Re: [BULK] Re: Lynda/help teachers/guidance cons.

[Guest guest]

Lynda

From the teacher and mother in me, I would suggest that he have someone

outside of the family to talk to. It could be a teacher or counselor at

school or a friend of the family. Someone he can bond with and trust. Kids

try to protect their parents from their fears and concerns. In spite of us

moms wanting to do everything for our kids, it sometimes takes a person who

isn't so emotionally involved to be there for him. I can't remember how old

Spencer is, but encouraging him to ask questions and maybe even going to a

doctor's appointment might help.

Just some ideas.

laurie

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> Date: Wed, 2 Feb 2005 21:29:57 -0500

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> Subject: [bULK] Re: Lynda/help teachers/guidance cons.

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> Hey ,

> Thanks for the prayer list offer.....yes, please do. The more the better.

> I've put just about everyone on this list on ours one time or another:)

> Spencer is also kind and compassionate...overly helpful sometimes.....it just

> seems like he has an anger that comes out now that we've never seen. Someone

> suggested that maybe he is mad at God or his Dad for not getting better. We

> have probably contributed to it by saying this medicine, machine,

> procedure(fill in the blank) will make Daddy feel better and it hasn't.

> Maybe that's where the anger is.....I don't understand cause he is usually the

> sweetest, meekest child. He does however worship the ground Dewayne walks on

> and I am just Mom.haha Maybe some of you teachers will know how to help me or

> what to do....Thanks you all for listening...you are the best.

> Love, Lynda R.

> Lynda

>

>

> Hey Lynda,

>

> I just want to say that I admire you and respect you a lot for how you handle

> DW's situation with the Mito. My wife and have been through a lot in the

> relatively short time that my illness has been progressing but it is

> refreshing to see someone that is as strong as you are even in your toughest

> times.

>

>

>

>

> In Christ,

>

> McCombs

> 2 Cor 1:3-4

>

>

[Guest guest]

Laurie,

Thank you, thank you for your words of wisdom. Spencer will be 7 on Valentine's

Day. I don't know how he is that old since I'm still carrying his " baby fat " on

me....it is baby fat until he's grown isn't it? haha

We have thought of letting him talk to someone....we just don't know how much to

tell...Should we let him know that Dewayne is not going to get better and

actually tell him that he has been given a terminal sentence. That's so

strange, I can't make myself say die. heavy sigh....I know that Spencer knows

more than we probably think....he is a smart little fellow. What do you all

think is the " right " amount of info? Thanks again.....I am really taking this

hard about the misbehavior....it's so unlike him.

Bye now,

Lynda

Lynda

>

>

> Hey Lynda,

>

> I just want to say that I admire you and respect you a lot for how you

handle

> DW's situation with the Mito. My wife and have been through a lot in the

> relatively short time that my illness has been progressing but it is

> refreshing to see someone that is as strong as you are even in your toughest

> times.

>

>

>

>

> In Christ,

>

> McCombs

> 2 Cor 1:3-4

>

>

[Guest guest]

Lynda,

If you haven't already, why don't you ask Spencer what he thinks is

going on with his Dad. If you need to draw him out, ask how his Dad's

illness makes Spencer feel. You could tell him it is OK to be scared

and that you are too. That may be enough, you never know.

Hugs,

Lynda and Dewayne Rose wrote:

>Laurie,

>Thank you, thank you for your words of wisdom. Spencer will be 7 on

Valentine's Day. I don't know how he is that old since I'm still carrying his

" baby fat " on me....it is baby fat until he's grown isn't it? haha

>We have thought of letting him talk to someone....we just don't know how much

to tell...Should we let him know that Dewayne is not going to get better and

actually tell him that he has been given a terminal sentence. That's so

strange, I can't make myself say die. heavy sigh....I know that Spencer knows

more than we probably think....he is a smart little fellow. What do you all

think is the " right " amount of info? Thanks again.....I am really taking this

hard about the misbehavior....it's so unlike him.

>Bye now,

>Lynda

> Lynda

> >

> >

> > Hey Lynda,

> >

> > I just want to say that I admire you and respect you a lot for how you

handle

> > DW's situation with the Mito. My wife and have been through a lot in the

> > relatively short time that my illness has been progressing but it is

> > refreshing to see someone that is as strong as you are even in your

toughest

> > times.

> >

> >

> >

> >

> > In Christ,

> >

> > McCombs

> > 2 Cor 1:3-4

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

Lynda

The rule of thumb with something like this is to start the conversation and

then answer his questions truthfully. I agree that he probably does know

more than you think and getting answers to his questions might actually make

him feel better. He might be thinking that he will have to suffer like his

dad when he gets older - you never know what goes on in a child's mind.

We have a facility about 45 min. from me, called Ellie's place. It was

started by the mom of a little girl who died of cancer who had siblings who

needed to deal with their sister's death. It is supported by fund drives. It

is a place to face an upcoming loss and grieve. I wish these were available

every place.

Some Hospice's have groups for children who have a terminal family member.

That doesn't sound a fitting term, but I don't know what else to use.

laurie

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> Date: Wed, 2 Feb 2005 22:04:22 -0500

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> Subject: Re: [bULK] Re: Lynda/help teachers/guidance cons.

>

> Laurie,

> Thank you, thank you for your words of wisdom. Spencer will be 7 on

> Valentine's Day. I don't know how he is that old since I'm still carrying his

> " baby fat " on me....it is baby fat until he's grown isn't it? haha

> We have thought of letting him talk to someone....we just don't know how much

> to tell...Should we let him know that Dewayne is not going to get better and

> actually tell him that he has been given a terminal sentence. That's so

> strange, I can't make myself say die. heavy sigh....I know that Spencer knows

> more than we probably think....he is a smart little fellow. What do you all

> think is the " right " amount of info? Thanks again.....I am really taking this

> hard about the misbehavior....it's so unlike him.

> Bye now,

> Lynda

> Lynda

>>

>>

>> Hey Lynda,

>>

>> I just want to say that I admire you and respect you a lot for how you handle

>> DW's situation with the Mito. My wife and have been through a lot in the

>> relatively short time that my illness has been progressing but it is

>> refreshing to see someone that is as strong as you are even in your toughest

>> times.

>>

>>

>>

>>

>> In Christ,

>>

>> McCombs

>> 2 Cor 1:3-4

>>

>>