Re: 3 kids... new ball game..

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> I don't mean to make anyone feel uncomfortable but I am needing some

advice I guess.

> Lonnie Phoebe & Eloisa's mama

I think every time I had another baby I worried about coping, but

somehow we find the resources to cope and it's much easier when it

happens than when we worry about it. Rally your friends round in

advance to do the playgroup run for you for a couple of weeks with

promises to return the favour once you are on your feet again. Fill

your freezer with precooked meals so you don't have to think about

cooking for a while. If you are really panicked book an au pair for a

few weeks.

As to boys, they only turn into aliens when they get a bit older so

you have time to worry.

Ruthie

[Guest guest]

> I don't mean to make anyone feel uncomfortable but I am needing some

advice I guess.

> Lonnie Phoebe & Eloisa's mama

I think every time I had another baby I worried about coping, but

somehow we find the resources to cope and it's much easier when it

happens than when we worry about it. Rally your friends round in

advance to do the playgroup run for you for a couple of weeks with

promises to return the favour once you are on your feet again. Fill

your freezer with precooked meals so you don't have to think about

cooking for a while. If you are really panicked book an au pair for a

few weeks.

As to boys, they only turn into aliens when they get a bit older so

you have time to worry.

Ruthie

[Guest guest]

I know just how you feel, Lonnie. I felt the same way before my DD2

arrived, but with the added complication that DS was only a baby himself so

I felt guilty that he wouldn't have much time alone with me, too. Worry

away - I'm sure it's just your hormones' way of giving you something to

think about to help pass the time! When it comes down to it you will cope

fine. Ruthie's advice about pre-cooking and getting friends to do the

playschool run for a week or two is a good idea. But as you say, in no time

at all you'll be wondering how you ever coped with only two children. In

fact, I found the jump from two to three very much easier than the jump from

one to two.

HTH

Vicki Portman

http://www.plushpants.co.uk

>

> I don't mean to make anyone feel uncomfortable but I am needing some

advice I guess.

> Lonnie Phoebe & Eloisa's mama

[Guest guest]

I know just how you feel, Lonnie. I felt the same way before my DD2

arrived, but with the added complication that DS was only a baby himself so

I felt guilty that he wouldn't have much time alone with me, too. Worry

away - I'm sure it's just your hormones' way of giving you something to

think about to help pass the time! When it comes down to it you will cope

fine. Ruthie's advice about pre-cooking and getting friends to do the

playschool run for a week or two is a good idea. But as you say, in no time

at all you'll be wondering how you ever coped with only two children. In

fact, I found the jump from two to three very much easier than the jump from

one to two.

HTH

Vicki Portman

http://www.plushpants.co.uk

>

> I don't mean to make anyone feel uncomfortable but I am needing some

advice I guess.

> Lonnie Phoebe & Eloisa's mama

[Guest guest]

ruthie

thankfully as this baby is due around Christmas I will have a week or 2 off

before Playgroup runs are on (having said that I shall now have this baby 2

weeks early and have to go all over the place getting there for Christmas things

LOL) so I know that this will be ok. My friend has already said she will take

Phoebe for me some mornings but as her playgroup is across town and she has a

son to get to school I really don't see it as a feasible option.. No I am just

going to have to get on with it myself..

I am one of those weird people who cant stand precooked dinners so what I do

when I am near my EDD is a quick trip to Sainsbury's where I stock up on pasta

sauce, and ready made meals that can be frozen (I don't mind their taste the

difference range LOL) and then I have frozen fish and some home made soup (for

some reason I don't mind that pre cooked and frozen) and that is what we live on

the first couple of days.. Having said that both with Phoebe and Eloisa I had at

least 2 friends show up with a bag from Sainsbury's (we have a HUGE one just 3

mins down the road from us) with some fresh pasta , sauce and salad and some

yummy yoghurts and that way we had dinner sorted. after I had this happening to

me after Phoebe arrived this always is one of my baby gifts and I do find that

it falls in far better ground than any present card etc that I bring along to

baby (5 times I have had OH THANK YOU I had nothing for dinner LOL)

sorry this got long and probably a little ott.. I know deep inside me that I

WILL and CAN manage but I can't help worrying. weird as with Eloisa I didn't

worry about anything but sibling jealousy so I read every book I could find on

the subject.. funny as my problem was Phoebe adored Eloisa that much she hated

it when she slept and none of the books had mentioned older sibling loving the

child to bits ;o)...

Lonnie Phoebe & Eloisa's mama

& expecting a Christmas delivery...

My therapist told me the way to achieve true inner peace is to finish what you

start.

So far today, I have finished 2 bags of chips and a Chocolate cake.

I feel better already.

Re: 3 kids... new ball game..

> I don't mean to make anyone feel uncomfortable but I am needing some

advice I guess.

> Lonnie Phoebe & Eloisa's mama

I think every time I had another baby I worried about coping, but

somehow we find the resources to cope and it's much easier when it

happens than when we worry about it. Rally your friends round in

advance to do the playgroup run for you for a couple of weeks with

promises to return the favour once you are on your feet again. Fill

your freezer with precooked meals so you don't have to think about

cooking for a while. If you are really panicked book an au pair for a

few weeks.

As to boys, they only turn into aliens when they get a bit older so

you have time to worry.

Ruthie

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ruthie

thankfully as this baby is due around Christmas I will have a week or 2 off

before Playgroup runs are on (having said that I shall now have this baby 2

weeks early and have to go all over the place getting there for Christmas things

LOL) so I know that this will be ok. My friend has already said she will take

Phoebe for me some mornings but as her playgroup is across town and she has a

son to get to school I really don't see it as a feasible option.. No I am just

going to have to get on with it myself..

I am one of those weird people who cant stand precooked dinners so what I do

when I am near my EDD is a quick trip to Sainsbury's where I stock up on pasta

sauce, and ready made meals that can be frozen (I don't mind their taste the

difference range LOL) and then I have frozen fish and some home made soup (for

some reason I don't mind that pre cooked and frozen) and that is what we live on

the first couple of days.. Having said that both with Phoebe and Eloisa I had at

least 2 friends show up with a bag from Sainsbury's (we have a HUGE one just 3

mins down the road from us) with some fresh pasta , sauce and salad and some

yummy yoghurts and that way we had dinner sorted. after I had this happening to

me after Phoebe arrived this always is one of my baby gifts and I do find that

it falls in far better ground than any present card etc that I bring along to

baby (5 times I have had OH THANK YOU I had nothing for dinner LOL)

sorry this got long and probably a little ott.. I know deep inside me that I

WILL and CAN manage but I can't help worrying. weird as with Eloisa I didn't

worry about anything but sibling jealousy so I read every book I could find on

the subject.. funny as my problem was Phoebe adored Eloisa that much she hated

it when she slept and none of the books had mentioned older sibling loving the

child to bits ;o)...

Lonnie Phoebe & Eloisa's mama

& expecting a Christmas delivery...

My therapist told me the way to achieve true inner peace is to finish what you

start.

So far today, I have finished 2 bags of chips and a Chocolate cake.

I feel better already.

Re: 3 kids... new ball game..

> I don't mean to make anyone feel uncomfortable but I am needing some

advice I guess.

> Lonnie Phoebe & Eloisa's mama

I think every time I had another baby I worried about coping, but

somehow we find the resources to cope and it's much easier when it

happens than when we worry about it. Rally your friends round in

advance to do the playgroup run for you for a couple of weeks with

promises to return the favour once you are on your feet again. Fill

your freezer with precooked meals so you don't have to think about

cooking for a while. If you are really panicked book an au pair for a

few weeks.

As to boys, they only turn into aliens when they get a bit older so

you have time to worry.

Ruthie

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ruthie

thankfully as this baby is due around Christmas I will have a week or 2 off

before Playgroup runs are on (having said that I shall now have this baby 2

weeks early and have to go all over the place getting there for Christmas things

LOL) so I know that this will be ok. My friend has already said she will take

Phoebe for me some mornings but as her playgroup is across town and she has a

son to get to school I really don't see it as a feasible option.. No I am just

going to have to get on with it myself..

I am one of those weird people who cant stand precooked dinners so what I do

when I am near my EDD is a quick trip to Sainsbury's where I stock up on pasta

sauce, and ready made meals that can be frozen (I don't mind their taste the

difference range LOL) and then I have frozen fish and some home made soup (for

some reason I don't mind that pre cooked and frozen) and that is what we live on

the first couple of days.. Having said that both with Phoebe and Eloisa I had at

least 2 friends show up with a bag from Sainsbury's (we have a HUGE one just 3

mins down the road from us) with some fresh pasta , sauce and salad and some

yummy yoghurts and that way we had dinner sorted. after I had this happening to

me after Phoebe arrived this always is one of my baby gifts and I do find that

it falls in far better ground than any present card etc that I bring along to

baby (5 times I have had OH THANK YOU I had nothing for dinner LOL)

sorry this got long and probably a little ott.. I know deep inside me that I

WILL and CAN manage but I can't help worrying. weird as with Eloisa I didn't

worry about anything but sibling jealousy so I read every book I could find on

the subject.. funny as my problem was Phoebe adored Eloisa that much she hated

it when she slept and none of the books had mentioned older sibling loving the

child to bits ;o)...

Lonnie Phoebe & Eloisa's mama

& expecting a Christmas delivery...

My therapist told me the way to achieve true inner peace is to finish what you

start.

So far today, I have finished 2 bags of chips and a Chocolate cake.

I feel better already.

Re: 3 kids... new ball game..

> I don't mean to make anyone feel uncomfortable but I am needing some

advice I guess.

> Lonnie Phoebe & Eloisa's mama

I think every time I had another baby I worried about coping, but

somehow we find the resources to cope and it's much easier when it

happens than when we worry about it. Rally your friends round in

advance to do the playgroup run for you for a couple of weeks with

promises to return the favour once you are on your feet again. Fill

your freezer with precooked meals so you don't have to think about

cooking for a while. If you are really panicked book an au pair for a

few weeks.

As to boys, they only turn into aliens when they get a bit older so

you have time to worry.

Ruthie

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Ditto about the 2-3 bit. Much easier than 1-2, just try to be

realistic about what you can expect to achieve, hire a cleaner if at

all possible and say YES to every offer of help )

Your older one will probably be a great help and your younger one is

used to sharing you so doesn't make anywhere near as much fuss about a

" rival " .

Lesley

ANT, tr BFC, Mother, Wife, Friend, Mender of Broken Hearts,

Keeper of Secrets, Chauffeur, Cook, Maid, Writer. Overweight, Over

thirty, Over here in Worthing..

" Believing Oneself to be perfect is often the sign of a delusional

mind! " Star Trek.

Re: 3 kids... new ball game..

> I know just how you feel, Lonnie. I felt the same way before my DD2

> arrived, but with the added complication that DS was only a baby

himself so

> I felt guilty that he wouldn't have much time alone with me, too.

Worry

> away - I'm sure it's just your hormones' way of giving you

something to

> think about to help pass the time! When it comes down to it you

will cope

> fine. Ruthie's advice about pre-cooking and getting friends to do

the

> playschool run for a week or two is a good idea. But as you say, in

no time

> at all you'll be wondering how you ever coped with only two

children. In

> fact, I found the jump from two to three very much easier than the

jump from

> one to two.

>

> HTH

>

> Vicki Portman

>

> http://www.plushpants.co.uk

> >

> > I don't mean to make anyone feel uncomfortable but I am needing

some

> advice I guess.

> > Lonnie Phoebe & Eloisa's mama

>

[Guest guest]

Ditto about the 2-3 bit. Much easier than 1-2, just try to be

realistic about what you can expect to achieve, hire a cleaner if at

all possible and say YES to every offer of help )

Your older one will probably be a great help and your younger one is

used to sharing you so doesn't make anywhere near as much fuss about a

" rival " .

Lesley

ANT, tr BFC, Mother, Wife, Friend, Mender of Broken Hearts,

Keeper of Secrets, Chauffeur, Cook, Maid, Writer. Overweight, Over

thirty, Over here in Worthing..

" Believing Oneself to be perfect is often the sign of a delusional

mind! " Star Trek.

Re: 3 kids... new ball game..

> I know just how you feel, Lonnie. I felt the same way before my DD2

> arrived, but with the added complication that DS was only a baby

himself so

> I felt guilty that he wouldn't have much time alone with me, too.

Worry

> away - I'm sure it's just your hormones' way of giving you

something to

> think about to help pass the time! When it comes down to it you

will cope

> fine. Ruthie's advice about pre-cooking and getting friends to do

the

> playschool run for a week or two is a good idea. But as you say, in

no time

> at all you'll be wondering how you ever coped with only two

children. In

> fact, I found the jump from two to three very much easier than the

jump from

> one to two.

>

> HTH

>

> Vicki Portman

>

> http://www.plushpants.co.uk

> >

> > I don't mean to make anyone feel uncomfortable but I am needing

some

> advice I guess.

> > Lonnie Phoebe & Eloisa's mama

>

[Guest guest]

BTDT Lonnie, was due on 16th December and arrived on the 1st. I had

done no Christmas shopping so make sure you do it all by the end of November

:-)

Cerys

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Lonnie wrote

(having said that I shall now have this baby 2 weeks early and have to go

all over the place getting there for Christmas things LOL)

[Guest guest]

Cerys wrote

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>

I always do Cery's as most of my Christmas gifts have to be in Denmark, Japan,

Australia, America or Canada there is only a couple for Christmas in England and

all the other lot has to be sent before end of the first week in December..

though I think amazon is getting a load of orders from me this year

Lonnie Phoebe & Eloisa's mama

& expecting a Christmas delivery...

My therapist told me the way to achieve true inner peace is to finish what you

start.

So far today, I have finished 2 bags of chips and a Chocolate cake.

I feel better already.

[Guest guest]

Cerys wrote

<

>

I always do Cery's as most of my Christmas gifts have to be in Denmark, Japan,

Australia, America or Canada there is only a couple for Christmas in England and

all the other lot has to be sent before end of the first week in December..

though I think amazon is getting a load of orders from me this year

Lonnie Phoebe & Eloisa's mama

& expecting a Christmas delivery...

My therapist told me the way to achieve true inner peace is to finish what you

start.

So far today, I have finished 2 bags of chips and a Chocolate cake.

I feel better already.

[Guest guest]

<>

I wish but A they are like gold dust around here and B they charge at least £9 a

hour... ( I looked into it after Eloisa was born) No we are just going to have

to live in mess for a while LOL

Lonnie Phoebe & Eloisa's mama

& expecting a Christmas delivery...

My therapist told me the way to achieve true inner peace is to finish what you

start.

So far today, I have finished 2 bags of chips and a Chocolate cake.

I feel better already.

[Guest guest]

<>

I wish but A they are like gold dust around here and B they charge at least £9 a

hour... ( I looked into it after Eloisa was born) No we are just going to have

to live in mess for a while LOL

Lonnie Phoebe & Eloisa's mama

& expecting a Christmas delivery...

My therapist told me the way to achieve true inner peace is to finish what you

start.

So far today, I have finished 2 bags of chips and a Chocolate cake.

I feel better already.

[Guest guest]

> I am expecting my 3rd child this Christmas and I am getting worried

about how I will cope. <<

I guess this is a pretty common worry but honestly you'll be fine.

3rd babies (and indeed 4th) seem to fit in amazingly well. I think

they learn early on that attention isn't always immediate and they

never seem to get bored because there is always something to watch.

DS2 and DS3 spent a lot of their time in their car seats just watching

the family go about their daily lives. Also older children can be

remarkably helpful. My DS1 was 4 1/2 and my DD was 2 3/4 and both

were capable of fetching and carrying, rocking the baby seat,

answering the phone etc. As for playgroup runs, DS2 was luckily born

at the beginning of the summer holidays so I didn't have to worry

until he was about 5 weeks old but even then it all fitting in OK. I

would just feed him first in the morning and then he would sit in his

car seat whilst we all got dressed and breakfasted, then off out in

the car - it actually wasn't too much of a nightmare, young babies are

fairly adaptable.

Lorraine

Mum to 10, Natasha 8, 5, ph 3

[Guest guest]

I'm a bit late replying on this one Lonnie, but I meant to at the time. I

did have similar feelings at the same stage of pregnancy last summer

(mostly, how will I ever cope with three children while feeling this

sick?! - I was at the point that I thought I would feel sick for

ever.....!), but it's brilliant now that Euan is here. I have a similar age

gap as you'll have - mine were just four and two. I won't ramble on as

you've had a lot of replies but just to give you one instance: I had been

rushing to collect from pre-school and then knew I had to get my

online Tesco order in asap (the biggest timesaver of all!). Euan was crying

as he needed a feed, but when I looked round the other two had sat down next

to him singing " Twinkle Star " and by the second line he was smiling broadly

with tears streaming down his cheeks. I just had to give up with the Tesco

order at that point!

You will love it.

Hannah

3 kids... new ball game..

I am expecting my 3rd child this Christmas and I am getting worried about

how I will cope.