Guest guest Posted July 15, 2001 Report Share Posted July 15, 2001 Sue Woollett wrote: > At the grand old age of 4, Steffi asked whether Santa is real. .........> > So, when did your children stop believing in Santa and the Tooth Fairy > (she's also got a couple of slightly wobbly teeth ATM) and were you > the one to break it to them?>>>>>>>>>>> Well, we still believe in the Tooth Fairy and last year still believed in Santa, (with the reasoning that he gives presents out because it is Jesus' birthday and everyone gets presents on that day) I would hate Jack (almost 8)to not believe as Isaac will only be 2 and still in total believe. However Jack is intelligent and will work it out, however my masterplan is to say that if you don't believe then you won't get presents. And I will then hope that he will carry on pretending to believe and life will carry on as normal. He is so spiteful to (6) at the moment that he would probably tell anyway! Did that make sense? Trisha SAHM to 3 boys Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 15, 2001 Report Share Posted July 15, 2001 Sue Woollett wrote: > At the grand old age of 4, Steffi asked whether Santa is real. .........> > So, when did your children stop believing in Santa and the Tooth Fairy > (she's also got a couple of slightly wobbly teeth ATM) and were you > the one to break it to them?>>>>>>>>>>> Well, we still believe in the Tooth Fairy and last year still believed in Santa, (with the reasoning that he gives presents out because it is Jesus' birthday and everyone gets presents on that day) I would hate Jack (almost 8)to not believe as Isaac will only be 2 and still in total believe. However Jack is intelligent and will work it out, however my masterplan is to say that if you don't believe then you won't get presents. And I will then hope that he will carry on pretending to believe and life will carry on as normal. He is so spiteful to (6) at the moment that he would probably tell anyway! Did that make sense? Trisha SAHM to 3 boys Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 15, 2001 Report Share Posted July 15, 2001 When they ask Qs about santa/tooth fairy I always turn the question round to try to see what their reasoning is. -maybe this is the ANT in me ;-)! I would never say yes or no - as I think it spoils the hint that he 'may' exist. We have neighbours with similar aged children - the parents were honest and told them the truth straight when about 4 or 5 (when the children asked). I always kept my fingers crossed when they played together around christmas that they wouldn`t say anything to my girls! Barbara > So, when did your children stop believing in Santa and the Tooth Fairy > (she's also got a couple of slightly wobbly teeth ATM) and were you > the one to break it to them? > Sue > Melbourne, Australia Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 15, 2001 Report Share Posted July 15, 2001 We never have been very overboard on the Santa thing for religious reasons but when Emma asked I told her the truth, I don't believe in lying. You can prevaricate with a " what do you think/what made you ask " but I think the disappointment is greater if its perpetuated a long time. I wanted to tell mine myself as I will never forget the boy next door telling me with a very scornful look that Santa wasn't real - I remember standing there feeling really shattered and saying pathetically " but what about the tooth fairy? " I had to warn Emma not to spoil it for the others and not to tell classmates because they might still want to believe in it. Lesley ANT, tr BFC, Mother, Wife, Friend, Mender of Broken Hearts, Keeper of Secrets, Chauffeur, Cook, Maid, Writer. Overweight, Over thirty, Over here in Worthing.. " Believing Oneself to be perfect is often the sign of a delusional mind! " Star Trek. Santa > This probably seems like an odd thing to talk about in July but here > goes.... > > At the grand old age of 4, Steffi asked whether Santa is real. > > We already go throug monsters aren't real, etc but I'm a bit > nonplussed on this one. First, I don't want to spoil it for her but > second, I don't want to spoil it for her friends if she goes around > saying he isn't. I still believe in the magic of Christmas (see my > other nostalgia post about winter weather) although I know for sure > Santa doesn't bring anything! > > We talk openly to her about most things - she has a hang up about > people dying at the moment - and this afternoon had a discussion about > how people have to die to make room for more people otherwise we > wouldn't have any room for furniture here and there'd be twenty people > living with us and sleeping on the floor and we wouldn't be able to > walk to the shop cos the streets would be too crowded. > > So, when did your children stop believing in Santa and the Tooth Fairy > (she's also got a couple of slightly wobbly teeth ATM) and were you > the one to break it to them? > > -- > Sue > Melbourne, Australia > > > *** NCT enquiry line - 0 *** > > Live chat http://www.yahoogroups.com/chat/nct-coffee > > Have you found out about all the other groups for the NCT online? > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 15, 2001 Report Share Posted July 15, 2001 We never have been very overboard on the Santa thing for religious reasons but when Emma asked I told her the truth, I don't believe in lying. You can prevaricate with a " what do you think/what made you ask " but I think the disappointment is greater if its perpetuated a long time. I wanted to tell mine myself as I will never forget the boy next door telling me with a very scornful look that Santa wasn't real - I remember standing there feeling really shattered and saying pathetically " but what about the tooth fairy? " I had to warn Emma not to spoil it for the others and not to tell classmates because they might still want to believe in it. Lesley ANT, tr BFC, Mother, Wife, Friend, Mender of Broken Hearts, Keeper of Secrets, Chauffeur, Cook, Maid, Writer. Overweight, Over thirty, Over here in Worthing.. " Believing Oneself to be perfect is often the sign of a delusional mind! " Star Trek. Santa > This probably seems like an odd thing to talk about in July but here > goes.... > > At the grand old age of 4, Steffi asked whether Santa is real. > > We already go throug monsters aren't real, etc but I'm a bit > nonplussed on this one. First, I don't want to spoil it for her but > second, I don't want to spoil it for her friends if she goes around > saying he isn't. I still believe in the magic of Christmas (see my > other nostalgia post about winter weather) although I know for sure > Santa doesn't bring anything! > > We talk openly to her about most things - she has a hang up about > people dying at the moment - and this afternoon had a discussion about > how people have to die to make room for more people otherwise we > wouldn't have any room for furniture here and there'd be twenty people > living with us and sleeping on the floor and we wouldn't be able to > walk to the shop cos the streets would be too crowded. > > So, when did your children stop believing in Santa and the Tooth Fairy > (she's also got a couple of slightly wobbly teeth ATM) and were you > the one to break it to them? > > -- > Sue > Melbourne, Australia > > > *** NCT enquiry line - 0 *** > > Live chat http://www.yahoogroups.com/chat/nct-coffee > > Have you found out about all the other groups for the NCT online? > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 15, 2001 Report Share Posted July 15, 2001 I remember being told that father Christmas was real in the way that he was a sign of how we all should be good and kind to each other. But that FC in himself was not " real " he just represented something that was real... I was about 6 years old I think.. Lonnie Phoebe & Eloisa's mama & expecting a Christmas delivery... My therapist told me the way to achieve true inner peace is to finish what you start. So far today, I have finished 2 bags of chips and a Chocolate cake. I feel better already. Santa > This probably seems like an odd thing to talk about in July but here > goes.... > > At the grand old age of 4, Steffi asked whether Santa is real. > > We already go throug monsters aren't real, etc but I'm a bit > nonplussed on this one. First, I don't want to spoil it for her but > second, I don't want to spoil it for her friends if she goes around > saying he isn't. I still believe in the magic of Christmas (see my > other nostalgia post about winter weather) although I know for sure > Santa doesn't bring anything! > > We talk openly to her about most things - she has a hang up about > people dying at the moment - and this afternoon had a discussion about > how people have to die to make room for more people otherwise we > wouldn't have any room for furniture here and there'd be twenty people > living with us and sleeping on the floor and we wouldn't be able to > walk to the shop cos the streets would be too crowded. > > So, when did your children stop believing in Santa and the Tooth Fairy > (she's also got a couple of slightly wobbly teeth ATM) and were you > the one to break it to them? > > -- > Sue > Melbourne, Australia > > > *** NCT enquiry line - 0 *** > > Live chat http://www.yahoogroups.com/chat/nct-coffee > > Have you found out about all the other groups for the NCT online? > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 15, 2001 Report Share Posted July 15, 2001 I was always a bit cross with my mum and dad as they never bothered to pretend about santa. Perhaps they didn't because of older siblings (brother 10 years older, sister 9 years older) and they thought they would ruin the fun for me? Or maybe they couldn't be bothered to get up on christmas night and dress up. I do wonder what I'll say to Tabby when she is older. I definitely don't want to ruin it for other children but i am not sure I could convincingly lie! laura ---------- > > > So, when did your children stop believing in Santa and the Tooth > Fairy >> (she's also got a couple of slightly wobbly teeth ATM) and were you >> the one to break it to them? > > Sue >> Melbourne, Australia > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 15, 2001 Report Share Posted July 15, 2001 I was always a bit cross with my mum and dad as they never bothered to pretend about santa. Perhaps they didn't because of older siblings (brother 10 years older, sister 9 years older) and they thought they would ruin the fun for me? Or maybe they couldn't be bothered to get up on christmas night and dress up. I do wonder what I'll say to Tabby when she is older. I definitely don't want to ruin it for other children but i am not sure I could convincingly lie! laura ---------- > > > So, when did your children stop believing in Santa and the Tooth > Fairy >> (she's also got a couple of slightly wobbly teeth ATM) and were you >> the one to break it to them? > > Sue >> Melbourne, Australia > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 16, 2001 Report Share Posted July 16, 2001 > This probably seems like an odd thing to talk about in July but here > goes.... > > At the grand old age of 4, Steffi asked whether Santa is real.<< Well its really strange here, but all my kids still believe in Santa and my eldest is 10 1/2. We are now in a quandry as to whether to actually tell him as we are worried he will start to be ridiculed, but really don't want to burst his bubble. I suppose if he hasn't guessed by the time he starts secondary school (another year yet) then we will have to tell him. DD is nearly 9 and she is just starting to click I think, but is still trying to convince herself there is such a thing. They all totally believe in the tooth fairy. This is partly my fault as my daughter started writing letters to " her " and I decided to reply in minute handwriting. Now the boys leave letters too - oh dear, what have I set myself up for! I think this is such a magical time for them (childhood is so so short) that I really don't want them learning the harsh realities too soon. And to tell them too early means that yes, they do tell everybody else (this happened with a neighbour of mine who decided to tell her daughter (age 6!) that there was no such thing as Santa, even though said daughter still totally believed. So of course she then went around telling everybody else, who thankfully didn't believe her. I always have a real regret that my older sister told me when I was 4 that there was no such thing and I missed out on all those magical Christmas times. Lorraine Mum to 10, Natasha 8, 5, ph 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 16, 2001 Report Share Posted July 16, 2001 > This probably seems like an odd thing to talk about in July but here > goes.... > > At the grand old age of 4, Steffi asked whether Santa is real.<< Well its really strange here, but all my kids still believe in Santa and my eldest is 10 1/2. We are now in a quandry as to whether to actually tell him as we are worried he will start to be ridiculed, but really don't want to burst his bubble. I suppose if he hasn't guessed by the time he starts secondary school (another year yet) then we will have to tell him. DD is nearly 9 and she is just starting to click I think, but is still trying to convince herself there is such a thing. They all totally believe in the tooth fairy. This is partly my fault as my daughter started writing letters to " her " and I decided to reply in minute handwriting. Now the boys leave letters too - oh dear, what have I set myself up for! I think this is such a magical time for them (childhood is so so short) that I really don't want them learning the harsh realities too soon. And to tell them too early means that yes, they do tell everybody else (this happened with a neighbour of mine who decided to tell her daughter (age 6!) that there was no such thing as Santa, even though said daughter still totally believed. So of course she then went around telling everybody else, who thankfully didn't believe her. I always have a real regret that my older sister told me when I was 4 that there was no such thing and I missed out on all those magical Christmas times. Lorraine Mum to 10, Natasha 8, 5, ph 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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