Deb please feel free to write me off board

[Guest guest]

I would very much like to help in whatever way I can. As you know my dear

Dad died of lung

cancer this past March.

Dad was Phil's biggest cheerleader in his fight against colon cancer and

Boom poor Dad wound up with LUNG cancer.

Everything you are feeling I have felt. EVERYTHING!! Including guilt at

having said to my Mom last summer:

Hey Mom quit griping about Dad at least he is here and HEALTHY

OUCH!!

And you all thought I was an angel huh?

Mom and I are only know at the point 6 months later where we can say

You know Dad was a pain in the neck but by God he was OUR pain in the neck!!

Try to be patient with them both. He is NOT angry at HER or wanting to avoid

HER

He's upset with this damned disease that is hurting them both and you of

course.

And like you he is mad that there is not a thing he can do to stop it!!!

He's Dad and hubby and he can't fix it. That just drives men NUTS!! Even

more than it does us!!

Give him a little space he'll bounce back. If your Mom doesn't improve

absolutely take her to the hospital, but call her Dr. first so she isn't waiting

forever when you get there.

And don't be afraid to get bright up in their face. That is what my Mom had

to do for Dad.

Damned ettiqutte this is her life.

If you need ANYTHING please write me. I'll send you my phone # in a private

e-mail

And I'll forward this to Monika whose Mom also has lung cancer.

Hang in there sweetie

Big Big Hugs and lots of prayers

Narice

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