,Lynda...kids having meltdowns

[Guest guest]

The first thing I want to say is let the teachers know about your health and

what your children are facing. My daughter was very perceptive even at five and

she has always acted like your son, . If no one let her talk and voice her

concerns she would become physically ill, while the second daughter never said a

word but would hide in her bedroom. Our son was in sixth grade and I was

hospitalized for 10 days several hundred miles from home...he was well behaved

until I got back and then suddenly rowdy, too talkative and very irresponsible

with school work. Since his teachers all knew I would be out of town and

why...they came to visit and collectively told him they would always listen to

his thoughts but it was time to buckle down...that did the trick and we all

survived sixth grade!

My children have always known I would honestly answer their questions but

sometimes they are just afraid of the answers, we are too! Gently tell your

kids that the thing that makes you happiest is seeing them have fun and if they

worry all the time you know they aren't happy...you will be surprised and

pleased that somehow this allows them to feel okay having fun, it releases them

to just be a kid again. Always be honest with them but life can get really

tough and children deserve to be children before they become adults.

Debra