But wait, there's more...

[Guest guest]

A huge thank you to everyone who responded (and others who I know are also

sympathetic) to my long rant about screwed up mito blood test. I kind of

knew I'd get that response, or else I wouldn't have been able to write it.

It's not easy to pick up the pieces and keep going. My loving wife is SO

supportive, it just amazes me sometimes, and I really question whether I

could do so much if the situation were reversed.

Not only is this SSDI thing perpetually in process, but I am also trying to

prove to a court that I am disabled. My ex-wife had been OK with my

discontinuing alimony and child support payments, when I became totally

unable to work five years ago, although I did pay her for some time, from my

dwindling savings (this after she already had much more than half of " my "

savings, but I won't get into that now). It's a long story, but basically I

was too tired and frazzled to pursue every angle, in my disintegrating life,

and I never got a modification from the court. Anyway, " our " house that she

lived in was finally sold two years ago when the kids went out into the

world (and I, rather than my ex-wife, carry the giant loans for college),

and our settlement defined how the proceeds should be split. However, now

she raised the issue of all this supposed back payments that were never

paid, and hence my measly share of the proceeds (about 1/5 of the net) is in

escrow. My lawyer (funds to pay for this have run out too) needs to show

that I really was disabled, so the SSDI finding will probably drive all the

rest of this as well. There have been many court hearings and continuations,

but now it looks like the Waterloo is going down. Hence my dismay, at the

latest blood test delay.

To highlight the magnitude of the above, let me note that my payment to her

was $660 per WEEK. More than a third of my long-ago income went to her,

another third to taxes, and I lived on the remainder. It's incredible to me,

that total lack of any income at all is NO EXCUSE in the eyes of the court,

for not paying this gigantic amount every week (the meter is technically

STILL running!). Seems the court thinks some high-income people are FAKING

inability to earn, and coasting on savings or something. That certainly

isn't me, as I drained all my savings paying my ex-wife, long ago.

Just BTW, I have no health insurance at all. All attempts to date have been

denied because I still can't really prove I'm disabled (and of course the

medical detail is supposedly inconclusive). Pursuing THIS too is on my list,

with about a hundred other desperately urgent things, like finding an

advocate that will be patient with my extreme exercise intolerance. Thanks

again to all in this list who keep boosting me along a little further.

Steve D.