Collected Wisdom

[Guest guest]

I think the best thing, would be a " Best of " compilation of the

postings to this list, from everyone. The collective wisdom here is

far more than any one single person could possess. Besides, I feel

very uncomfortable as anybody's role model! God knows, I'm just

making this (life) up as I go! You guys (wheter you realize it or

not) are the real " Bari-Gurus. "

Uncle Timmy -236

>

> > > > Hi ,

> > > >

> > > > I mentioned that I was with my previous husband

> > > for decades. What

> > > I did

> > > > not mention is that he was impotent, so I

> > > basically closed the

> > > door on

> > > > my sexuality for more than a decade.

> > > >

> > > > OK, here's my personal (very!) recommendation, and

> > > I truly hope it

> > > does

> > > > not offend. If it doesn't fit you and your

> > > marriage, feel free to

> > > reject

> > > > it. I understand that your husband's libido is

> > > diminished because

> > > of his

> > > > health problems. Is he comfortable with either

> > > helping you with

> > > either

> > > > hands, mouth, or toys, or holding you while you

> > > play with them?

> > > This may

> > > > seem awkward at first, but might be a way for your

> > > libido issues

> > > to be

> > > > addressed, without straying. I highly recommend

> > > Good Vibrations on

> > > San

> > > > Pablo as a source of advice, toys, and erotic

> > > literature.

> > > >

> > > > Feel free to contact me for any other suggestions.

> > > You do need to

> > > take

> > > > care of ALL facets of your life, including your

> > > sexuality. Like I

> > > said,

> > > > I hope this doesn't offend. I truly don't mean it

> > > to.

> > > >

> > > > Eleanor

> > > >

> > > > --

> > > > Eleanor Oster

> > > > eleanor@s... (personal address)

> > > > www.smallboxes.com/gastricbypass.htm

> > > > San , CA

> > > > Open RNY (100 cm bypassed) 07/15/2003

> > > > P. Fisher, M.D., Kaiser Richmond (CA)

> > > > ~5'9 " tall

> > > > 05/09/2003 319 Orientation

> > > > 07/15/2003 ~290 Surgery

> > > > Current ~150 Goal until plastics?

> > > > Goal 140-150?

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

> >

> >

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