Hi Pam > There is an excellent tape that you can get from > Kaiser educational dept > called Chair Dancing. It is fun and you can do it in > front of your TV. That way > you can try it without buying it. > Ramona > ____________________________________________________ Start your day with Yahoo! - make it your home page http://www.yahoo.com/r/hs Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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