Re: Baby Dreams...

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In a message dated 5/16/01 4:26:42 AM, duodenalswitch writes:

<< 41 is not that old.. In fact, I've known many first-time mommies who

were in their 40's. Obstetrics has come a long, long way!.

>>

Hi -- I've been thinking a lot about this issue lately, too. I have two kids

already (both when I was obese/morbidly obese in my 30's and didn't have any

complications at all, thank God. I wouldn't want to risk it again, though at

those weights since I know I was a statistical abberation). My husband and I

have always been open to a third, but recently I have really, really been

leaning towards it as a desired reality.

My body and mind have never felt 'oh, this is it' after the birth of either

child. I would love a larger family (3-4 kids -- three biological and one

international adoption from China/Asia since my dh is

Chinese-American). Of course, we must wait until 18 months-2 years to even

think about fertility and then I'll be 37-38 years old (pushing 40, so to

speak LOL). I'm not that concerned about it since many, many women in their

40's conceive (for a good many it is their first child as well).

On one hand, there is the issue of fertility (some experience difficulties

conceiving a first child in the 40's), but our fertility does go up after the

surgery because of the weight loss, so that may even it out. There's always

the precautionary concern about birth defects (and that amnio, which I don't

think I'm going to opt for since there are other non-invasive techniques

being developed to assess risk for things such as downs syndrome, etc.) but

many, many women have had healthy children in their 40's!

Maybe we'll all be joining some future list 'DS_babies' or something like

that in a few years! ROFL

all the best,

lap ds with gallbladder removal

Dr. Gagner/DR. Quinn assisting/Mt. Sinai/NYC

January 25, 2001

pre-op: 307 lbs, bmi 45 (5'9 " )

now: 259 lbs/bmi 38?