Re: Re: 's Question re: personality change

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Kate,

Ooops. Hope the question didn't cause a problem here.

But it did give me something to think about as well.

Still no way I am changing my mind. DS may 10th.

--- kateseidel@... wrote:

> When I first read this question this morning, my

> response was " I

> don't think there are any personality changes. "

> Then I thought a

> little bit more, and recognized that there are

> certainly a number of

> people who lose weight, and want to recapture part

> of their missed

> youths, and can engage in some dramatically

> different behavior

> (massive dating, flirting, casual sex, etc.).

>

> But while I was at the gym this morning, I thought

> about it some more

> after an episode with my husband. He was going to

> go to the gym with

> me, but decided he didn't feel like it; and he

> didn't want to go for

> a walk, and didn't feel like really leaving the

> house. To be honest,

> this was not a huge problem for me 90 lbs. ago; but

> this morning, I

> found myself annoyed. I can't say my personality is

> changing,

> exactly, but my perceptions and my preferences are.

> Maybe that's the

> same thing. I have so much more available to me

> that I want to do,

> other than watch television, read, and eat. And I

> find that I am

> less tolerant of my poor husband not feeling the

> same way. I am

> thankful he is also pursuing the surgery to deal

> with his weight

> problem. I don't like feeling the way I did this

> morning about the

> man I adore, and who has loved me almost from the

> minute he met me.

> I worry that if he does not lose weight, we could

> continue to drift

> apart.

>

> This is true with some of my other obese friends; a

> lot of the things

> we enjoyed doing together I still enjoy. But there

> is so much else

> available in my life for me, that I find myself

> spending less time

> with them doing obese-friendly activities.

>

> I don't think this answers your question, - but

> you have

> certainly given me a great deal to think about and

> examine in my own

> life.

>

> Kate

>

>

>

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