Re: Thanks Matt...Re: QUIET? RESERVED? ALONE?

[Guest guest]

hi Ron thanks for getting back-- i am very interested

in your idea but need to think about if i am ready to

make a long term commitment to it- my health right now

seems so day to day i am afraid to commit myself to

any thing untill i know where my healthis going- some

days i feel great and then others like yesterday i was

really sick all day -today has also not been a very

good day so i am concerned about my long term health

needs- cant seem to stabilize it Matt

--- " J. Blanchett " anewronald@...> wrote:

> Hi Matt,

>

> Thank you for your openess and response. I know

> exactly how you

> feel. There was a time in my life that I was so

> overwhelmed with

> doctor appointments that I just stop seeing

> everybody until I could

> catch my breath from all that was going on and

> happening in my life.

>

> But to answer you question, I was referring to

> encouraging each other

> to recall stronger times in our lives where we've

> had to overcome

> obstacles and did it with great success.

>

> Let me give you an example.

>

> When I was 9 years old my mother left me and my

> siblings with

> relatives and moved to California with relatives to

> start a new

> beginning with the hope of sending for us later

> after she found work

> and setteled. Needless to say we were traumatized

> by this decision.

>

> But the bottom line is, I made it through it all. I

> was able to look

> back at my life and recall the things that gave me

> strenght, hope,

> promise, encouragement and feelings of progress and

> accomplishment

> not to mention independence and draw on those things

> even at my

> current age of 46 and tell myself the same things

> that sustained me

> then can and will sustain me now. My job is to pick

> myself up and

> develop the same self preserving attitude that I

> developed when I was

> 9 years of age. I carried this mentality to my teen

> years and my

> college years and my yound adult life. But I have

> never tried to

> draw on it like I am doing now.

>

> Going through those traumatic years without my Mom

> taught several

> lessons: 1. The world did not owe me anything. 2.

> Some have much

> harder than I do. 3.I developed independence,

> determination to

> succeed and drive. 4. I developed a toughness to

> succeed. 5. I

> developed a attitude of discipline, " do it right

> the first time and

> be through with it " was my philosophy at age 10.

>

> I can go on with others but I hope you get my point.

>

>

> The point is to reflect on times of overcoming

> adversity and replace

> that same attitude with the current one you have

> today. Look back

> and visualize and see how you were successful in

> overcoming your

> challenges and then apply this same attitude and

> tenacity to our

> situation today as well deal with this trying

> illness.

>

> Got me?

>

> Brother

>

>

>

>

> >

> > > Lately, I have been experincing (again!)

> feelings of

> > > wanting to be alone, by

> > > myself, reserved and without communicating with

> > > anyone.

> > >

> > > Do you sometimes feel this way? I can be so

> > > isolating and challenging. But

> > > it can also be very revealing and enlightening,

> > > depending on how it is

> > > handled.

> > >

> > > Most of the times I try to focus my thoughts on

> > > prayer and meditation when I

> > > am feeling this way. If not, then I could

> really go

> > > off on the deep end

> > > with my emotions and thoughts. I find that

> prayer

> > > and meditating on things that

> > > are positive and encouraging are helpful during

> > > these times.

> > >

> > > For example, recently, I took myself back to

> when I

> > > was a teenager and

> > > struggling with a lot of issues. But with

> > > blessings, proper guidance and

> > > determination I was able to overcome most of

> those

> > > challenges that were beating me

> > > down as a teen. So, I looked and reflected and

> > > prayed for answers on how was

> > > able to do all of those things at such a young

> and

> > > inexperience age... and the

> > > answers came to me as clear as day.

> > >

> > > Now each one of us will have different scenarios

> and

> > > different answers. The

> > > point is, reflect on a period in your life when

> you

> > > were having great

> > > difficulty and was able to overcome it. Then

> give

> > > very careful thought and list

> > > the qualities that allowed you to overcome and

> be

> > > victorious! NOW, apply so

> > > same qualities and attitude to this situation,

> and

> > > watch what happens.

> > >

> > > Anybody willing to try this with me on a day to

> day

> > > basis whereas we hold

> > > each other accountable to our success or lack

> of?

> > >

> > > If so, drop me a note and I will get in touch

> with

> > > you. Mind you, this is

> > > not something that will last a week or a month

> or

> > > so. This is a long term

> > > commitment to each others growth and development

> and

> > > how we handle our

> > > challenges. So if you are willing to committ in

> > > persuing this Degree on line, just let

> > > me know and we can develop our own curricula as

> we

> > > progress.

> > >

> > > I look foreward to hearing back from you.

> > >

> > > Brother (Smiles to you)!

> > >

> >

> >

> > __________________________________________________

> >