Re: losing slowly

[Guest guest]

Colleen you are right I also have those feelings but then I bring myself back to reality... Health is our reason for the surg. The weight is the bonus for us....And a good one too... Try not to compare yourself to others we will get there too and who knows maybe our skin will conform to us better since we are going so slow.. Keep your head hi and remember there are other people out there like myself who are also losing very very slowly.

RoseColleen Garner wrote:

I think we all feel and think like this, i should be proud of my weight, but then when i read gina and pam who had surgery only shortly before me are in the 160's i feel like i am doing something wrong, you doubt yourself beat yourself up, its just plain silly, i weighed more going in than they did, and everyone has their own pace, but its just human nature i think to feel this way.........................

colleenRose wrote:

Robynn, remember this is not a race. I have to keep telling myself that too. I'm 8 weeks out and only lost 22.5 lbs. I started out at 215. It is hard to predict what one will lose everyone is different. By all means do not compare yourself to others you will be disappointed. I myself am proof of that. I've been at the same weight now for 8 days. Any way don't stress on the weight when its ready and you are doing the right stuff it will just fall off of you... We didn't gain the weight overnight and we have great expectations to lose it overnight since we did our surg. Keep your head high whatever you weigh when your french man comes home I'm sure he'll love you either way... And then the next time you see him you will be even smaller than this time.

RoseRobynn wrote:

Hey guys...OK, so here's the thing. Perspective, I need perspective. In any event, I am at 207 today. It has been five and a half weeks since my surgery. I weighed in at 235.5 the day of the surgery. SO, that's 28.5 lbs...about an average of five a week. So why do I feel like this is going SLOWLY? I read the obesityhelp.com before and after things, and it seems like other people are losing so much faster than I am. And yes, I know that part of it is that many of these folks are only doing liquid protein beforehand...and didn't have to lose weight beforehand, so they are losing more water weight initially. I know that, and yet I worry.To add bizarro fuel to my neurosis...so the other Frenchy, the one that broke my heart (Olivier)...called me again. Twice in

the last few weeks. He seems to be jealous of , although in his standard non-committal way, he just keeps telling me to "slow down" and "take your time"...so, he could just be a "concerned friend". Who knows? HOWEVER, when I mentioned that was coming to see me in October...he suddenly tells me that HE is coming in September, the month before.ANd not only did he SAY that...he actually has a ticket! Oy. His buddy is coming, too...and they are going to be in Las vegas for part of that time...maybe his friend will be in LV for the whole time, I don't know...but he hasn't asked to stay with me. For all I know, he's ASSUMING. Or, shoot...maybe he isn't going to even see me, although I doubt it. His, "Well I'm coming in September" was immediately, and I mean immediately following my announcement that is coming in October. And in fact, he booked his flight just

moments after our telephone conversation. ARGHHHHHH. is sweet, romantic, handsome, talented, intelligent, seemingly hot hot hot and crazy madly in love with me. Olivier is even more handsome, sweet, smart and funny...tender...but not terribly romantic, at least not towards me, has been somewhat resistant in some ways, afraid of "us" afraid to be vulnerable (for incredibly good reasons: we met while we were both married...and he's been through the ringer in the last few years: sister committed suicide, best friend died of cancer, other best friend killed in car crash, mom diagnosed with cancer, father had massive heart attack, he was mugged...oh and all on top of the fact that he was hit by a drunk driver while on a motorcycle a couple of years before I met him. That left him with a paralyzed arm, in a coma for a year, a rehab hospital for the year after that while he learned to walk and talk

again...and stripped his career away from him. Oh, and did I mention he went through a divorce, too.) So, he's got a lot of fear, and may be permanently damaged as a result of all of this horror.But I loved him, madly, for four and a half years. Madly. Like I've never loved anyone before. And so...I kinda of HAVE to see him...I don't think I could handle NOT seeing him...but I don't want him to turn my head...and I think he ruined everything when he told me he wasn't attracted to me (which I knew was utter crap, but I also knew he was obviously wanting to push me away, so I took the hint and left.) He feels inadequate because of the finances, because I'm a successful attorney, blah blah blah...he has nothing to offer, etc...blah blah blah. (Although his race horse has been winning lately, and things are turning around for him. Yes, he owns a race horse. Don't

ask.)oy.Anyway...so the thing is...whether we get together or not (I doubt it...it would be very hard for him to compete with , who appears to be healthy and is totally crazy about me) I want to look great. And I know I'm looking better already. So here's the think...I have a bit more than six weeks (I think) until Olivier descends. Darn it!! I want to lose another 25 lbs. in the next six weeks. Am I dreaming???Oy. Can I just say...oy?!?!?! He drives me insane...but he said, "You know you still love me, Robynn...you have to still love me. Why are you rushing into something else? Why???" (Note how he didn't say, "And I still love you...we have something here...let's not lose it. Wait for me.") The thing is, I'm still vulnerable to him, I know I am. Pam knows I am.Oy.How much weight can I lose?!?!?! I tried that stupid

weightloss calculator, and it looks like a total of 48 lbs. if I'm lucky. Oy.Robynn

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