Re: Parted ways with another fat friend (to Robynn and Tamara)

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Robynn:

This is very well stated. I totally agree with you. I'd find it

hard (although not impossible) to cut off a family member.

Friends, however, are slightly easier to cut out. And I didn't do it

lightly. I'm a very tolerant and forgiving person, but Dr. Fisher

warned me that there would be people like this in my life, so I've

followed his advice in limiting (or cutting off) my contact with

negative saboteurs.

Tamara:

Best of luck deciding what to do and working this through.

Unfortunately, this is one of those byproducts of the process that we

all have to face.

It's not easy, but as always, you are so worth the effort.

Best of luck to you, and be sure to let us know how it goes.

Francisco

> > Hey everyone, especially you posties:

> >

> > Have you had anything like this happen?

> >

> > A now former friend (he is boardering on being morbidly obese)and

> I

> > had another disagreement, and I've decided that this is just the

> last

> > straw.

> >

> > After this little disagreement, I was sitting here mulling it

> over.

> > He said that the last year has been all about me, and that I

> haven't

> > given anything back to him. Oh boo hoo! That is such needy

crap,

> > and I just don't agree.

> >

> > And it just hit me. Bill was my last fat friend. All of my fat

> > friends have turned their backs on me in some sort of jealous

fit,

> > and I now live among the normal-weighted. What the hell was I

> > supposed to give back? I think what he really wanted was for me

to

> > FAIL, like he's failed over and over again. He originally wanted

> me

> > to be his food police (I refused), and he wanted me to be his

> workout

> > buddy, but he didn't want to get up at 5:00 AM to work out. And

> > quite frankly, I didn't have the energy to " carry " someone else

> when

> > I really have to make an effort all on my own. I figure, if he

> > wanted to exercise, he'd stop making excuses and just do it. I

did!

> >

> > Hmmm... it's not that I don't get along with fat people (I mean,

> > part of me in my mind is still morbidly obese), and I appreciate

> all

> > of you here regardless of your size, but what I won't do is

fail.

> > And I won't put up with sabotage crap from friends (or former

> > friends) who really hate that I've gone from the fat team to the

> non-

> > fat team.

> >

> > OK, I'm done ranting. Does this make sense to anyone?

> >

> > Francisco

> > steadfastly refusing to fail

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