Re: Topic for discussion: The Sharpei body type (posted to 2 diff. lists)

[Guest guest]

LOL Id like to know the answer for this one as well. I like to call

my thighs: The saggy baggy elephant thighs!!!

>

> When I was dating online I had no trouble quantifying my

> category: I described myself as a BBW ( " Big Beautiful

> Woman " --the standard euphemism for fat). But even after my

> successful plastic surgery, if I'd been on the market I would

> have had a dilemma: How to describe my body?

> After my belt lipectomy, my torso is lovely... but I have a

> couple of long scars. And I have wrinkles and extra skin that

> are not typical of even an aging woman. I know many of us have

> this issue to one degree or another. We can't say we're fat or

> BBW; we can't say we're slim or slender; what DO you say?! How

> do you explain the extra skin and unusual contours to a

> prospective partner?

> I know many of you will say, well, if he/she loves me they'll

> accept me as I am. If I wait until we get to know each other, if

> I wait until we're ready to make a committment, etc. etc., (in

> other words: " If I wasn't messin' around like some slut "

> hahaha), this won't be an issue. Fair enough. But let's face it:

> In this culture, we have to have a body type, a body identity if

> you will. If you're not slim, average, fat, etc., if you're

> sharpei-saggy, what are you?

> Martha

[Guest guest]

LOL Id like to know the answer for this one as well. I like to call

my thighs: The saggy baggy elephant thighs!!!

>

> When I was dating online I had no trouble quantifying my

> category: I described myself as a BBW ( " Big Beautiful

> Woman " --the standard euphemism for fat). But even after my

> successful plastic surgery, if I'd been on the market I would

> have had a dilemma: How to describe my body?

> After my belt lipectomy, my torso is lovely... but I have a

> couple of long scars. And I have wrinkles and extra skin that

> are not typical of even an aging woman. I know many of us have

> this issue to one degree or another. We can't say we're fat or

> BBW; we can't say we're slim or slender; what DO you say?! How

> do you explain the extra skin and unusual contours to a

> prospective partner?

> I know many of you will say, well, if he/she loves me they'll

> accept me as I am. If I wait until we get to know each other, if

> I wait until we're ready to make a committment, etc. etc., (in

> other words: " If I wasn't messin' around like some slut "

> hahaha), this won't be an issue. Fair enough. But let's face it:

> In this culture, we have to have a body type, a body identity if

> you will. If you're not slim, average, fat, etc., if you're

> sharpei-saggy, what are you?

> Martha

[Guest guest]

LOL Id like to know the answer for this one as well. I like to call

my thighs: The saggy baggy elephant thighs!!!

>

> When I was dating online I had no trouble quantifying my

> category: I described myself as a BBW ( " Big Beautiful

> Woman " --the standard euphemism for fat). But even after my

> successful plastic surgery, if I'd been on the market I would

> have had a dilemma: How to describe my body?

> After my belt lipectomy, my torso is lovely... but I have a

> couple of long scars. And I have wrinkles and extra skin that

> are not typical of even an aging woman. I know many of us have

> this issue to one degree or another. We can't say we're fat or

> BBW; we can't say we're slim or slender; what DO you say?! How

> do you explain the extra skin and unusual contours to a

> prospective partner?

> I know many of you will say, well, if he/she loves me they'll

> accept me as I am. If I wait until we get to know each other, if

> I wait until we're ready to make a committment, etc. etc., (in

> other words: " If I wasn't messin' around like some slut "

> hahaha), this won't be an issue. Fair enough. But let's face it:

> In this culture, we have to have a body type, a body identity if

> you will. If you're not slim, average, fat, etc., if you're

> sharpei-saggy, what are you?

> Martha

[Guest guest]

Pam,

Thanks. Actually my new relationship is wonderful--Tim is also a RNY

post-op. So we don't have these body issues. But we got to talking one

night about how we'd describe ourselves if we had to go out and meet

someone. Tim said he thought this was a good topic for the list, so

that's how it came up.

Martha

[Guest guest]

Pam,

Thanks. Actually my new relationship is wonderful--Tim is also a RNY

post-op. So we don't have these body issues. But we got to talking one

night about how we'd describe ourselves if we had to go out and meet

someone. Tim said he thought this was a good topic for the list, so

that's how it came up.

Martha

[Guest guest]

Okay, you are talking about Uncle Timmy. That is

fabulous and if my memory is good, I think I read

something about engagement???

He is a nice fella. Well, I wish you both the best

and so much happiness.

Pam Marsh

--- nursefera2 nurseferatu@...> wrote:

> Pam,

> Thanks. Actually my new relationship is

> wonderful--Tim is also a RNY

> post-op. So we don't have these body issues. But we

> got to talking one

> night about how we'd describe ourselves if we had to

> go out and meet

> someone. Tim said he thought this was a good topic

> for the list, so

> that's how it came up.

>

> Martha

>

>

>

>

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[Guest guest]

Okay, you are talking about Uncle Timmy. That is

fabulous and if my memory is good, I think I read

something about engagement???

He is a nice fella. Well, I wish you both the best

and so much happiness.

Pam Marsh

--- nursefera2 nurseferatu@...> wrote:

> Pam,

> Thanks. Actually my new relationship is

> wonderful--Tim is also a RNY

> post-op. So we don't have these body issues. But we

> got to talking one

> night about how we'd describe ourselves if we had to

> go out and meet

> someone. Tim said he thought this was a good topic

> for the list, so

> that's how it came up.

>

> Martha

>

>

>

>

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[Guest guest]

Hmmmm. Yes, this is an issue (potentially for me) as well. To date, my upper arms are a bit more jiggly then they were...my boobs were never that bad, so you know...whatever. The inner thighs are pretty scary. I'm exercising a lot, and my gym trainer and Pilates trainer know to focus on the inner thighs, the upper arms and the belly. I'm just praying it gets better by the time is here.

I have pretty good skin tone, and the jiggly may be in part because I couldn't do any exercise for about 7 weeks. But, stillll.....

I wouldn't say a damned thing. Let them find out after you are naked. frankly, they are just so happy to have a little action coming their way, they probably won't even notice.

If it comes up, I'd say, "Look, I had surgery, and this happened...my body is adjusting, it will probably get better with a little time...but if not, I'll probably get plastic surgery. So, do you want to screw, or do you want to evaluate my skin tone?

RobynnPandaCat wrote:

I recently discribed myself to a friend as " Squirrel-wing arms, tubesock boobs and Sharpei thighs." We were also discussing dating at thetime. I don't look like I have all this extra skin when I'm dressedbut the thought of getting nekkid with some guy and having to explainall the sagginess is very scary. I haven't a clue how to discribe myself with out going into the wholeWLS process. I don't want that to be the main topic of our date. Kerre-141 & 35 to goal> > When I was dating online I had no trouble quantifying my> category: I described myself as a BBW ("Big Beautiful> Woman"--the standard euphemism for fat). But even after my> successful plastic

surgery, if I'd been on the market I would> have had a dilemma: How to describe my body?> After my belt lipectomy, my torso is lovely... but I have a> couple of long scars. And I have wrinkles and extra skin that> are not typical of even an aging woman. I know many of us have> this issue to one degree or another. We can't say we're fat or> BBW; we can't say we're slim or slender; what DO you say?! How> do you explain the extra skin and unusual contours to a> prospective partner?> I know many of you will say, well, if he/she loves me they'll> accept me as I am. If I wait until we get to know each other, if> I wait until we're ready to make a committment, etc. etc., (in> other words: "If I wasn't messin' around like some slut"> hahaha), this won't be an issue. Fair enough. But let's face it:> In this culture, we have to have a body type, a body identity if> you will. If you're not

slim, average, fat, etc., if you're> sharpei-saggy, what are you?> Martha

[Guest guest]

Now THAT'S a fun question, since online is how I met my . I guess

I'd describe myself as average, although I'm more slender in most areas,

but with the thighs, they average my body to average. In the body of the

listing, I'd probably describe the wrinkles, er, ruffles. If the guy is

one to be turned off by ruffles, he ain't the right one for me.OK, I'm

absolutely NOT on the market, but love a mental exercise. So, here's a

rough draft:

I'm fairly slender, but with saggy baggy thighs and ruffles in the

abdomen. This is because of having lost over half my body weight in just

over a year, as the result of weight loss surgery.

How's that? When I was online dating, I tended to be pretty blunt about

who and what I was, and seemed to have no problem attracting potentials.

BTW, if anyone's interested in my listings, you can find them at

http://www.smallboxes.com/writings.htm which includes listings I did for

myself and for a friend of mine, as well as a short story I did about a

VW bug, as well as a card I gave .

M. Silverspring wrote:

> When I was dating online I had no trouble quantifying my category: I

> described myself as a BBW ( " Big Beautiful Woman " --the standard

> euphemism for fat). But even after my successful plastic surgery, if

> I'd been on the market I would have had a dilemma: How to describe my

> body?

>

> After my belt lipectomy, my torso is lovely... but I have a couple of

> long scars. And I have wrinkles and extra skin that are not typical of

> even an aging woman. I know many of us have this issue to one degree

> or another. We can't say we're fat or BBW; we can't say we're slim or

> slender; what DO you say?! How do you explain the extra skin and

> unusual contours to a prospective partner?

>

> I know many of you will say, well, if he/she loves me they'll accept

> me as I am. If I wait until we get to know each other, if I wait until

> we're ready to make a committment, etc. etc., (in other words: " If I

> wasn't messin' around like some slut " hahaha), this won't be an issue

> .. Fair enough. But let's face it: In this culture, we have to have a

> body type, a body identity if you will. If you're not slim, average,

> fat, etc., if you're sharpei-saggy, what are you?

--

Eleanor Oster

eleanor@... (personal address)

www.smallboxes.com/gastricbypass.htm

San , CA

Open RNY (100 cm bypassed) 07/15/2003

P. Fisher, M.D., Kaiser Richmond (CA)

~5'9 " tall

05/09/2003 319 Orientation

07/15/2003 ~290 Surgery

Current 150-155 Goal until plastics?

[Guest guest]

Why would one have wrinkles following the surgery?

Saggy skin I can understand, but wrinkles?

Pam

--- " M. Silverspring " nurseferatu@...> wrote:

>

> When I was dating online I had no trouble

> quantifying my

> category: I described myself as a BBW ( " Big

> Beautiful

> Woman " --the standard euphemism for fat). But even

> after my

> successful plastic surgery, if I'd been on the

> market I would

> have had a dilemma: How to describe my body?

> After my belt lipectomy, my torso is lovely... but I

> have a

> couple of long scars. And I have wrinkles and extra

> skin that

> are not typical of even an aging woman. I know many

> of us have

> this issue to one degree or another. We can't say

> we're fat or

> BBW; we can't say we're slim or slender; what DO you

> say?! How

> do you explain the extra skin and unusual contours

> to a

> prospective partner?

> I know many of you will say, well, if he/she loves

> me they'll

> accept me as I am. If I wait until we get to know

> each other, if

> I wait until we're ready to make a committment, etc.

> etc., (in

> other words: " If I wasn't messin' around like some

> slut "

> hahaha), this won't be an issue. Fair enough. But

> let's face it:

> In this culture, we have to have a body type, a body

> identity if

> you will. If you're not slim, average, fat, etc., if

> you're

> sharpei-saggy, what are you?

> Martha

>

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[Guest guest]

Why would one have wrinkles following the surgery?

Saggy skin I can understand, but wrinkles?

Pam

--- " M. Silverspring " nurseferatu@...> wrote:

>

> When I was dating online I had no trouble

> quantifying my

> category: I described myself as a BBW ( " Big

> Beautiful

> Woman " --the standard euphemism for fat). But even

> after my

> successful plastic surgery, if I'd been on the

> market I would

> have had a dilemma: How to describe my body?

> After my belt lipectomy, my torso is lovely... but I

> have a

> couple of long scars. And I have wrinkles and extra

> skin that

> are not typical of even an aging woman. I know many

> of us have

> this issue to one degree or another. We can't say

> we're fat or

> BBW; we can't say we're slim or slender; what DO you

> say?! How

> do you explain the extra skin and unusual contours

> to a

> prospective partner?

> I know many of you will say, well, if he/she loves

> me they'll

> accept me as I am. If I wait until we get to know

> each other, if

> I wait until we're ready to make a committment, etc.

> etc., (in

> other words: " If I wasn't messin' around like some

> slut "

> hahaha), this won't be an issue. Fair enough. But

> let's face it:

> In this culture, we have to have a body type, a body

> identity if

> you will. If you're not slim, average, fat, etc., if

> you're

> sharpei-saggy, what are you?

> Martha

>

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[Guest guest]

Why would one have wrinkles following the surgery?

Saggy skin I can understand, but wrinkles?

Pam

--- " M. Silverspring " nurseferatu@...> wrote:

>

> When I was dating online I had no trouble

> quantifying my

> category: I described myself as a BBW ( " Big

> Beautiful

> Woman " --the standard euphemism for fat). But even

> after my

> successful plastic surgery, if I'd been on the

> market I would

> have had a dilemma: How to describe my body?

> After my belt lipectomy, my torso is lovely... but I

> have a

> couple of long scars. And I have wrinkles and extra

> skin that

> are not typical of even an aging woman. I know many

> of us have

> this issue to one degree or another. We can't say

> we're fat or

> BBW; we can't say we're slim or slender; what DO you

> say?! How

> do you explain the extra skin and unusual contours

> to a

> prospective partner?

> I know many of you will say, well, if he/she loves

> me they'll

> accept me as I am. If I wait until we get to know

> each other, if

> I wait until we're ready to make a committment, etc.

> etc., (in

> other words: " If I wasn't messin' around like some

> slut "

> hahaha), this won't be an issue. Fair enough. But

> let's face it:

> In this culture, we have to have a body type, a body

> identity if

> you will. If you're not slim, average, fat, etc., if

> you're

> sharpei-saggy, what are you?

> Martha

>

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[Guest guest]

> I wouldn't say a damned thing. Let them find out after you are

naked. frankly, they are just so happy to have a little action coming

their way, they probably won't even notice.

LOL!!! Thank you for that, I never thought about it from that stand

point.

Kerre

> >

> > When I was dating online I had no trouble quantifying my

> > category: I described myself as a BBW ( " Big Beautiful

> > Woman " --the standard euphemism for fat). But even after my

> > successful plastic surgery, if I'd been on the market I would

> > have had a dilemma: How to describe my body?

> > After my belt lipectomy, my torso is lovely... but I have a

> > couple of long scars. And I have wrinkles and extra skin that

> > are not typical of even an aging woman. I know many of us have

> > this issue to one degree or another. We can't say we're fat or

> > BBW; we can't say we're slim or slender; what DO you say?! How

> > do you explain the extra skin and unusual contours to a

> > prospective partner?

> > I know many of you will say, well, if he/she loves me they'll

> > accept me as I am. If I wait until we get to know each other, if

> > I wait until we're ready to make a committment, etc. etc., (in

> > other words: " If I wasn't messin' around like some slut "

> > hahaha), this won't be an issue. Fair enough. But let's face it:

> > In this culture, we have to have a body type, a body identity if

> > you will. If you're not slim, average, fat, etc., if you're

> > sharpei-saggy, what are you?

> > Martha

>

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Robynn, I love your candor!

Sandi

> >

> > When I was dating online I had no trouble quantifying my

> > category: I described myself as a BBW ( " Big Beautiful

> > Woman " --the standard euphemism for fat). But even after my

> > successful plastic surgery, if I'd been on the market I would

> > have had a dilemma: How to describe my body?

> > After my belt lipectomy, my torso is lovely... but I have a

> > couple of long scars. And I have wrinkles and extra skin that

> > are not typical of even an aging woman. I know many of us have

> > this issue to one degree or another. We can't say we're fat or

> > BBW; we can't say we're slim or slender; what DO you say?! How

> > do you explain the extra skin and unusual contours to a

> > prospective partner?

> > I know many of you will say, well, if he/she loves me they'll

> > accept me as I am. If I wait until we get to know each other, if

> > I wait until we're ready to make a committment, etc. etc., (in

> > other words: " If I wasn't messin' around like some slut "

> > hahaha), this won't be an issue. Fair enough. But let's face it:

> > In this culture, we have to have a body type, a body identity if

> > you will. If you're not slim, average, fat, etc., if you're

> > sharpei-saggy, what are you?

> > Martha

>

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Robynn, I love your candor!

Sandi

> >

> > When I was dating online I had no trouble quantifying my

> > category: I described myself as a BBW ( " Big Beautiful

> > Woman " --the standard euphemism for fat). But even after my

> > successful plastic surgery, if I'd been on the market I would

> > have had a dilemma: How to describe my body?

> > After my belt lipectomy, my torso is lovely... but I have a

> > couple of long scars. And I have wrinkles and extra skin that

> > are not typical of even an aging woman. I know many of us have

> > this issue to one degree or another. We can't say we're fat or

> > BBW; we can't say we're slim or slender; what DO you say?! How

> > do you explain the extra skin and unusual contours to a

> > prospective partner?

> > I know many of you will say, well, if he/she loves me they'll

> > accept me as I am. If I wait until we get to know each other, if

> > I wait until we're ready to make a committment, etc. etc., (in

> > other words: " If I wasn't messin' around like some slut "

> > hahaha), this won't be an issue. Fair enough. But let's face it:

> > In this culture, we have to have a body type, a body identity if

> > you will. If you're not slim, average, fat, etc., if you're

> > sharpei-saggy, what are you?

> > Martha

>

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Robynn, I love your candor!

Sandi

> >

> > When I was dating online I had no trouble quantifying my

> > category: I described myself as a BBW ( " Big Beautiful

> > Woman " --the standard euphemism for fat). But even after my

> > successful plastic surgery, if I'd been on the market I would

> > have had a dilemma: How to describe my body?

> > After my belt lipectomy, my torso is lovely... but I have a

> > couple of long scars. And I have wrinkles and extra skin that

> > are not typical of even an aging woman. I know many of us have

> > this issue to one degree or another. We can't say we're fat or

> > BBW; we can't say we're slim or slender; what DO you say?! How

> > do you explain the extra skin and unusual contours to a

> > prospective partner?

> > I know many of you will say, well, if he/she loves me they'll

> > accept me as I am. If I wait until we get to know each other, if

> > I wait until we're ready to make a committment, etc. etc., (in

> > other words: " If I wasn't messin' around like some slut "

> > hahaha), this won't be an issue. Fair enough. But let's face it:

> > In this culture, we have to have a body type, a body identity if

> > you will. If you're not slim, average, fat, etc., if you're

> > sharpei-saggy, what are you?

> > Martha

>

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