Re: Re: Two to three children

[Guest guest]

I have a 22 month gap and wouldn't reccommend it! ( for the first 6 months very

hard) but they are both brilliant now! 2 isn't twice the work at first its four

times noe only three times!!

Love

http://groups.yahoo.com/group/the-soapy-group

Re: Two to three children

Tell me - is one to two really THAT bad? Is it worse than none to

one?

Todman

Treasurer, Stansted Branch (R5)

Mum to , 3½

(worrying big time now, as contemplating a second, but did struggle

badly at the start with only one)

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I honestly can't believe that *anything* is as bad as from none to one, but

then I had the child from hell first and the wonderful feeding/sleeping baby

second.

Cerys

-----Original Message-----

From: Todman

Tell me - is one to two really THAT bad? Is it worse than none to

one?

[Guest guest]

> Tell me - is one to two really THAT bad? Is it worse than none to

> one?

>

> Todman

> Treasurer, Stansted Branch (R5)

> Mum to , 3½

> (worrying big time now, as contemplating a second, but did struggle

> badly at the start with only one)

Noo! None to one has to be the worst - was a huge shock to me at 20.

Adding the rest hasn't been a problem - you gradually get used to the extra

demands/chores/laundry and noise.

The noise level is probably the only thing that gets me down - I can no

longer tolerate loud music/television and savour any peace and quiet.

Alfie is also sensitive to loud noises and has not learnt to 'sleep through

anything'. I am regularly to be found feeding him to sleep with one finger

stuck in his ear as you can guarantee one of them will scream/shout etc and

wake the poor thing up.

Hannah, 27

Mum to Bethany 7, Lawrence 5 1/2, Verity 3, Alfie 4 months

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[Guest guest]

my two are 21 months apart and it was brilliant, no nursery to worry

about, both in nappies so no rushing for the potty while feeding, too

young for too much jealousy.... and now they are as thick as thieves!!

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Angi 0:-)

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married to Tim

mum to Georgi, 3 years, 7 months and Susy, 23 months

-----Original Message-----

I have a 22 month gap and wouldn't reccommend it! ( for the first 6

months very hard) but they are both brilliant now! 2 isn't twice the

work at first its four times noe only three times!!

Love

http://groups.yahoo.com/group/the-soapy-group

[Guest guest]

<<>

Well I have a 23 month gap between Phoebe and Eloisa and I think it has been

brilliant. Yes I had (have as Phoebe still refuses to potty train ) 2 in

nappies but the nappies never bothered me much (and I never did understand why

people got so hung up on the 2 in nappies thing) and yes there was times where

I felt like I was being torn in 2 but I to think that was more about having a

2nd baby (as all my friends who have had 2nd babies later have been exactly the

same) as eloisa got older her and Phoebe enjoy the same things and they have a

really close relationship I love watching them together..

I have not at all found 2 twice the work Eloisa really just slotted in to our

family without much trouble (and whilst a good baby she was nothing compared to

Phoebe who was that kind of model baby that makes the rest of the mothers in the

antenatal classes really hate you LOL) I have always felt that Eloisa was kind

of missing from our family from the day Phoebe was born I knew she " needed " a

sister ;o)... and I could not imagine my world without my little Ellie Ollie

girl ;o)... (Oh gosh how soppy but it is 11 20 pm and I am tired LOL)

Lonnie Phoebe & Eloisa's mama

& expecting a Christmas delivery...

My therapist told me the way to achieve true inner peace is to finish what you

start.

So far today, I have finished 2 bags of chips and a Chocolate cake.

I feel better already.

Re: Re: Two to three children

my two are 21 months apart and it was brilliant, no nursery to worry

about, both in nappies so no rushing for the potty while feeding, too

young for too much jealousy.... and now they are as thick as thieves!!

_________________

Angi 0:-)

@--->-----

married to Tim

mum to Georgi, 3 years, 7 months and Susy, 23 months

-----Original Message-----

I have a 22 month gap and wouldn't reccommend it! ( for the first 6

months very hard) but they are both brilliant now! 2 isn't twice the

work at first its four times noe only three times!!

Love

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<<>

Well I have a 23 month gap between Phoebe and Eloisa and I think it has been

brilliant. Yes I had (have as Phoebe still refuses to potty train ) 2 in

nappies but the nappies never bothered me much (and I never did understand why

people got so hung up on the 2 in nappies thing) and yes there was times where

I felt like I was being torn in 2 but I to think that was more about having a

2nd baby (as all my friends who have had 2nd babies later have been exactly the

same) as eloisa got older her and Phoebe enjoy the same things and they have a

really close relationship I love watching them together..

I have not at all found 2 twice the work Eloisa really just slotted in to our

family without much trouble (and whilst a good baby she was nothing compared to

Phoebe who was that kind of model baby that makes the rest of the mothers in the

antenatal classes really hate you LOL) I have always felt that Eloisa was kind

of missing from our family from the day Phoebe was born I knew she " needed " a

sister ;o)... and I could not imagine my world without my little Ellie Ollie

girl ;o)... (Oh gosh how soppy but it is 11 20 pm and I am tired LOL)

Lonnie Phoebe & Eloisa's mama

& expecting a Christmas delivery...

My therapist told me the way to achieve true inner peace is to finish what you

start.

So far today, I have finished 2 bags of chips and a Chocolate cake.

I feel better already.

Re: Re: Two to three children

my two are 21 months apart and it was brilliant, no nursery to worry

about, both in nappies so no rushing for the potty while feeding, too

young for too much jealousy.... and now they are as thick as thieves!!

_________________

Angi 0:-)

@--->-----

married to Tim

mum to Georgi, 3 years, 7 months and Susy, 23 months

-----Original Message-----

I have a 22 month gap and wouldn't reccommend it! ( for the first 6

months very hard) but they are both brilliant now! 2 isn't twice the

work at first its four times noe only three times!!

Love

http://groups.yahoo.com/group/the-soapy-group

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<<>

Well I have a 23 month gap between Phoebe and Eloisa and I think it has been

brilliant. Yes I had (have as Phoebe still refuses to potty train ) 2 in

nappies but the nappies never bothered me much (and I never did understand why

people got so hung up on the 2 in nappies thing) and yes there was times where

I felt like I was being torn in 2 but I to think that was more about having a

2nd baby (as all my friends who have had 2nd babies later have been exactly the

same) as eloisa got older her and Phoebe enjoy the same things and they have a

really close relationship I love watching them together..

I have not at all found 2 twice the work Eloisa really just slotted in to our

family without much trouble (and whilst a good baby she was nothing compared to

Phoebe who was that kind of model baby that makes the rest of the mothers in the

antenatal classes really hate you LOL) I have always felt that Eloisa was kind

of missing from our family from the day Phoebe was born I knew she " needed " a

sister ;o)... and I could not imagine my world without my little Ellie Ollie

girl ;o)... (Oh gosh how soppy but it is 11 20 pm and I am tired LOL)

Lonnie Phoebe & Eloisa's mama

& expecting a Christmas delivery...

My therapist told me the way to achieve true inner peace is to finish what you

start.

So far today, I have finished 2 bags of chips and a Chocolate cake.

I feel better already.

Re: Re: Two to three children

my two are 21 months apart and it was brilliant, no nursery to worry

about, both in nappies so no rushing for the potty while feeding, too

young for too much jealousy.... and now they are as thick as thieves!!

_________________

Angi 0:-)

@--->-----

married to Tim

mum to Georgi, 3 years, 7 months and Susy, 23 months

-----Original Message-----

I have a 22 month gap and wouldn't reccommend it! ( for the first 6

months very hard) but they are both brilliant now! 2 isn't twice the

work at first its four times noe only three times!!

Love

http://groups.yahoo.com/group/the-soapy-group

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>

No it is not.. In fact I found 1 to 2 a lot easier than I thought it would be I

had been there and done that and felt far more confident and I already knew that

I had room in my heart to love more people (I didn't stop loving dh when dd1

came along LOL) so I had most of that kind of worries gone.. there are hard

times yes but it was worse with number 1..

Lonnie Phoebe & Eloisa's mama

& expecting a Christmas delivery...

My therapist told me the way to achieve true inner peace is to finish what you

start.

So far today, I have finished 2 bags of chips and a Chocolate cake.

I feel better already.

[Guest guest]

<

>

No it is not.. In fact I found 1 to 2 a lot easier than I thought it would be I

had been there and done that and felt far more confident and I already knew that

I had room in my heart to love more people (I didn't stop loving dh when dd1

came along LOL) so I had most of that kind of worries gone.. there are hard

times yes but it was worse with number 1..

Lonnie Phoebe & Eloisa's mama

& expecting a Christmas delivery...

My therapist told me the way to achieve true inner peace is to finish what you

start.

So far today, I have finished 2 bags of chips and a Chocolate cake.

I feel better already.

[Guest guest]

Well, my none to one was rather unplanned so only required me to play

catch-up I think I found with just one I could carry on pretty much as

before, with some restrictions on my night life! Whereas with two I did

need to make allowances for the fact that I'm a Mummy now - perhaps if you

did that allowance making before your first arrived, you'll find you're

already there and all subsequents will just be a matter of numbers as it

were!

Vicki Portman

http://www.plushpants.co.uk

Tell me - is one to two really THAT bad? Is it worse than none to

one?

Todman

Treasurer, Stansted Branch (R5)

Mum to , 3½

(worrying big time now, as contemplating a second, but did struggle

badly at the start with only one)

[Guest guest]

I seem to have coped with the noise levels by going deaf. DH tells me when

the baby's woken up as I can't hear noise from upstairs. This also means he

has to sort out after-bedtime discipline. I can't be cross with them for

mucking about if I can't hear them, can I?? It also means I can't cope with

demands for drinks/biscuits/TV/ whatever unless they're made in the same

room as me and often to my face. Sadly, the Dr thinks gromits or something

might be the solution. I'm putting that appt. off and just enjoying the

peace )

Vicki Portman

http://www.plushpants.co.uk

Hannah wrote:

The noise level is probably the only thing that gets me down - I can no

longer tolerate loud music/television and savour any peace and quiet.

[Guest guest]

I have a 22 month gap and wouldn't reccommend it! ( for the first 6

months very hard) but they are both brilliant now! 2 isn't twice the

work at first its four times noe only three times!!<<

I also have a 22 month gap between my two eldest and found it worked

really well. I had no playgroup runs to make so our days could be as

leisurely or as full as we liked. I had two in nappies but I don't

think that creates much extra work. They are now great friends and

although they do fight occassionaly it is nothing like the argueing

that goes on between them and their younger brothers. There is a 2

3/4 gap between my next two and then another 2 3/4 gap between the

youngest two. I had far more sibling rivalry between the younger ones

than I ever had between the eldest two.

Lorraine

Mum to 10, Natasha 8, 5, ph 3

[Guest guest]

I don't actually think that there is an ideal gap, it depends on the

> individual children and how they react and until you have had the

> baby you have no idea how they will react. <<

I would agree with this too - I think also a lot depends on the

charactor of the child. There is 4 1/2 yrs between DS1 and DS2 and

they really don't get on at all and never have. They are just so

different - DS2 winds DS1 up all the time and DS1 is totally

intolerant of DS2. There is a similar gap between DD and DS3 but

there are no problems at all there.

Lorraine

Mum to 10, Natasha 8, 5, ph 3