Guest guest Posted July 12, 2005 Report Share Posted July 12, 2005 I am not sending any negative vibes your way but I think that if you want him here, tell him. I went home (North Carolina) on June 16th and returned my on June 19th (4 days) to go see my dad. Nothing is promised. It is something you have to decide. I wish you luck as you sort this out. Pam Marsh --- chris lopez clopez57@...> wrote: > Hi everyone, > > I need some advice from post-oppers. My 29 year-old > nephew (who by the way was the one who convinced me > to look into surgery to begin with--said I deserved > to do this for myself as he'd watched me struggle > with my weight issues as long as he could remember) > will not be able to be here from Canada for my > surgery as he has to fly to Florida on the 27th the > day of surgery. He has a business obligation and > has to fly to South America on August 2nd. He found > out, however, that he could catch a reasonable > flight on the 28th and come to Sacramento but would > have to leave on the 31st. So my question is > this--since I don't know when I'll get out of the > hospital and don't know how I'll be feeling, should > I have him spend the money to come, in which case we > won't see him again until January or should I have > him wait and come for a week or two in October when > I should be fully ready to enjoy his company? Our > plan always was that he would be here for the > surgery but then a business obligation > took him to Buenos Aires for five months and now he > has to go back. He's perfectly willing to spend the > money and I'd love for him to be here but I'm not so > sure it would be fair to him to spend money for four > days and me not knowing when I'll be home. He's > willing to stay with my daughter until I get out of > the hospital and of course visit me, but we have > made other arrangements for my daughter so it's not > like he needs to be here. Both of them say it's up > to me. I would love to have him here, but we > usually have such a good time doing things together, > I'm leaning towards the time in October. > > What do you all think? What would you do? Would it > be totally unfair and selfish since I won't be > feeling in peak form while he's here? Mind you he's > not coming to be entertained, but I still think it's > kind of selfish on my part to want him to come that > far for just four days. Just don't know what to > do!!! > > Chris > Sacramento > > > > > Enjoy Renewed Energy and Health! > www.frutavida.com/heavensgate > > > > > > __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 12, 2005 Report Share Posted July 12, 2005 I am not sending any negative vibes your way but I think that if you want him here, tell him. I went home (North Carolina) on June 16th and returned my on June 19th (4 days) to go see my dad. Nothing is promised. It is something you have to decide. I wish you luck as you sort this out. Pam Marsh --- chris lopez clopez57@...> wrote: > Hi everyone, > > I need some advice from post-oppers. My 29 year-old > nephew (who by the way was the one who convinced me > to look into surgery to begin with--said I deserved > to do this for myself as he'd watched me struggle > with my weight issues as long as he could remember) > will not be able to be here from Canada for my > surgery as he has to fly to Florida on the 27th the > day of surgery. He has a business obligation and > has to fly to South America on August 2nd. He found > out, however, that he could catch a reasonable > flight on the 28th and come to Sacramento but would > have to leave on the 31st. So my question is > this--since I don't know when I'll get out of the > hospital and don't know how I'll be feeling, should > I have him spend the money to come, in which case we > won't see him again until January or should I have > him wait and come for a week or two in October when > I should be fully ready to enjoy his company? Our > plan always was that he would be here for the > surgery but then a business obligation > took him to Buenos Aires for five months and now he > has to go back. He's perfectly willing to spend the > money and I'd love for him to be here but I'm not so > sure it would be fair to him to spend money for four > days and me not knowing when I'll be home. He's > willing to stay with my daughter until I get out of > the hospital and of course visit me, but we have > made other arrangements for my daughter so it's not > like he needs to be here. Both of them say it's up > to me. I would love to have him here, but we > usually have such a good time doing things together, > I'm leaning towards the time in October. > > What do you all think? What would you do? Would it > be totally unfair and selfish since I won't be > feeling in peak form while he's here? Mind you he's > not coming to be entertained, but I still think it's > kind of selfish on my part to want him to come that > far for just four days. Just don't know what to > do!!! > > Chris > Sacramento > > > > > Enjoy Renewed Energy and Health! > www.frutavida.com/heavensgate > > > > > > __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 12, 2005 Report Share Posted July 12, 2005 I am not sending any negative vibes your way but I think that if you want him here, tell him. I went home (North Carolina) on June 16th and returned my on June 19th (4 days) to go see my dad. Nothing is promised. It is something you have to decide. I wish you luck as you sort this out. Pam Marsh --- chris lopez clopez57@...> wrote: > Hi everyone, > > I need some advice from post-oppers. My 29 year-old > nephew (who by the way was the one who convinced me > to look into surgery to begin with--said I deserved > to do this for myself as he'd watched me struggle > with my weight issues as long as he could remember) > will not be able to be here from Canada for my > surgery as he has to fly to Florida on the 27th the > day of surgery. He has a business obligation and > has to fly to South America on August 2nd. He found > out, however, that he could catch a reasonable > flight on the 28th and come to Sacramento but would > have to leave on the 31st. So my question is > this--since I don't know when I'll get out of the > hospital and don't know how I'll be feeling, should > I have him spend the money to come, in which case we > won't see him again until January or should I have > him wait and come for a week or two in October when > I should be fully ready to enjoy his company? Our > plan always was that he would be here for the > surgery but then a business obligation > took him to Buenos Aires for five months and now he > has to go back. He's perfectly willing to spend the > money and I'd love for him to be here but I'm not so > sure it would be fair to him to spend money for four > days and me not knowing when I'll be home. He's > willing to stay with my daughter until I get out of > the hospital and of course visit me, but we have > made other arrangements for my daughter so it's not > like he needs to be here. Both of them say it's up > to me. I would love to have him here, but we > usually have such a good time doing things together, > I'm leaning towards the time in October. > > What do you all think? What would you do? Would it > be totally unfair and selfish since I won't be > feeling in peak form while he's here? Mind you he's > not coming to be entertained, but I still think it's > kind of selfish on my part to want him to come that > far for just four days. Just don't know what to > do!!! > > Chris > Sacramento > > > > > Enjoy Renewed Energy and Health! > www.frutavida.com/heavensgate > > > > > > __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 12, 2005 Report Share Posted July 12, 2005 I know--my sister was supposed to be here but she is the one who's been missing since April 22nd. I'm just leaning towards if he can't be here for surgery, he might as well wait until October.Pamela A Marsh wrote: I am not sending any negative vibes your way butI think that if you want him here, tell him. I wenthome (North Carolina) on June 16th and returned my onJune 19th (4 days) to go see my dad. Nothing ispromised. It is something you have to decide. I wishyou luck as you sort this out.Pam Marsh--- chris lopez wrote:> Hi everyone,> > I need some advice from post-oppers. My 29 year-old> nephew (who by the way was the one who convinced me> to look into surgery to begin with--said I deserved> to do this for myself as he'd watched me struggle> with my weight issues as long as he could remember)> will not be able to be here from Canada for my> surgery as he has to fly to Florida on the 27th the> day of surgery. He has a business obligation and> has to fly to South America on August 2nd. He found> out, however, that he could catch a reasonable> flight on the 28th and come to Sacramento but would> have to leave on the 31st. So my question is> this--since I don't know when I'll get out of the> hospital and don't know how I'll be feeling, should> I have him spend the money to come, in which case we> won't see him again until January or should I have> him wait and come for a week or two in October when> I should be fully ready to enjoy his company? Our> plan always was that he would be here for the> surgery but then a business obligation> took him to Buenos Aires for five months and now he> has to go back. He's perfectly willing to spend the> money and I'd love for him to be here but I'm not so> sure it would be fair to him to spend money for four> days and me not knowing when I'll be home. He's> willing to stay with my daughter until I get out of> the hospital and of course visit me, but we have> made other arrangements for my daughter so it's not> like he needs to be here. Both of them say it's up> to me. I would love to have him here, but we> usually have such a good time doing things together,> I'm leaning towards the time in October.> > What do you all think? What would you do? Would it> be totally unfair and selfish since I won't be> feeling in peak form while he's here? Mind you he's> not coming to be entertained, but I still think it's> kind of selfish on my part to want him to come that> far for just four days. Just don't know what to> do!!!> > Chris> Sacramento> > > > > Enjoy Renewed Energy and Health!> www.frutavida.com/heavensgate > > > > > > __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 12, 2005 Report Share Posted July 12, 2005 HI Chris if it were me i would want him to come when i was farther along post op and could do funner things together. just my two cents colleenchris lopez wrote: Hi everyone, I need some advice from post-oppers. My 29 year-old nephew (who by the way was the one who convinced me to look into surgery to begin with--said I deserved to do this for myself as he'd watched me struggle with my weight issues as long as he could remember) will not be able to be here from Canada for my surgery as he has to fly to Florida on the 27th the day of surgery. He has a business obligation and has to fly to South America on August 2nd. He found out, however, that he could catch a reasonable flight on the 28th and come to Sacramento but would have to leave on the 31st. So my question is this--since I don't know when I'll get out of the hospital and don't know how I'll be feeling, should I have him spend the money to come, in which case we won't see him again until January or should I have him wait and come for a week or two in October when I should be fully ready to enjoy his company? Our plan always was that he would be here for the surgery but then a business obligation took him to Buenos Aires for five months and now he has to go back. He's perfectly willing to spend the money and I'd love for him to be here but I'm not so sure it would be fair to him to spend money for four days and me not knowing when I'll be home. He's willing to stay with my daughter until I get out of the hospital and of course visit me, but we have made other arrangements for my daughter so it's not like he needs to be here. Both of them say it's up to me. I would love to have him here, but we usually have such a good time doing things together, I'm leaning towards the time in October. What do you all think? What would you do? Would it be totally unfair and selfish since I won't be feeling in peak form while he's here? Mind you he's not coming to be entertained, but I still think it's kind of selfish on my part to want him to come that far for just four days. Just don't know what to do!!! Chris Sacramento Enjoy Renewed Energy and Health! www.frutavida.com/heavensgate Colleen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 12, 2005 Report Share Posted July 12, 2005 HI Chris if it were me i would want him to come when i was farther along post op and could do funner things together. just my two cents colleenchris lopez wrote: Hi everyone, I need some advice from post-oppers. My 29 year-old nephew (who by the way was the one who convinced me to look into surgery to begin with--said I deserved to do this for myself as he'd watched me struggle with my weight issues as long as he could remember) will not be able to be here from Canada for my surgery as he has to fly to Florida on the 27th the day of surgery. He has a business obligation and has to fly to South America on August 2nd. He found out, however, that he could catch a reasonable flight on the 28th and come to Sacramento but would have to leave on the 31st. So my question is this--since I don't know when I'll get out of the hospital and don't know how I'll be feeling, should I have him spend the money to come, in which case we won't see him again until January or should I have him wait and come for a week or two in October when I should be fully ready to enjoy his company? Our plan always was that he would be here for the surgery but then a business obligation took him to Buenos Aires for five months and now he has to go back. He's perfectly willing to spend the money and I'd love for him to be here but I'm not so sure it would be fair to him to spend money for four days and me not knowing when I'll be home. He's willing to stay with my daughter until I get out of the hospital and of course visit me, but we have made other arrangements for my daughter so it's not like he needs to be here. Both of them say it's up to me. I would love to have him here, but we usually have such a good time doing things together, I'm leaning towards the time in October. What do you all think? What would you do? Would it be totally unfair and selfish since I won't be feeling in peak form while he's here? Mind you he's not coming to be entertained, but I still think it's kind of selfish on my part to want him to come that far for just four days. Just don't know what to do!!! Chris Sacramento Enjoy Renewed Energy and Health! www.frutavida.com/heavensgate Colleen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 12, 2005 Report Share Posted July 12, 2005 HI Chris if it were me i would want him to come when i was farther along post op and could do funner things together. just my two cents colleenchris lopez wrote: Hi everyone, I need some advice from post-oppers. My 29 year-old nephew (who by the way was the one who convinced me to look into surgery to begin with--said I deserved to do this for myself as he'd watched me struggle with my weight issues as long as he could remember) will not be able to be here from Canada for my surgery as he has to fly to Florida on the 27th the day of surgery. He has a business obligation and has to fly to South America on August 2nd. He found out, however, that he could catch a reasonable flight on the 28th and come to Sacramento but would have to leave on the 31st. So my question is this--since I don't know when I'll get out of the hospital and don't know how I'll be feeling, should I have him spend the money to come, in which case we won't see him again until January or should I have him wait and come for a week or two in October when I should be fully ready to enjoy his company? Our plan always was that he would be here for the surgery but then a business obligation took him to Buenos Aires for five months and now he has to go back. He's perfectly willing to spend the money and I'd love for him to be here but I'm not so sure it would be fair to him to spend money for four days and me not knowing when I'll be home. He's willing to stay with my daughter until I get out of the hospital and of course visit me, but we have made other arrangements for my daughter so it's not like he needs to be here. Both of them say it's up to me. I would love to have him here, but we usually have such a good time doing things together, I'm leaning towards the time in October. What do you all think? What would you do? Would it be totally unfair and selfish since I won't be feeling in peak form while he's here? Mind you he's not coming to be entertained, but I still think it's kind of selfish on my part to want him to come that far for just four days. Just don't know what to do!!! Chris Sacramento Enjoy Renewed Energy and Health! www.frutavida.com/heavensgate Colleen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 12, 2005 Report Share Posted July 12, 2005 Will your procedure be done lap or open? It makes a HUGE difference in your ability to do things post-op. If lap, I would think you will feel well enough to enjoy his visit, as long as you don't have any complications. You will likely tire more easily, but if you can sneak away for a nap now and then things should be fine. You're with Kaiser, aren't you? Most Kaiser patients only stay in the hospital a day or two when they have lap RNY. For open, it may be three days in-hospital. If he is able to stay longer in October, and you would rather have him come then, then by all means ask him to do so. He sounds like he would want to do what is best for you. Either way, you'll enjoy his visit. Laurie W. Urgent Advice Needed > Hi everyone, > > I need some advice from post-oppers. My 29 year-old nephew (who by the > way was the one who convinced me to look into surgery to begin with--said > I deserved to do this for myself as he'd watched me struggle with my > weight issues as long as he could remember) will not be able to be here > from Canada for my surgery as he has to fly to Florida on the 27th the day > of surgery. He has a business obligation and has to fly to South America > on August 2nd. He found out, however, that he could catch a reasonable > flight on the 28th and come to Sacramento but would have to leave on the > 31st. So my question is this--since I don't know when I'll get out of the > hospital and don't know how I'll be feeling, should I have him spend the > money to come, in which case we won't see him again until January or > should I have him wait and come for a week or two in October when I should > be fully ready to enjoy his company? Our plan always was that he would be > here for the surgery but then a business obligation > took him to Buenos Aires for five months and now he has to go back. He's > perfectly willing to spend the money and I'd love for him to be here but > I'm not so sure it would be fair to him to spend money for four days and > me not knowing when I'll be home. He's willing to stay with my daughter > until I get out of the hospital and of course visit me, but we have made > other arrangements for my daughter so it's not like he needs to be here. > Both of them say it's up to me. I would love to have him here, but we > usually have such a good time doing things together, I'm leaning towards > the time in October. > > What do you all think? What would you do? Would it be totally unfair and > selfish since I won't be feeling in peak form while he's here? Mind you > he's not coming to be entertained, but I still think it's kind of selfish > on my part to want him to come that far for just four days. Just don't > know what to do!!! > > Chris > Sacramento > > > > > Enjoy Renewed Energy and Health! > www.frutavida.com/heavensgate > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 12, 2005 Report Share Posted July 12, 2005 Will your procedure be done lap or open? It makes a HUGE difference in your ability to do things post-op. If lap, I would think you will feel well enough to enjoy his visit, as long as you don't have any complications. You will likely tire more easily, but if you can sneak away for a nap now and then things should be fine. You're with Kaiser, aren't you? Most Kaiser patients only stay in the hospital a day or two when they have lap RNY. For open, it may be three days in-hospital. If he is able to stay longer in October, and you would rather have him come then, then by all means ask him to do so. He sounds like he would want to do what is best for you. Either way, you'll enjoy his visit. Laurie W. Urgent Advice Needed > Hi everyone, > > I need some advice from post-oppers. My 29 year-old nephew (who by the > way was the one who convinced me to look into surgery to begin with--said > I deserved to do this for myself as he'd watched me struggle with my > weight issues as long as he could remember) will not be able to be here > from Canada for my surgery as he has to fly to Florida on the 27th the day > of surgery. He has a business obligation and has to fly to South America > on August 2nd. He found out, however, that he could catch a reasonable > flight on the 28th and come to Sacramento but would have to leave on the > 31st. So my question is this--since I don't know when I'll get out of the > hospital and don't know how I'll be feeling, should I have him spend the > money to come, in which case we won't see him again until January or > should I have him wait and come for a week or two in October when I should > be fully ready to enjoy his company? Our plan always was that he would be > here for the surgery but then a business obligation > took him to Buenos Aires for five months and now he has to go back. He's > perfectly willing to spend the money and I'd love for him to be here but > I'm not so sure it would be fair to him to spend money for four days and > me not knowing when I'll be home. He's willing to stay with my daughter > until I get out of the hospital and of course visit me, but we have made > other arrangements for my daughter so it's not like he needs to be here. > Both of them say it's up to me. I would love to have him here, but we > usually have such a good time doing things together, I'm leaning towards > the time in October. > > What do you all think? What would you do? Would it be totally unfair and > selfish since I won't be feeling in peak form while he's here? Mind you > he's not coming to be entertained, but I still think it's kind of selfish > on my part to want him to come that far for just four days. Just don't > know what to do!!! > > Chris > Sacramento > > > > > Enjoy Renewed Energy and Health! > www.frutavida.com/heavensgate > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 12, 2005 Report Share Posted July 12, 2005 Will your procedure be done lap or open? It makes a HUGE difference in your ability to do things post-op. If lap, I would think you will feel well enough to enjoy his visit, as long as you don't have any complications. You will likely tire more easily, but if you can sneak away for a nap now and then things should be fine. You're with Kaiser, aren't you? Most Kaiser patients only stay in the hospital a day or two when they have lap RNY. For open, it may be three days in-hospital. If he is able to stay longer in October, and you would rather have him come then, then by all means ask him to do so. He sounds like he would want to do what is best for you. Either way, you'll enjoy his visit. Laurie W. Urgent Advice Needed > Hi everyone, > > I need some advice from post-oppers. My 29 year-old nephew (who by the > way was the one who convinced me to look into surgery to begin with--said > I deserved to do this for myself as he'd watched me struggle with my > weight issues as long as he could remember) will not be able to be here > from Canada for my surgery as he has to fly to Florida on the 27th the day > of surgery. He has a business obligation and has to fly to South America > on August 2nd. He found out, however, that he could catch a reasonable > flight on the 28th and come to Sacramento but would have to leave on the > 31st. So my question is this--since I don't know when I'll get out of the > hospital and don't know how I'll be feeling, should I have him spend the > money to come, in which case we won't see him again until January or > should I have him wait and come for a week or two in October when I should > be fully ready to enjoy his company? Our plan always was that he would be > here for the surgery but then a business obligation > took him to Buenos Aires for five months and now he has to go back. He's > perfectly willing to spend the money and I'd love for him to be here but > I'm not so sure it would be fair to him to spend money for four days and > me not knowing when I'll be home. He's willing to stay with my daughter > until I get out of the hospital and of course visit me, but we have made > other arrangements for my daughter so it's not like he needs to be here. > Both of them say it's up to me. I would love to have him here, but we > usually have such a good time doing things together, I'm leaning towards > the time in October. > > What do you all think? What would you do? Would it be totally unfair and > selfish since I won't be feeling in peak form while he's here? Mind you > he's not coming to be entertained, but I still think it's kind of selfish > on my part to want him to come that far for just four days. Just don't > know what to do!!! > > Chris > Sacramento > > > > > Enjoy Renewed Energy and Health! > www.frutavida.com/heavensgate > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 12, 2005 Report Share Posted July 12, 2005 If he is a source of comfort for you by all means have him come. I think he probably wants to come to make sure you are recouperating ok. He will understand that you cant be entertaining him, I think he probably feels a need to take care of you and be with you for support even if its after the fact. Huggles > Will your procedure be done lap or open? It makes a HUGE difference in your > ability to do things post-op. If lap, I would think you will feel well > enough to enjoy his visit, as long as you don't have any complications. You > will likely tire more easily, but if you can sneak away for a nap now and > then things should be fine. You're with Kaiser, aren't you? Most Kaiser > patients only stay in the hospital a day or two when they have lap RNY. For > open, it may be three days in-hospital. > > If he is able to stay longer in October, and you would rather have him come > then, then by all means ask him to do so. He sounds like he would want to > do what is best for you. Either way, you'll enjoy his visit. > > > Laurie W. > > Urgent Advice Needed > > > > Hi everyone, > > > > I need some advice from post-oppers. My 29 year-old nephew (who by the > > way was the one who convinced me to look into surgery to begin with--said > > I deserved to do this for myself as he'd watched me struggle with my > > weight issues as long as he could remember) will not be able to be here > > from Canada for my surgery as he has to fly to Florida on the 27th the day > > of surgery. He has a business obligation and has to fly to South America > > on August 2nd. He found out, however, that he could catch a reasonable > > flight on the 28th and come to Sacramento but would have to leave on the > > 31st. So my question is this--since I don't know when I'll get out of the > > hospital and don't know how I'll be feeling, should I have him spend the > > money to come, in which case we won't see him again until January or > > should I have him wait and come for a week or two in October when I should > > be fully ready to enjoy his company? Our plan always was that he would be > > here for the surgery but then a business obligation > > took him to Buenos Aires for five months and now he has to go back. He's > > perfectly willing to spend the money and I'd love for him to be here but > > I'm not so sure it would be fair to him to spend money for four days and > > me not knowing when I'll be home. He's willing to stay with my daughter > > until I get out of the hospital and of course visit me, but we have made > > other arrangements for my daughter so it's not like he needs to be here. > > Both of them say it's up to me. I would love to have him here, but we > > usually have such a good time doing things together, I'm leaning towards > > the time in October. > > > > What do you all think? What would you do? Would it be totally unfair and > > selfish since I won't be feeling in peak form while he's here? Mind you > > he's not coming to be entertained, but I still think it's kind of selfish > > on my part to want him to come that far for just four days. Just don't > > know what to do!!! > > > > Chris > > Sacramento > > > > > > > > > > Enjoy Renewed Energy and Health! > > www.frutavida.com/heavensgate > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 12, 2005 Report Share Posted July 12, 2005 If he is a source of comfort for you by all means have him come. I think he probably wants to come to make sure you are recouperating ok. He will understand that you cant be entertaining him, I think he probably feels a need to take care of you and be with you for support even if its after the fact. Huggles > Will your procedure be done lap or open? It makes a HUGE difference in your > ability to do things post-op. If lap, I would think you will feel well > enough to enjoy his visit, as long as you don't have any complications. You > will likely tire more easily, but if you can sneak away for a nap now and > then things should be fine. You're with Kaiser, aren't you? Most Kaiser > patients only stay in the hospital a day or two when they have lap RNY. For > open, it may be three days in-hospital. > > If he is able to stay longer in October, and you would rather have him come > then, then by all means ask him to do so. He sounds like he would want to > do what is best for you. Either way, you'll enjoy his visit. > > > Laurie W. > > Urgent Advice Needed > > > > Hi everyone, > > > > I need some advice from post-oppers. My 29 year-old nephew (who by the > > way was the one who convinced me to look into surgery to begin with--said > > I deserved to do this for myself as he'd watched me struggle with my > > weight issues as long as he could remember) will not be able to be here > > from Canada for my surgery as he has to fly to Florida on the 27th the day > > of surgery. He has a business obligation and has to fly to South America > > on August 2nd. He found out, however, that he could catch a reasonable > > flight on the 28th and come to Sacramento but would have to leave on the > > 31st. So my question is this--since I don't know when I'll get out of the > > hospital and don't know how I'll be feeling, should I have him spend the > > money to come, in which case we won't see him again until January or > > should I have him wait and come for a week or two in October when I should > > be fully ready to enjoy his company? Our plan always was that he would be > > here for the surgery but then a business obligation > > took him to Buenos Aires for five months and now he has to go back. He's > > perfectly willing to spend the money and I'd love for him to be here but > > I'm not so sure it would be fair to him to spend money for four days and > > me not knowing when I'll be home. He's willing to stay with my daughter > > until I get out of the hospital and of course visit me, but we have made > > other arrangements for my daughter so it's not like he needs to be here. > > Both of them say it's up to me. I would love to have him here, but we > > usually have such a good time doing things together, I'm leaning towards > > the time in October. > > > > What do you all think? What would you do? Would it be totally unfair and > > selfish since I won't be feeling in peak form while he's here? Mind you > > he's not coming to be entertained, but I still think it's kind of selfish > > on my part to want him to come that far for just four days. Just don't > > know what to do!!! > > > > Chris > > Sacramento > > > > > > > > > > Enjoy Renewed Energy and Health! > > www.frutavida.com/heavensgate > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 13, 2005 Report Share Posted July 13, 2005 Many thanks to all who responded. We pretty much decided that we wanted him to come now. Airline travel is such a frustrating thing. By the time we talked last night, the available dates had changed and he would only be here from Thursday to Saturday instead of Sunday and the price had DOUBLED! We were all pretty disappointed but decided that double the price was nuts for only three days. He said he'd do it if I really wanted him to but I couldn't see him spending that kind of money. So, we decided to look at later in the year AND we might go to Montreal for the holidays. I really appreciated all your thoughful and helpful replies. Chris 13 days and counting!! Diane Duenas wrote: If he is a source of comfort for you by all means have him come. I think he probably wants to come to make sure you are recouperating ok. He will understand that you cant be entertaining him, I think he probably feels a need to take care of you and be with you for support even if its after the fact.Huggles> Will your procedure be done lap or open? It makes a HUGE difference in your > ability to do things post-op. If lap, I would think you will feel well > enough to enjoy his visit, as long as you don't have any complications. You > will likely tire more easily, but if you can sneak away for a nap now and > then things should be fine. You're with Kaiser, aren't you? Most Kaiser > patients only stay in the hospital a day or two when they have lap RNY. For > open, it may be three days in-hospital.> > If he is able to stay longer in October, and you would rather have him come > then, then by all means ask him to do so. He sounds like he would want to > do what is best for you. Either way, you'll enjoy his visit.> > > Laurie W.> > Urgent Advice Needed> > > > Hi everyone,> >> > I need some advice from post-oppers. My 29 year-old nephew (who by the > > way was the one who convinced me to look into surgery to begin with--said > > I deserved to do this for myself as he'd watched me struggle with my > > weight issues as long as he could remember) will not be able to be here > > from Canada for my surgery as he has to fly to Florida on the 27th the day > > of surgery. He has a business obligation and has to fly to South America > > on August 2nd. He found out, however, that he could catch a reasonable > > flight on the 28th and come to Sacramento but would have to leave on the > > 31st. So my question is this--since I don't know when I'll get out of the > > hospital and don't know how I'll be feeling, should I have him spend the > > money to come, in which case we won't see him again until January or > > should I have him wait and come for a week or two in October when I should > > be fully ready to enjoy his company? Our plan always was that he would be > > here for the surgery but then a business obligation> > took him to Buenos Aires for five months and now he has to go back. He's > > perfectly willing to spend the money and I'd love for him to be here but > > I'm not so sure it would be fair to him to spend money for four days and > > me not knowing when I'll be home. He's willing to stay with my daughter > > until I get out of the hospital and of course visit me, but we have made > > other arrangements for my daughter so it's not like he needs to be here. > > Both of them say it's up to me. I would love to have him here, but we > > usually have such a good time doing things together, I'm leaning towards > > the time in October.> >> > What do you all think? What would you do? Would it be totally unfair and > > selfish since I won't be feeling in peak form while he's here? Mind you > > he's not coming to be entertained, but I still think it's kind of selfish > > on my part to want him to come that far for just four days. Just don't > > know what to do!!!> >> > Chris> > Sacramento> >> >> > > > > > Enjoy Renewed Energy and Health!> > www.frutavida.com/heavensgate> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 13, 2005 Report Share Posted July 13, 2005 Many thanks to all who responded. We pretty much decided that we wanted him to come now. Airline travel is such a frustrating thing. By the time we talked last night, the available dates had changed and he would only be here from Thursday to Saturday instead of Sunday and the price had DOUBLED! We were all pretty disappointed but decided that double the price was nuts for only three days. He said he'd do it if I really wanted him to but I couldn't see him spending that kind of money. So, we decided to look at later in the year AND we might go to Montreal for the holidays. I really appreciated all your thoughful and helpful replies. Chris 13 days and counting!! Diane Duenas wrote: If he is a source of comfort for you by all means have him come. I think he probably wants to come to make sure you are recouperating ok. He will understand that you cant be entertaining him, I think he probably feels a need to take care of you and be with you for support even if its after the fact.Huggles> Will your procedure be done lap or open? It makes a HUGE difference in your > ability to do things post-op. If lap, I would think you will feel well > enough to enjoy his visit, as long as you don't have any complications. You > will likely tire more easily, but if you can sneak away for a nap now and > then things should be fine. You're with Kaiser, aren't you? Most Kaiser > patients only stay in the hospital a day or two when they have lap RNY. For > open, it may be three days in-hospital.> > If he is able to stay longer in October, and you would rather have him come > then, then by all means ask him to do so. He sounds like he would want to > do what is best for you. Either way, you'll enjoy his visit.> > > Laurie W.> > Urgent Advice Needed> > > > Hi everyone,> >> > I need some advice from post-oppers. My 29 year-old nephew (who by the > > way was the one who convinced me to look into surgery to begin with--said > > I deserved to do this for myself as he'd watched me struggle with my > > weight issues as long as he could remember) will not be able to be here > > from Canada for my surgery as he has to fly to Florida on the 27th the day > > of surgery. He has a business obligation and has to fly to South America > > on August 2nd. He found out, however, that he could catch a reasonable > > flight on the 28th and come to Sacramento but would have to leave on the > > 31st. So my question is this--since I don't know when I'll get out of the > > hospital and don't know how I'll be feeling, should I have him spend the > > money to come, in which case we won't see him again until January or > > should I have him wait and come for a week or two in October when I should > > be fully ready to enjoy his company? Our plan always was that he would be > > here for the surgery but then a business obligation> > took him to Buenos Aires for five months and now he has to go back. He's > > perfectly willing to spend the money and I'd love for him to be here but > > I'm not so sure it would be fair to him to spend money for four days and > > me not knowing when I'll be home. He's willing to stay with my daughter > > until I get out of the hospital and of course visit me, but we have made > > other arrangements for my daughter so it's not like he needs to be here. > > Both of them say it's up to me. I would love to have him here, but we > > usually have such a good time doing things together, I'm leaning towards > > the time in October.> >> > What do you all think? What would you do? Would it be totally unfair and > > selfish since I won't be feeling in peak form while he's here? Mind you > > he's not coming to be entertained, but I still think it's kind of selfish > > on my part to want him to come that far for just four days. Just don't > > know what to do!!!> >> > Chris> > Sacramento> >> >> > > > > > Enjoy Renewed Energy and Health!> > www.frutavida.com/heavensgate> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 13, 2005 Report Share Posted July 13, 2005 Chris- i hope this is not an uncomfortable question but what is the news on your sister ? i was off the letters for awhile and maybe i missed something. I hope things are ok colleenchris lopez wrote: Many thanks to all who responded. We pretty much decided that we wanted him to come now. Airline travel is such a frustrating thing. By the time we talked last night, the available dates had changed and he would only be here from Thursday to Saturday instead of Sunday and the price had DOUBLED! We were all pretty disappointed but decided that double the price was nuts for only three days. He said he'd do it if I really wanted him to but I couldn't see him spending that kind of money. So, we decided to look at later in the year AND we might go to Montreal for the holidays. I really appreciated all your thoughful and helpful replies. Chris 13 days and counting!! Diane Duenas wrote: If he is a source of comfort for you by all means have him come. I think he probably wants to come to make sure you are recouperating ok. He will understand that you cant be entertaining him, I think he probably feels a need to take care of you and be with you for support even if its after the fact.Huggles> Will your procedure be done lap or open? It makes a HUGE difference in your > ability to do things post-op. If lap, I would think you will feel well > enough to enjoy his visit, as long as you don't have any complications. You > will likely tire more easily, but if you can sneak away for a nap now and > then things should be fine. You're with Kaiser, aren't you? Most Kaiser > patients only stay in the hospital a day or two when they have lap RNY. For > open, it may be three days in-hospital.> > If he is able to stay longer in October, and you would rather have him come > then, then by all means ask him to do so. He sounds like he would want to > do what is best for you. Either way, you'll enjoy his visit.> > > Laurie W.> > Urgent Advice Needed> > > > Hi everyone,> >> > I need some advice from post-oppers. My 29 year-old nephew (who by the > > way was the one who convinced me to look into surgery to begin with--said > > I deserved to do this for myself as he'd watched me struggle with my > > weight issues as long as he could remember) will not be able to be here > > from Canada for my surgery as he has to fly to Florida on the 27th the day > > of surgery. He has a business obligation and has to fly to South America > > on August 2nd. He found out, however, that he could catch a reasonable > > flight on the 28th and come to Sacramento but would have to leave on the > > 31st. So my question is this--since I don't know when I'll get out of the > > hospital and don't know how I'll be feeling, should I have him spend the > > money to come, in which case we won't see him again until January or > > should I have him wait and come for a week or two in October when I should > > be fully ready to enjoy his company? Our plan always was that he would be > > here for the surgery but then a business obligation> > took him to Buenos Aires for five months and now he has to go back. He's > > perfectly willing to spend the money and I'd love for him to be here but > > I'm not so sure it would be fair to him to spend money for four days and > > me not knowing when I'll be home. He's willing to stay with my daughter > > until I get out of the hospital and of course visit me, but we have made > > other arrangements for my daughter so it's not like he needs to be here. > > Both of them say it's up to me. I would love to have him here, but we > > usually have such a good time doing things together, I'm leaning towards > > the time in October.> >> > What do you all think? What would you do? Would it be totally unfair and > > selfish since I won't be feeling in peak form while he's here? Mind you > > he's not coming to be entertained, but I still think it's kind of selfish > > on my part to want him to come that far for just four days. Just don't > > know what to do!!!> >> > Chris> > Sacramento> >> >> > > > > > Enjoy Renewed Energy and Health!> > www.frutavida.com/heavensgate> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 13, 2005 Report Share Posted July 13, 2005 Chris- i hope this is not an uncomfortable question but what is the news on your sister ? i was off the letters for awhile and maybe i missed something. I hope things are ok colleenchris lopez wrote: Many thanks to all who responded. We pretty much decided that we wanted him to come now. Airline travel is such a frustrating thing. By the time we talked last night, the available dates had changed and he would only be here from Thursday to Saturday instead of Sunday and the price had DOUBLED! We were all pretty disappointed but decided that double the price was nuts for only three days. He said he'd do it if I really wanted him to but I couldn't see him spending that kind of money. So, we decided to look at later in the year AND we might go to Montreal for the holidays. I really appreciated all your thoughful and helpful replies. Chris 13 days and counting!! Diane Duenas wrote: If he is a source of comfort for you by all means have him come. I think he probably wants to come to make sure you are recouperating ok. He will understand that you cant be entertaining him, I think he probably feels a need to take care of you and be with you for support even if its after the fact.Huggles> Will your procedure be done lap or open? It makes a HUGE difference in your > ability to do things post-op. If lap, I would think you will feel well > enough to enjoy his visit, as long as you don't have any complications. You > will likely tire more easily, but if you can sneak away for a nap now and > then things should be fine. You're with Kaiser, aren't you? Most Kaiser > patients only stay in the hospital a day or two when they have lap RNY. For > open, it may be three days in-hospital.> > If he is able to stay longer in October, and you would rather have him come > then, then by all means ask him to do so. He sounds like he would want to > do what is best for you. Either way, you'll enjoy his visit.> > > Laurie W.> > Urgent Advice Needed> > > > Hi everyone,> >> > I need some advice from post-oppers. My 29 year-old nephew (who by the > > way was the one who convinced me to look into surgery to begin with--said > > I deserved to do this for myself as he'd watched me struggle with my > > weight issues as long as he could remember) will not be able to be here > > from Canada for my surgery as he has to fly to Florida on the 27th the day > > of surgery. He has a business obligation and has to fly to South America > > on August 2nd. He found out, however, that he could catch a reasonable > > flight on the 28th and come to Sacramento but would have to leave on the > > 31st. So my question is this--since I don't know when I'll get out of the > > hospital and don't know how I'll be feeling, should I have him spend the > > money to come, in which case we won't see him again until January or > > should I have him wait and come for a week or two in October when I should > > be fully ready to enjoy his company? Our plan always was that he would be > > here for the surgery but then a business obligation> > took him to Buenos Aires for five months and now he has to go back. He's > > perfectly willing to spend the money and I'd love for him to be here but > > I'm not so sure it would be fair to him to spend money for four days and > > me not knowing when I'll be home. He's willing to stay with my daughter > > until I get out of the hospital and of course visit me, but we have made > > other arrangements for my daughter so it's not like he needs to be here. > > Both of them say it's up to me. I would love to have him here, but we > > usually have such a good time doing things together, I'm leaning towards > > the time in October.> >> > What do you all think? What would you do? Would it be totally unfair and > > selfish since I won't be feeling in peak form while he's here? Mind you > > he's not coming to be entertained, but I still think it's kind of selfish > > on my part to want him to come that far for just four days. Just don't > > know what to do!!!> >> > Chris> > Sacramento> >> >> > > > > > Enjoy Renewed Energy and Health!> > www.frutavida.com/heavensgate> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 13, 2005 Report Share Posted July 13, 2005 Chris- i hope this is not an uncomfortable question but what is the news on your sister ? i was off the letters for awhile and maybe i missed something. I hope things are ok colleenchris lopez wrote: Many thanks to all who responded. We pretty much decided that we wanted him to come now. Airline travel is such a frustrating thing. By the time we talked last night, the available dates had changed and he would only be here from Thursday to Saturday instead of Sunday and the price had DOUBLED! We were all pretty disappointed but decided that double the price was nuts for only three days. He said he'd do it if I really wanted him to but I couldn't see him spending that kind of money. So, we decided to look at later in the year AND we might go to Montreal for the holidays. I really appreciated all your thoughful and helpful replies. Chris 13 days and counting!! Diane Duenas wrote: If he is a source of comfort for you by all means have him come. I think he probably wants to come to make sure you are recouperating ok. He will understand that you cant be entertaining him, I think he probably feels a need to take care of you and be with you for support even if its after the fact.Huggles> Will your procedure be done lap or open? It makes a HUGE difference in your > ability to do things post-op. If lap, I would think you will feel well > enough to enjoy his visit, as long as you don't have any complications. You > will likely tire more easily, but if you can sneak away for a nap now and > then things should be fine. You're with Kaiser, aren't you? Most Kaiser > patients only stay in the hospital a day or two when they have lap RNY. For > open, it may be three days in-hospital.> > If he is able to stay longer in October, and you would rather have him come > then, then by all means ask him to do so. He sounds like he would want to > do what is best for you. Either way, you'll enjoy his visit.> > > Laurie W.> > Urgent Advice Needed> > > > Hi everyone,> >> > I need some advice from post-oppers. My 29 year-old nephew (who by the > > way was the one who convinced me to look into surgery to begin with--said > > I deserved to do this for myself as he'd watched me struggle with my > > weight issues as long as he could remember) will not be able to be here > > from Canada for my surgery as he has to fly to Florida on the 27th the day > > of surgery. He has a business obligation and has to fly to South America > > on August 2nd. He found out, however, that he could catch a reasonable > > flight on the 28th and come to Sacramento but would have to leave on the > > 31st. So my question is this--since I don't know when I'll get out of the > > hospital and don't know how I'll be feeling, should I have him spend the > > money to come, in which case we won't see him again until January or > > should I have him wait and come for a week or two in October when I should > > be fully ready to enjoy his company? Our plan always was that he would be > > here for the surgery but then a business obligation> > took him to Buenos Aires for five months and now he has to go back. He's > > perfectly willing to spend the money and I'd love for him to be here but > > I'm not so sure it would be fair to him to spend money for four days and > > me not knowing when I'll be home. He's willing to stay with my daughter > > until I get out of the hospital and of course visit me, but we have made > > other arrangements for my daughter so it's not like he needs to be here. > > Both of them say it's up to me. I would love to have him here, but we > > usually have such a good time doing things together, I'm leaning towards > > the time in October.> >> > What do you all think? What would you do? Would it be totally unfair and > > selfish since I won't be feeling in peak form while he's here? Mind you > > he's not coming to be entertained, but I still think it's kind of selfish > > on my part to want him to come that far for just four days. Just don't > > know what to do!!!> >> > Chris> > Sacramento> >> >> > > > > > Enjoy Renewed Energy and Health!> > www.frutavida.com/heavensgate> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 13, 2005 Report Share Posted July 13, 2005 Hi Colleen, (And others as well) No, it is not uncomfortable as I've come to a certain peace with the whole situation. The news is there is no news. We have not heard anything, and the police have run out of leads it seems. Since she's not a "high profile" case, they're not giving it much attention. It's crazy I know, but since we don't know anything, I had to come to a point where I couldn't let it consume my life otherwise I would most likely have gone off the deep end. I figure when the timing is right, the Lord will lead us to resolution and in the meantime, I have to stay sane. the reality is we may never know what happened, especially if she disappeared on a voluntary basis. ChrisColleen Garner wrote: Chris- i hope this is not an uncomfortable question but what is the news on your sister ? i was off the letters for awhile and maybe i missed something. I hope things are ok colleenchris lopez wrote: Many thanks to all who responded. We pretty much decided that we wanted him to come now. Airline travel is such a frustrating thing. By the time we talked last night, the available dates had changed and he would only be here from Thursday to Saturday instead of Sunday and the price had DOUBLED! We were all pretty disappointed but decided that double the price was nuts for only three days. He said he'd do it if I really wanted him to but I couldn't see him spending that kind of money. So, we decided to look at later in the year AND we might go to Montreal for the holidays. I really appreciated all your thoughful and helpful replies. Chris 13 days and counting!! Diane Duenas wrote: If he is a source of comfort for you by all means have him come. I think he probably wants to come to make sure you are recouperating ok. He will understand that you cant be entertaining him, I think he probably feels a need to take care of you and be with you for support even if its after the fact.Huggles> Will your procedure be done lap or open? It makes a HUGE difference in your > ability to do things post-op. If lap, I would think you will feel well > enough to enjoy his visit, as long as you don't have any complications. You > will likely tire more easily, but if you can sneak away for a nap now and > then things should be fine. You're with Kaiser, aren't you? Most Kaiser > patients only stay in the hospital a day or two when they have lap RNY. For > open, it may be three days in-hospital.> > If he is able to stay longer in October, and you would rather have him come > then, then by all means ask him to do so. He sounds like he would want to > do what is best for you. Either way, you'll enjoy his visit.> > > Laurie W.> > Urgent Advice Needed> > > > Hi everyone,> >> > I need some advice from post-oppers. My 29 year-old nephew (who by the > > way was the one who convinced me to look into surgery to begin with--said > > I deserved to do this for myself as he'd watched me struggle with my > > weight issues as long as he could remember) will not be able to be here > > from Canada for my surgery as he has to fly to Florida on the 27th the day > > of surgery. He has a business obligation and has to fly to South America > > on August 2nd. He found out, however, that he could catch a reasonable > > flight on the 28th and come to Sacramento but would have to leave on the > > 31st. So my question is this--since I don't know when I'll get out of the > > hospital and don't know how I'll be feeling, should I have him spend the > > money to come, in which case we won't see him again until January or > > should I have him wait and come for a week or two in October when I should > > be fully ready to enjoy his company? Our plan always was that he would be > > here for the surgery but then a business obligation> > took him to Buenos Aires for five months and now he has to go back. He's > > perfectly willing to spend the money and I'd love for him to be here but > > I'm not so sure it would be fair to him to spend money for four days and > > me not knowing when I'll be home. He's willing to stay with my daughter > > until I get out of the hospital and of course visit me, but we have made > > other arrangements for my daughter so it's not like he needs to be here. > > Both of them say it's up to me. I would love to have him here, but we > > usually have such a good time doing things together, I'm leaning towards > > the time in October.> >> > What do you all think? What would you do? Would it be totally unfair and > > selfish since I won't be feeling in peak form while he's here? Mind you > > he's not coming to be entertained, but I still think it's kind of selfish > > on my part to want him to come that far for just four days. Just don't > > know what to do!!!> >> > Chris> > Sacramento> >> >> > > > > > Enjoy Renewed Energy and Health!> > www.frutavida.com/heavensgate> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 13, 2005 Report Share Posted July 13, 2005 Chris- Well I think your handling things well and I admire you, I know that it must be a hard effort for you and I am thinking God must of lead you to this way of handling it. I will pray for some comfort for you and your family , and i am so excited that your surgery is coming up. You were my guiding light to this whole thing, and i will never forget how helpful you were for me in the beginning of all of this happy hopes and wishes for you colleenchris lopez wrote: Hi Colleen, (And others as well) No, it is not uncomfortable as I've come to a certain peace with the whole situation. The news is there is no news. We have not heard anything, and the police have run out of leads it seems. Since she's not a "high profile" case, they're not giving it much attention. It's crazy I know, but since we don't know anything, I had to come to a point where I couldn't let it consume my life otherwise I would most likely have gone off the deep end. I figure when the timing is right, the Lord will lead us to resolution and in the meantime, I have to stay sane. the reality is we may never know what happened, especially if she disappeared on a voluntary basis. ChrisColleen Garner wrote: Chris- i hope this is not an uncomfortable question but what is the news on your sister ? i was off the letters for awhile and maybe i missed something. I hope things are ok colleenchris lopez wrote: Many thanks to all who responded. We pretty much decided that we wanted him to come now. Airline travel is such a frustrating thing. By the time we talked last night, the available dates had changed and he would only be here from Thursday to Saturday instead of Sunday and the price had DOUBLED! We were all pretty disappointed but decided that double the price was nuts for only three days. He said he'd do it if I really wanted him to but I couldn't see him spending that kind of money. So, we decided to look at later in the year AND we might go to Montreal for the holidays. I really appreciated all your thoughful and helpful replies. Chris 13 days and counting!! Diane Duenas wrote: If he is a source of comfort for you by all means have him come. I think he probably wants to come to make sure you are recouperating ok. He will understand that you cant be entertaining him, I think he probably feels a need to take care of you and be with you for support even if its after the fact.Huggles> Will your procedure be done lap or open? It makes a HUGE difference in your > ability to do things post-op. If lap, I would think you will feel well > enough to enjoy his visit, as long as you don't have any complications. You > will likely tire more easily, but if you can sneak away for a nap now and > then things should be fine. You're with Kaiser, aren't you? Most Kaiser > patients only stay in the hospital a day or two when they have lap RNY. For > open, it may be three days in-hospital.> > If he is able to stay longer in October, and you would rather have him come > then, then by all means ask him to do so. He sounds like he would want to > do what is best for you. Either way, you'll enjoy his visit.> > > Laurie W.> > Urgent Advice Needed> > > > Hi everyone,> >> > I need some advice from post-oppers. My 29 year-old nephew (who by the > > way was the one who convinced me to look into surgery to begin with--said > > I deserved to do this for myself as he'd watched me struggle with my > > weight issues as long as he could remember) will not be able to be here > > from Canada for my surgery as he has to fly to Florida on the 27th the day > > of surgery. He has a business obligation and has to fly to South America > > on August 2nd. He found out, however, that he could catch a reasonable > > flight on the 28th and come to Sacramento but would have to leave on the > > 31st. So my question is this--since I don't know when I'll get out of the > > hospital and don't know how I'll be feeling, should I have him spend the > > money to come, in which case we won't see him again until January or > > should I have him wait and come for a week or two in October when I should > > be fully ready to enjoy his company? Our plan always was that he would be > > here for the surgery but then a business obligation> > took him to Buenos Aires for five months and now he has to go back. He's > > perfectly willing to spend the money and I'd love for him to be here but > > I'm not so sure it would be fair to him to spend money for four days and > > me not knowing when I'll be home. He's willing to stay with my daughter > > until I get out of the hospital and of course visit me, but we have made > > other arrangements for my daughter so it's not like he needs to be here. > > Both of them say it's up to me. I would love to have him here, but we > > usually have such a good time doing things together, I'm leaning towards > > the time in October.> >> > What do you all think? What would you do? Would it be totally unfair and > > selfish since I won't be feeling in peak form while he's here? Mind you > > he's not coming to be entertained, but I still think it's kind of selfish > > on my part to want him to come that far for just four days. Just don't > > know what to do!!!> >> > Chris> > Sacramento> >> >> > > > > > Enjoy Renewed Energy and Health!> > www.frutavida.com/heavensgate> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 13, 2005 Report Share Posted July 13, 2005 Chris- Well I think your handling things well and I admire you, I know that it must be a hard effort for you and I am thinking God must of lead you to this way of handling it. I will pray for some comfort for you and your family , and i am so excited that your surgery is coming up. You were my guiding light to this whole thing, and i will never forget how helpful you were for me in the beginning of all of this happy hopes and wishes for you colleenchris lopez wrote: Hi Colleen, (And others as well) No, it is not uncomfortable as I've come to a certain peace with the whole situation. The news is there is no news. We have not heard anything, and the police have run out of leads it seems. Since she's not a "high profile" case, they're not giving it much attention. It's crazy I know, but since we don't know anything, I had to come to a point where I couldn't let it consume my life otherwise I would most likely have gone off the deep end. I figure when the timing is right, the Lord will lead us to resolution and in the meantime, I have to stay sane. the reality is we may never know what happened, especially if she disappeared on a voluntary basis. ChrisColleen Garner wrote: Chris- i hope this is not an uncomfortable question but what is the news on your sister ? i was off the letters for awhile and maybe i missed something. I hope things are ok colleenchris lopez wrote: Many thanks to all who responded. We pretty much decided that we wanted him to come now. Airline travel is such a frustrating thing. By the time we talked last night, the available dates had changed and he would only be here from Thursday to Saturday instead of Sunday and the price had DOUBLED! We were all pretty disappointed but decided that double the price was nuts for only three days. He said he'd do it if I really wanted him to but I couldn't see him spending that kind of money. So, we decided to look at later in the year AND we might go to Montreal for the holidays. I really appreciated all your thoughful and helpful replies. Chris 13 days and counting!! Diane Duenas wrote: If he is a source of comfort for you by all means have him come. I think he probably wants to come to make sure you are recouperating ok. He will understand that you cant be entertaining him, I think he probably feels a need to take care of you and be with you for support even if its after the fact.Huggles> Will your procedure be done lap or open? It makes a HUGE difference in your > ability to do things post-op. If lap, I would think you will feel well > enough to enjoy his visit, as long as you don't have any complications. You > will likely tire more easily, but if you can sneak away for a nap now and > then things should be fine. You're with Kaiser, aren't you? Most Kaiser > patients only stay in the hospital a day or two when they have lap RNY. For > open, it may be three days in-hospital.> > If he is able to stay longer in October, and you would rather have him come > then, then by all means ask him to do so. He sounds like he would want to > do what is best for you. Either way, you'll enjoy his visit.> > > Laurie W.> > Urgent Advice Needed> > > > Hi everyone,> >> > I need some advice from post-oppers. My 29 year-old nephew (who by the > > way was the one who convinced me to look into surgery to begin with--said > > I deserved to do this for myself as he'd watched me struggle with my > > weight issues as long as he could remember) will not be able to be here > > from Canada for my surgery as he has to fly to Florida on the 27th the day > > of surgery. He has a business obligation and has to fly to South America > > on August 2nd. He found out, however, that he could catch a reasonable > > flight on the 28th and come to Sacramento but would have to leave on the > > 31st. So my question is this--since I don't know when I'll get out of the > > hospital and don't know how I'll be feeling, should I have him spend the > > money to come, in which case we won't see him again until January or > > should I have him wait and come for a week or two in October when I should > > be fully ready to enjoy his company? Our plan always was that he would be > > here for the surgery but then a business obligation> > took him to Buenos Aires for five months and now he has to go back. He's > > perfectly willing to spend the money and I'd love for him to be here but > > I'm not so sure it would be fair to him to spend money for four days and > > me not knowing when I'll be home. He's willing to stay with my daughter > > until I get out of the hospital and of course visit me, but we have made > > other arrangements for my daughter so it's not like he needs to be here. > > Both of them say it's up to me. I would love to have him here, but we > > usually have such a good time doing things together, I'm leaning towards > > the time in October.> >> > What do you all think? What would you do? Would it be totally unfair and > > selfish since I won't be feeling in peak form while he's here? Mind you > > he's not coming to be entertained, but I still think it's kind of selfish > > on my part to want him to come that far for just four days. Just don't > > know what to do!!!> >> > Chris> > Sacramento> >> >> > > > > > Enjoy Renewed Energy and Health!> > www.frutavida.com/heavensgate> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 13, 2005 Report Share Posted July 13, 2005 I feel the same way Chris! I remember that you offered help to me, as we both live here in Sacramento, and I am just sorry that you are going through all this--not knowing about your sister and having to wait so long for the surgery. Please know that my best thoughts and prayers are with you and that I wish you the best of all things. Hugs, LaWanda At 08:53 PM 7/13/05, you wrote: >Chris- > >Well I think your handling things well and I admire you, I know that it >must be a hard effort for you and I am thinking God must of lead you to >this way of handling it. I will pray for some comfort for you and your >family , and i am so excited that your surgery is coming up. You were my >guiding light to this whole thing, and i will never forget how helpful you >were for me in the beginning of all of this >happy hopes and wishes for you >colleen > >chris lopez clopez57@...> wrote: >Hi Colleen, (And others as well) > >No, it is not uncomfortable as I've come to a certain peace with the whole >situation. The news is there is no news. We have not heard anything, and >the police have run out of leads it seems. Since she's not a " high >profile " case, they're not giving it much attention. It's crazy I know, >but since we don't know anything, I had to come to a point where I >couldn't let it consume my life otherwise I would most likely have gone >off the deep end. I figure when the timing is right, the Lord will lead >us to resolution and in the meantime, I have to stay sane. the reality is >we may never know what happened, especially if she disappeared on a >voluntary basis. > >Chris > >Colleen Garner irishlilt@...> wrote: >Chris- >i hope this is not an uncomfortable question but what is the news on your >sister ? i was off the letters for awhile and maybe i missed something. I >hope things are ok >colleen > >chris lopez clopez57@...> wrote: >Many thanks to all who responded. We pretty much decided that we wanted >him to come now. Airline travel is such a frustrating thing. By the time >we talked last night, the available dates had changed and he would only be >here from Thursday to Saturday instead of Sunday and the price had >DOUBLED! We were all pretty disappointed but decided that double the >price was nuts for only three days. He said he'd do it if I really wanted >him to but I couldn't see him spending that kind of money. So, we decided >to look at later in the year AND we might go to Montreal for the holidays. > >I really appreciated all your thoughful and helpful replies. > >Chris >13 days and counting!! > > Diane Duenas brendadiane64@...> wrote: >If he is a source of comfort for you by all means have him come. I >think he probably wants to come to make sure you are recouperating >ok. He will understand that you cant be entertaining him, I think he >probably feels a need to take care of you and be with you for >support even if its after the fact. > >Huggles > > > > > > Will your procedure be done lap or open? It makes a HUGE >difference in your > > ability to do things post-op. If lap, I would think you will feel >well > > enough to enjoy his visit, as long as you don't have any >complications. You > > will likely tire more easily, but if you can sneak away for a nap >now and > > then things should be fine. You're with Kaiser, aren't you? Most >Kaiser > > patients only stay in the hospital a day or two when they have lap >RNY. For > > open, it may be three days in-hospital. > > > > If he is able to stay longer in October, and you would rather have >him come > > then, then by all means ask him to do so. He sounds like he would >want to > > do what is best for you. Either way, you'll enjoy his visit. > > > > > > Laurie W. > > > > Urgent Advice Needed > > > > > > > Hi everyone, > > > > > > I need some advice from post-oppers. My 29 year-old nephew (who >by the > > > way was the one who convinced me to look into surgery to begin >with--said > > > I deserved to do this for myself as he'd watched me struggle >with my > > > weight issues as long as he could remember) will not be able to >be here > > > from Canada for my surgery as he has to fly to Florida on the >27th the day > > > of surgery. He has a business obligation and has to fly to >South America > > > on August 2nd. He found out, however, that he could catch a >reasonable > > > flight on the 28th and come to Sacramento but would have to >leave on the > > > 31st. So my question is this--since I don't know when I'll get >out of the > > > hospital and don't know how I'll be feeling, should I have him >spend the > > > money to come, in which case we won't see him again until >January or > > > should I have him wait and come for a week or two in October >when I should > > > be fully ready to enjoy his company? Our plan always was that >he would be > > > here for the surgery but then a business obligation > > > took him to Buenos Aires for five months and now he has to go >back. He's > > > perfectly willing to spend the money and I'd love for him to be >here but > > > I'm not so sure it would be fair to him to spend money for four >days and > > > me not knowing when I'll be home. He's willing to stay with my >daughter > > > until I get out of the hospital and of course visit me, but we >have made > > > other arrangements for my daughter so it's not like he needs to >be here. > > > Both of them say it's up to me. I would love to have him here, >but we > > > usually have such a good time doing things together, I'm leaning >towards > > > the time in October. > > > > > > What do you all think? What would you do? Would it be totally >unfair and > > > selfish since I won't be feeling in peak form while he's here? >Mind you > > > he's not coming to be entertained, but I still think it's kind >of selfish > > > on my part to want him to come that far for just four days. >Just don't > > > know what to do!!! > > > > > > Chris > > > Sacramento > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Enjoy Renewed Energy and Health! > > > www.frutavida.com/heavensgate > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Recommended Posts
Join the conversation
You are posting as a guest. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account.
Note: Your post will require moderator approval before it will be visible.