Re: Parted ways with another fat friend

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-: If I am not mistaken, didn't you just run a friggin'

MARATHON, for goodness sakes? I say to hell with what the chart

calls you (obese, grossly, morbidly,huge, etc). You are one of my

postie heros for that, and I aspire to be able to move mountains like

that. But I do know the thing about people offering things. It's

almost as if they are trying to see if they can make you give in. I

makes me wonder the motives...do they really want to have you partake

in something that they feel is so magnificent that you are really

missing out, or that they would relish being able to tell everyone

that they got you to eat something you weren't supposed to even

though you have been so good and worked so hard? I am NOT saying

that this is the case, but it makes me wonder. People often have

agendas that they often aren't aware of themselves. Keep being

strong my dear, and before you know it, you will be

merely " overweight " rather than " obese " . Take care friend. Love

Tamara

-- In gastric-bypass-support-kaiser-patients , "

Diane Duenas " wrote:

> It does make sense. While I havent lost friends relatively speaking

I

> do see a change in how Im treated by others and it makes it really

> difficult. I take full responsibility for my struggles but it makes

> it so much harder when my coworkers and friends continually bring

> food to share that they know Im not supposed to have. Now I dont

> expect everyone to eat how I must eat, but at the same

> time...continually offering it to me and saying " Cant you have

just

> a little? " really makes resisting my triggers very difficult. For

> example, today they are baking banana bread out of the leftover

> bananas from lunch. They are constantly planning potluck teacher

> lunches where everyone chips in. It makes it soooo hard.

>

> I still havent reached normal weight world and sooo long to be

there.

> According to the BMI charts Im still obese!! Sigh!!

>

> Huggles my friend

>

>

>

> > Hey everyone, especially you posties:

> >

> > Have you had anything like this happen?

> >

> > A now former friend (he is boardering on being morbidly obese)and

> I

> > had another disagreement, and I've decided that this is just the

> last

> > straw.

> >

> > After this little disagreement, I was sitting here mulling it

> over.

> > He said that the last year has been all about me, and that I

> haven't

> > given anything back to him. Oh boo hoo! That is such needy

crap,

> > and I just don't agree.

> >

> > And it just hit me. Bill was my last fat friend. All of my fat

> > friends have turned their backs on me in some sort of jealous

fit,

> > and I now live among the normal-weighted. What the hell was I

> > supposed to give back? I think what he really wanted was for me

to

> > FAIL, like he's failed over and over again. He originally wanted

> me

> > to be his food police (I refused), and he wanted me to be his

> workout

> > buddy, but he didn't want to get up at 5:00 AM to work out. And

> > quite frankly, I didn't have the energy to " carry " someone else

> when

> > I really have to make an effort all on my own. I figure, if he

> > wanted to exercise, he'd stop making excuses and just do it. I

did!

> >

> > Hmmm... it's not that I don't get along with fat people (I mean,

> > part of me in my mind is still morbidly obese), and I appreciate

> all

> > of you here regardless of your size, but what I won't do is

fail.

> > And I won't put up with sabotage crap from friends (or former

> > friends) who really hate that I've gone from the fat team to the

> non-

> > fat team.

> >

> > OK, I'm done ranting. Does this make sense to anyone?

> >

> > Francisco

> > steadfastly refusing to fail