Re: RANT vent RANT ugh CANCER SUCKS ( mom)/Deb

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Call her onc immediately or the emergency call number

for the onc on call. There is absolutely NO REASON for

her to suffer with severe pain. If whatever oral meds

she is taking aren't cutting it, they can hook-up a

morphine pump. But I strongly suspect that she is

getting only a fraction of the dosage that she needs

currently. Has she tried lomotil(prescription) for the

diarrhea? If not, ask for that at the same time and it

should be taken after EVERY stool until it slows down.

You are right to worry about dehydration, especially

if she is too nauseated to drink fluids or keep them

down. Perhaps some IM or IV meds are exactly what she

needs to get ahead of this. So CALL that onc & insist

on some IMMEDIATE treatment.

As to your Dad, he's probably scared & doesn't know

how to deal with it, someone else to talk with

him(like a friend of his maybe)might help.

Cut yourself some slack!!! You need a little pampering

yourself so give yourself permission to get away for

just 30 minutes and indulge whatever suits you. Be it

a bubble bath, a walk, a cup of tea, or a drink, it

doesn't matter, but you NEED to do this for your own

sanity. I remember what it is like to be the

caregiver, I honestly believe that the caregivers are

the true survivors of this disease.

So, here's a (((((((((HUG)))))))))), now go make that

phone call.

Hugs & prayers,

H

--- deb vamdembos debbied31@...> wrote:

> Ok this is it ,

> AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGG

>

> As most know mom has lung cancer , not colon but I

> need my family here to vent to.

> Mom's first chemo was Tuesday , she has been sick

> since Thursday , I mean sick , severe body pains,

> constipation for a day now severe diarrhea for 3

> days. nothing we seem to be doing is working , she

> is extremely weak , she looks like she has aged

> 20yrs in 3 days .

> I dont know what to do

> !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

> She lays in bed and cries with pain/ over all not

> feeling good. Mom doesnt cry from pain!

> When I asked her if there was ANYTHING I can do for

> her , she said she wanted dad , so I went downstairs

> to get him , he came up and I heard her saying to

> him that she was soooo sick (crying ) , to which he

> replied , I know your sick , but I cant keep running

> up and down the stairs for you to tell me that

> #$###@$ WHAT A

> JERK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

> maybe if he would sit upstairs with her she would

> feel a little better!! but no he would rather go

> downstairs where he cant hear

> her!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

> I realize this is hard on him , I really do , but it

> is sooooooooooooo much harder on her, the LEAST HE

> COULD DO is be there for her

> I need to get out of the house !!!!!!!!

> I thought I was going to the store today , but Joe

> decided to take his brother out for dinner for his

> birthday , so I am here, feeling USELESS , DONT know

> what to do anymore .

> Dad just left to go get mom some liquid imodum A.D

> to see if that helps with the Diarrhea.

> Something has to!! I told Dad if she isnt better in

> a few hours maybe we should take her to the hospital

> , I am seriously worried she is becoming dehyrdrated

>

>

> Sorry to vent but

>

AGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

>

> deb

>

>

> 33yrold husband Joe, was diagnosed with CC in Sept,

> resection on Sept 27th 2004

> found mets to the abdominal wall lining 3 lymph

> nodes involved

> open wound from infection until Jan 2005

> Ileostomy reversal Dec 7th 2004

> Chemo regiment begun Jan 2005

> 5fu/levorican/Oxaplatin/ Avastin added Feb 14 2005

> (Happy Valentines

> Calcium Magnesium added for the Tingles Feb 28 2005

> Ct Scan done March 23rd 2005 , 16 millimeter cyst

> like object on liver found

> April 1 2005 PET scan done awaiting results

> April 11 PET SCAN SHOWS

>

NED!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

> May 9 Plateletts are low 75,000

>

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