Re: Post Op Changes Question

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I see that you haven't received too many answers yet. It may be that

all those long-time post-ops are out having fun with their new lives

& don't have much time to sit at their computers anymore. :-)

Here's my opinion though...I agree that most over-weight people have

times of depression or when they're feeling down, but so does

everyone else. Yes, there have been times my weight has gotten me

down. I have allowed it to hold me back from many things I've wanted

to do in my life & that makes me sad. I have gone through a couple

of times where I was very depressed for a while & probably should

have gotten on medication, but I refused. I eventually pulled myself

up out of it & got on with my life. I'm 32, never married, no kids.

One of the things I want most in life is to be a wife & mom. I am

HOPING that with this surgery & the weightloss it brings, I will be

able to find that " Mr. Right " & have those things I long for. BUT if

it doesn't, that's something I have to deal with. I'm not depending

on the weightloss to make me happy. I have to make myself happy.

I guess what I'm trying to say is that a person should not have WLS

if they think it's going to make everything better & make he or she a

happy person. There are other things than just weight that influence

our happiness or unhappiness. My dr. has a WLS patient who has a bad

marriage. She thought that if she lost the weight, it would be

better. Well, she's lost the weight & STILL has a bad marriage. A

person's true character doesn't change much, just the truth of may

become more apparent, for better or worse. Hope this makes sense &

helps you some.

Good luck to you.

Cheri

> I got a call today from a friend. He said he was

> concerned about this surgery. He has been on the diet

> merry-go-round for a while as well. Anyway, he posed

> an interesting statement, that no one has brought up

> to me before.

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> He said he did not want me to have this surgery,

> because: " he likes me the way that I am, and that he

> heard that after this surgery, ones personality

> changes. " Now to tell you the truth, I like that. he

> was concerned for me as an individual and whatmy

> personality might be like after the surgery. Cool.

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> My reply was that I do know some friends who have lost

> alot of weight from the RNY surgery. I also do know

> that their personality has changed. Ones who were

> happy before the surgery, now seem quite and

> depressed. I do not see that with this group. Maybe I

> am being blind. But I have to ask, Those of you who

> are post op, What is your experience with this? I know

> that those recently post op will have some depression,

> but I mean those who are a ways out. Can you help me

> to undersatand this part of the surgery?

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> Those I have talked to personally seem to love the DS

> and I don't see any real problems. But I didn't know

> them before the DS, so I have nothing to compare.

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> I know some will say that you have to consider the

> complications of being obese as to compared to

> personality. I know this and have now desire to change

> my mind. just would like to know how this part works

> so I can reply to he correctly.

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