Guest guest Posted May 9, 2001 Report Share Posted May 9, 2001 Hi Dorian: Last diet I was on, no one said a thing until I had lost about 50 lb. and then it was pretty tentative "are you loosing weight? your face looks different..." So I supposed that starting at 376 or so, it took to 330 before the difference was apparent. I am having such a different response at my office to the surgery -- first, there is a guy there whose brother worked with us for a short while before he had the surgery -- so everyone knows about him and his result -- plus I have the same Doc and same surgery -- saves a lot of explaining. The Gossip Grape vine was spreading the news that I was planning the surgery about 10 min after I told one person. Plus my Boss has a cousin who had the surgery a couple of years ago, and he has practically been pushing me out the door to go see the doc. So, I expect your alleged friend has told everyone you will gain the weight back, just wait and see. Buy a new outfit that is slightly too small and in an outrageous color. Let them talk about that. AND don't be shy about mentioning your surgery -- casually and in passing -- as in "gee, I really can't eat more than a bite or two now that I have a new smaller stomach, do you want the rest of this?", or "Excuse me! I find I really have a lot of gas now that I have had the surgery, I apologize." These people are not on your team -- go ahead and mess with their heads. And consider finding a better job with a better working environment! Nan E-- pre op 386 lbs, bmi 71 5'2" Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 9, 2001 Report Share Posted May 9, 2001 Hi Dorian: Last diet I was on, no one said a thing until I had lost about 50 lb. and then it was pretty tentative "are you loosing weight? your face looks different..." So I supposed that starting at 376 or so, it took to 330 before the difference was apparent. I am having such a different response at my office to the surgery -- first, there is a guy there whose brother worked with us for a short while before he had the surgery -- so everyone knows about him and his result -- plus I have the same Doc and same surgery -- saves a lot of explaining. The Gossip Grape vine was spreading the news that I was planning the surgery about 10 min after I told one person. Plus my Boss has a cousin who had the surgery a couple of years ago, and he has practically been pushing me out the door to go see the doc. So, I expect your alleged friend has told everyone you will gain the weight back, just wait and see. Buy a new outfit that is slightly too small and in an outrageous color. Let them talk about that. AND don't be shy about mentioning your surgery -- casually and in passing -- as in "gee, I really can't eat more than a bite or two now that I have a new smaller stomach, do you want the rest of this?", or "Excuse me! I find I really have a lot of gas now that I have had the surgery, I apologize." These people are not on your team -- go ahead and mess with their heads. And consider finding a better job with a better working environment! Nan E-- pre op 386 lbs, bmi 71 5'2" Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 9, 2001 Report Share Posted May 9, 2001 Hi Dorian: Last diet I was on, no one said a thing until I had lost about 50 lb. and then it was pretty tentative "are you loosing weight? your face looks different..." So I supposed that starting at 376 or so, it took to 330 before the difference was apparent. I am having such a different response at my office to the surgery -- first, there is a guy there whose brother worked with us for a short while before he had the surgery -- so everyone knows about him and his result -- plus I have the same Doc and same surgery -- saves a lot of explaining. The Gossip Grape vine was spreading the news that I was planning the surgery about 10 min after I told one person. Plus my Boss has a cousin who had the surgery a couple of years ago, and he has practically been pushing me out the door to go see the doc. So, I expect your alleged friend has told everyone you will gain the weight back, just wait and see. Buy a new outfit that is slightly too small and in an outrageous color. Let them talk about that. AND don't be shy about mentioning your surgery -- casually and in passing -- as in "gee, I really can't eat more than a bite or two now that I have a new smaller stomach, do you want the rest of this?", or "Excuse me! I find I really have a lot of gas now that I have had the surgery, I apologize." These people are not on your team -- go ahead and mess with their heads. And consider finding a better job with a better working environment! Nan E-- pre op 386 lbs, bmi 71 5'2" Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 10, 2001 Report Share Posted May 10, 2001 I find that people are very funny. I only told a select few co- workers. Rumors abounded and some people seem to know who I did not tell. Most of those people don't say anything to me at all, which is fine with me. I didn't have this surgery to get compliments or strokes from anyone. And I find that many people cannot give a genuine compliment without referring to the fact that you were fat before. Maybe I'm overly sensitive on this issue. For me the best thing a person can say is, gee, look fabulous, or healthy, or something like that. But when they start saying, God, you've lost sooo much weight, how much have you lost? That really pisses me off. First of all, it's none of their business how many pounds I've lost--would they have asked me how much I weigh? I don't think so, so why ask how many pounds I've lost? For a lot of people, discussing diets and their weight is just like talking about the weather--they'll talk to anyone. For me it's an extremely personal and private matter than I will only share with people I trust completely. As for people saying, " have you lost weight " ? To me, that's a yes or know question. Or looking at you and saying " you've lost weight. " Yeah, and? Those aren't compliments. In fact, I think most people don't really know how to handle it tactfully and sensitively. Some people have asked me what my secret is. I've lately started to respond " if I told you, I'd have to kill you " , trying to be humorous but at the same time letting them know I don't want to discuss it with them. Sorry, to ramble, but I really get on my soapbox about this one. Most people comment how thin my face is getting--no one looks at my ass and says I'm wasting away! ;-) But like I said before, I don't need comments from anyone. I am just walking through this with grace and dignity. For me the rewards are internal, and in the little things. Like I can cross my legs now. I can finally (after 100 lbs) walk upstairs without feeling anything. I can fit into chairs with arms without it being uncomfortable. The flexibility and mobility I am enjoying are incredible. I am much more comfortable in my surroundings. I started out in size 30/32, some 3X's were small. Now I'm in 1X and 18/20's. In fact, some of my 'skinny' clothes are now too big and I didn't even get to wear them again! I had a pretty decent self image even at 311 lbs--always dressed nicely, makeup, hair, the whole thing. But now it's just better all the way around. Thanks for letting me vent and share! Love and blessings to all. Suzanne W., Los Angeles Switched 9/25/00, Dr. Keshishian, Delano, CA Started at 311 lbs, bmi 49.9, 5'7 " Now at 210 lbs, bmi 33! > Hi Dorian: > Last diet I was on, no one said a thing until I had lost about 50 lb. and > then it was pretty tentative " are you loosing weight? your face looks > different... " So I supposed that starting at 376 or so, it took to 330 > before the difference was apparent. > I am having such a different response at my office to the surgery -- first, > there is a guy there whose brother worked with us for a short while before he > had the surgery -- so everyone knows about him and his result -- plus I have > the same Doc and same surgery -- saves a lot of explaining. The Gossip Grape > vine was spreading the news that I was planning the surgery about 10 min > after I told one person. Plus my Boss has a cousin who had the surgery a > couple of years ago, and he has practically been pushing me out the door to > go see the doc. > > So, I expect your alleged friend has told everyone you will gain the weight > back, just wait and see. Buy a new outfit that is slightly too small and in > an outrageous color. Let them talk about that. AND don't be shy about > mentioning your surgery -- casually and in passing -- as in " gee, I really > can't eat more than a bite or two now that I have a new smaller stomach, do > you want the rest of this? " , or " Excuse me! I find I really have a lot of gas > now that I have had the surgery, I apologize. " These people are not on your > team -- go ahead and mess with their heads. And consider finding a better > job with a better working environment! > Nan E-- pre op 386 lbs, bmi 71 5'2 " Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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