Re: Nan responds to Carolyn's response...

[Guest guest]

Sorry I stepped on a sore spot! and no, suggesting that

you may have acquired a lable somewhere along the line that

is haunting you now is not disrespectful. If I said you

deserved the lable, that would have been disrespectful.

I do not know what your experience with real world support

groups is, but occaisionally, when folks see where someone

is haveing trouble, but the someone is completely in the

dark about it, it is appropriate to try and point out to

the someone what the other folks are seeing. I will never

try to be helpful in that way with you again. Clearly, such

feed back is completly unwelcome to you. Now we all know.

What you want a place to vent. Fine. good day .

Nan E.

--- Caroline Powser humngbrd2001@...> wrote in part:

>

> > You suggested that I have a sign on my back

> labeling me! That is not disrespectful? Obviously,

> you have a different set of ethics than I do.

> I have left the USC group list...... I don't need

> the agrivation. I came here to learn.... to have

> dialogue with others who share my life problems and

> for support.

> Do I have to leave here too?

> CAroline

> --- Nan Earnheart leafynan@...> wrote:

> > Caroline-- I realize that you feel that anyone who

> > disagrees with you is hurting you, and you respond

> > with

> > anger. I am not angry, and I am not calling you

> > names, and

> > I am not dissing you in any way. I am asking you to

> > look

> > at your interactions with physicians' offices in the

> > past

> > and calmly evaluate your role in what happened. You

> > may

> > have some behaviors or attitudes or approaches which

> > are

> > not helping you get what you want. I have a

> > temper, and I

> > tend to let it loose when I am frustrated or

> > dissapointed.

> > It has never been in my best interests to do that,

> > in hind

> > sight. People who work with the public in helping

> > capacities (like doctor's offices and lawyers

> > offices) tend

> > to lable certain types of people who demonstrate

> > certain

> > types of behaviors. May not be fair, may not be

> > right, but

> > it is often done. I am suggesting that you may have

> > gotten

> > one of those lables, which you might want to get rid

> > of.

> > You are the only one who knows what your end of

> > things is

> > like-- I am just suggesting based solely on the

> > posts you

> > have placed here that you may have some behaviors

> > that are

> > getting in your way. It is only my opinion, and my

> > opinion

> > is worth whatever you think it is.

> > Nan E. ( an angry woman trying very hard to chill

> > and not

> > take this personally)

> >

> > --- Caroline Powser humngbrd2001@...> wrote:

> > >

> > > You bet I am angry!! And then I have to be

> > attacked

> > > on a *support* group by a couple of people who

> > enjoy

> > > seeing others in pain?

> > > Bye......

> > >

> > >

> > > --- Nan Earnheart leafynan@...> wrote:

> > > > Any one else begining to understand Caroline's

> > the

> > > > turn

> > > > down? No disrespect, Caroline, but you are a

> > little

> > > > intense and angry. Do you have a history of

> > being

> > > > pissed

> > > > off that is documented in your records? You

> > might

> > > > have

> > > > gotten a " diffiuclt " patient sign hung on your

> > back.

> > > >

> > > > Nan E. ( an angry and difficult woman learning

> > to

> > > > chill.)

> > > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > > __________________________________________________

> > >