Re: 1) 2) 3) - Reply to Rose

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I usually don't write to you because I am not sure what to say because

your situation is so complicated but today I felt that I need to tell

you that I care about you. , I read your posts and can tell that

you are in a bad place. I go to therapy and one of the best things that

my therapist ever told me was to have the pity party - then get over it.

Everyone's situation is different and everyone situation is difficult.

I lived with an abusive, alcoholic father and saw things a child should

never see. My mother had numerous nervous breakdowns because of the

abuse she suffered and saw her children suffer. So I never really had

anyone to show me what a normal relationship was. So because of that, I

am on my fourth marriage. I have two wonderful twin sons by my second

husband and if I hadn't married him I wouldn't have these wonderful

human beings in my life if I hadn't married their Dad.

I currently am in another difficult marriage, but I have decided that I

am not going to be the victim again. If you have read from my other

posts, my friend Amy has been visiting. She made me see that I have

been falling into some old patterns regarding my husband and I am

determined not to do that anymore. While my living arrangement is far

from perfect, I have decided not to let if affect my health. Whether it

is Church, my friends here online, my therapist, whatever...I am going

to have a network of people around me that will help me through this

difficult time and truly are my friends. And I guess now that is the

point - we all want to help you through your difficult time. We give

you advice and hope it will help you. While our recommendations may not

be possible, this is our way of saying we care about you enough to try

to give you suggestions to help you through this life. Maybe just

once, when someone has some advice to give, it will be possible for you

to try and will really make a change in your life. But until that time,

we will all be there to advise you, care about you and be there for you

to hear you.

Take care of yourself and don't be drug into an argument that has

no end. You need the rest and you don't need the stress. I really care

what happens to you.

Terri G.

> , first things first. What kind of party pooper are you? A pity

party pooper? Pity parties are empowering!

> Is there a bus line from your house to the library? I hate riding

buses, but sometimes that's the best choice. Have you looked into

special rates? Even before the SSA decided I was disabled, I got a

special bus pass. All I needed was a note from my doctor. It's not free,

but it's pretty cheap.

> I'm confused about whose car got wrecked.

>

> Ramblin' Rose

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> From: GARY WOOLARD garyjwoolard@...

> Reply-To: Neurosarcoidosis

> To: Neurosarcoidosis

> Subject: (1) , (2) When Is It Ever Going To

End?

> Date: Tue, 21 Feb 2006 16:05:47 -0800 (PST)

>

> Hello there,

>

> My first response is to that she wrote on Feb. 9, 2006 and this

#2 item in the subject title above is a recent thing happened this past

weekend.

>

> , I was getting counseling by Claryise at the V.A. clinic in

Grand Rapids but she retired this past December. Now because of

something happened this past weekend this very well be harder to have

this done. I don't have money or anykind of investment source that I

could sell or get money for anytype of investment money for this type of

scenario. Not to mentioned money to live on up two years until a divorce

be final. Like I've said before, for me read these e-mails or write them

I have to walk or use transportation to get to the library. It is 1 1/4

mile one way walk to this Wyoming City Library in a generally

northeastern direction from the back of my apartment building. By

vehicle somewhat longer distance like 1 1/2 mile away one way. All these

past months that I've done this e-mail reading & writing thing that it

very well be over a 100 miles in walking getting to and back when doing

this. Like I have no money for a divorce, I have no money for computer,

internet service, &

> long distance telephone line connection for this to happen. There's no

nursing home's around where I live to visit those folks. Besides this is

not my " Cup of Tea " to do this type of thing. There are things I do for

intertainment and knowledge value of watching things on Tv. Another time

to discuss that and not today. Reba has spending money of her own and

goes with her boyfriend/manfriend to the movies. But do I ever

have this opertunity? No.

> (2) When is it EVER GOING TO END???????????

> Tracie, that temperature thing I used to detect my temperature is not

one of those mouth kinds. It is one that is put on your forehead and get

a reading that way. Those temperatures readings were and estimates of

102 degrees on this last Friday and 103 degrees on Saturaday afternoon.

I've have had periods of sleepy time I had night sweats and this was

very all because putting to much of that chilli pepper rhemy cream I

have. I suppose that I shouldn't be at this library and doing this thing

though anyway.

> When is it Ever Going to End????? Now, Kathy & I are more destressed

now. Reba & Kathy asked this woman Angel this past Friday/Saturaday or

there abouts that they could use her 1993 Plymouth Voyager mini-van to

work on the paperoutes for Sunday morning. There's 3 routes we do around

120 customers. Angel is divorced and living with her manfriend Steve.

Steve was the former manager at the store that Reba has and now works at

and as when Kathy worked there herself. I don't know the ages of Angel's

kids, but one is and he is 8 yrs. old. Either Saturaday evening or

some-

> time Sunday morning, Angel had a accident with our car. Kathy & Reba

both were giving me different versions of what happened. The kids had

cuts & bruses and I don't know if the car tipped over on ice or what.

The car had broken glass however and is Totaled. Now we don't have our

own vehicle to drive and no money to get another one. Ironically Angel

was trying to sell her mini-van for $1,500.00 before what happened to

our car.

> Another long e-mail from me ending here.

>

> Bye,

>

>

> P.S. I DON'T WANT NO PITY PARTYS NOW OR EVER, OKAY?

>

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